DM told everyone I'm pregnant

[PurpleEllie]

I made the mistake of telling my "D"M I'm pregnant. Its very early stages. She then told everyone in my extended family, even those who I have no contact with, and I've been inundated with phone calls all weekend. Some of them have been nice, but most have been unpleasant, as we didn't tell people DH had a vasectomy reversal, and now people are gossiping I must have cheated. She even rang her abusive ex husband and told him, and even worse gave him my number so he could ring and congratulate me, so I had a horrible phone call from him. She's really upset that I'm mad and says I'm robbing her of her right to being a grandmother. She had 7 other grand kids ffs, she never even told me about them until after they were born. AIBU for being absolutely furious with her and wanting to go NC?

OK, one more bossy post - I thought of this earlier - another reason to go LC not NC is that you’ve already seen that she will tell other people...which means you’ll not just have her trying to contact you, but all the hellish ex/relatives giving you grief.

I’d also suggest telling your midwife etc, as pg is a very common time for this shit to become a serious problem. No idea if it’s because you are less able to reign in your own emotions, or the mother taking control of the pregnancy/baby etc, maybe both, but it triggers all sorts.

They would not be surprised, and can help you keep a check on your mental health.
Take care.

Ffs @PopsicleHustler at least read the OPs posts properly - he had a vasectomy with HIS EX, NOT the OP. The EX told people it couldn't be his. She shared that "private" news.
Really fucking fed up of people who can't even comprehend a simple set of facts laid out in the OP posts (which can be highlighted on the thread).

Your first words say it all. It’s always a mistake to tell anyone anything you’re not prepared to be public knowledge. Really sorry you’re going through this. 💐

I dont get this "grandmothers rights" by, its the parents rights to tell who they want wheb they want. Its common decency to not tell others when someone is early stages anyway but she doesn't have the right to tell your family, a neighbour or friend ok but not your family. Shes taken away your right to tell.
She sounds toxic anyway, do you really want her having anything to do with your baby, esp if she's still around other abusive people. Your husband has already said he doesn't want anything more to do with her and he knows the situation more than anyone here.

Please dont call the police on me

I have read the full thread since @Candyflosscookie