to be peeved that Ive just joined facebook and a member of DPs family is on there with dozens of pics of our kids on their profile?

[kitsandbits]

Without us knowing at all or them asking me if its ok???

[totalyfreaky]

I'd be livid, ask them to remove them, now!!

[Fireflyfairy2]

Did they add you as a friend?

Maybe they think they've done nothing wrong.

I would just ask them to remove them as you don't feel comfortable with your childrens' images being on the net.

[MerlinsBeard]

if you didn't tell them not to put pictures upm how were they to know? i have to tell peoeple so there is no misunderstanding.
there are also privacy settings so only their friends can see

[Alambil]

I asked my sister to take hers down - she just didn't think...

Are they parents?

I find non-parent people don't seem to comprehend the dangers etc as quickly as parents do

[kitsandbits]

Well I don't know about facebook - I only just joined, so I dont know how it works regarding privacy settings ect.

So I havent a clue who can see them.

[morningpaper]

Why does it matter? Only their friends can see them.

All this talk about "the dangers" is nonsense. What exactly ARE the dangers?

[morningpaper]

I would just be really pleased that their aunt/uncle/whatever loved my children so much that they would bother uploading pics to proudly show their friends.

[Fireflyfairy2]

I have pics of my children on my facebook. Only my friends can see them though so am not bothered.

[my2weegirls]

this happened to me - so i asked my niece to remove them - which she did. but then i realised that i've probably got double standards as i've got photo's on here that anyone can see....

[pneumalifenewname]

Was just about to say "what are the dangers?" but MP did it already.

I presume they also wear balaclavas when out with you?

[margoandjerry]

what dangers?

Surely the main danger is that no one will look at the pictures because they are not really interested in other people's children?

[mustsleep]

anyone can look at them if thy do a search and say someone searched his school of his place of work and his pic came up they can look at his profile and then look at his pics you don't need as password or permission

he prob doesnt think you will mind just let him know that you do and that you don't want their pics on there any more

[mustsleep]

or in fact if you just put your town name in it just brings up a random collection of other people who live there who's profiles etc you can view

[MerlinsBeard]

mustsleep, it depends on privacy settings. i fi have pictures on, only my friends can see them for eg

[mustsleep]

i donlt think there are any dangers but he should have asked first - you canlt even take photos at school plays now without getting the parent's permission

[mustsleep]

really i have searched lots of people and you seem to be able to view most people's if she has searched for him and found her kid's pics then he mustnlt have his settings set the same as yours

[kitsandbits]

I think I'm just pissed off I wasn't asked TBH.

Ive had pics of my boys on here, so Im not thinking 'omg who will see these pics'

Its more 'those are my kids, not yours, you dont have the right to put pictures of them on the internet without asking me'

She doesnt know my views on it, and I could be completely against it for all she knows but she didn't ask ... just did.

Thats whats upset me.

There also photos of my nephew too .. .and her mum doesnt have web access - so she wont know about those either.

[MerlinsBeard]

you do have to change your settings as the default is that all networks and all friends can see it

the photos in schools thing isn't true here either. (I must have a good school )

[TheStepfordChav]

It may be hard to put pin down any 'dangers', but I would feel uncomfortable about this too. Posting pics of someone else's children, w/o bothering to ask the parents? Out of order.

[mm22bys]

A friend put a photo of DS1 on her page, and named him (without asking me). I just asked her change his name.

I didn't really mind it was up there, there must be THOUSANDS, if not millions of photos on Facebook.

Who can actually see the photos depends on privacy settings. The options range from EVERYONE, to just your friends.

I was a bit annoyed when friend had photo of DS1 on her site, but I have got over it now, it really is no big deal....

[mm22bys]

Of course though the parent should be asked....even if it's not a big deal that the photos are on there....

[Alambil]

well, for me; the dangers are that my ex will see the photo of ds in his uniform and find us... that is a very real and very scary prospect

I know that is not applicable to everyone but common courtesy would suggest you ask to publish someone else's photo on a website!

[morningpaper]

I really don't see what the problem is

I wouldn't think twice about putting pictures up of my friends or their children

I would just be really proud if other people thought my children were cute enough to bother uploading!

[kitsandbits]

The problem is she didn't ask !

[pneumalifenewname]

she maybe thought you'd be delighted rather than annoyed that she didn't ask. friend hugs you, you say oi gerroff - ask me first............

friend buys you chocs, you say excuse me but you didn't ask if i wanted these......

see?