To ask why people keep going back to an ex?

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Even if it’s quite obviously detrimental to their life/mental health.

It seems as if the person involved is blinkered and just can’t see the light.. but why?

People don't like being single.
Returning to an ex is easier than starting out trying to find someone else from scratch.
Rose-coloured glasses mean they forget why it didn't work last time or minimise the problems.

Sunken cost fallacy

Sounds like coy way to start a judgey post OP.

If you are interested, I suggest you do a quick google search rather than start a thread for victim blaming.

Better the devil you know

Look yourself on many of the websites available on domestic violence. They give plenty of resources.

Because they still like them?

Who’s blaming the victim @CatsGoPurrrr DF just got back with partner for the umpteenth time in the last decade, she’s still bloody married. He’s now surprised I’m not ‘happy’ for him.

Wondering how people have the ability to wedge their claws into someone who is in all other scenarios.. intelligent and well rounded person.

@DisgruntledPelican yeah I suppose that’s my question, why do they ‘like’ them when it’s clear to all others to be toxic?

Well thinking about a friend of mine.....because she thought she couldn’t get anyone better. Her self esteem was low, she is very overweight etc. He has been as absolute shit to her over the years. Has depression but won’t do anything about it and she runs around like a blue arse fly trying to keep him happy.