We have a 4 month old baby girl. I am currently on maternity leave and we have both decided that I will be a sahm whilst she is little.
I am ebf so my husband can't help out with the nightfeeds at all which is fine. I also think it's fair that, because he works, I get up with our daughter so he can lie in a little and she is up really early.
This is fair enough but I literally do everything. Baby is still waking up frequently throughout the night and doesn't nap well in the day so I am constantly exhausted. I play with her all day,
which I love of course but my god it is tiring. I change the majority of her nappies, bath her, try and do all the housework all myself. DH will take her if I ask but other than that he generally let's me get on with it. I have tried telling him how exhausted I am and I once asked if he would get up with her so I could have a lie in. He said yes but didn't do it and said it was his day off
I never get a day off. He says he wants to help me but doesn't-only I specifically ask for something.
I have zero time for myself. Ever. On his days off he trains for hours then has a bath then is tired from training and complains. Not a thought to how exhausted I am having not slept properly in 4 months and constantly looking after our baby. Don't get me wrong, he really is a lovely husband and father to our baby-he adores us both but I am starting to feel resentful. Seems he is thinking about his own needs a little too much.
Is this how it should be? If I am staying at home is it fair to expect that I do the very large majority of childcare and housework or should I ask him to do more?