Why is this?

[spottybitch]

I read many threads where op asks for experiences of others and thread is a long list of experiences posted and everybody ignores experiences or others or it's a discussion thread and again everybody posts their own view and ignores the others unless it's aibu and there's the chance for a bunfight

Is nobody on MN interested in anybody else? It seems like people want to have their say and not have interest in others

Well that proved my point perfectly.

@spottybitch

I read many threads where op asks for experiences of others and thread is a long list of experiences posted and everybody ignores experiences or others or it's a discussion thread and again everybody posts their own view and ignores the others unless it's aibu and there's the chance for a bunfight

Is nobody on MN interested in anybody else? It seems like people want to have their say and not have interest in others

Because people are replying to the ops request, they arent reading other peoples replies because they're just there to do what's asked?

@spottybitch

I read many threads where op asks for experiences of others and thread is a long list of experiences posted and everybody ignores experiences or others or it's a discussion thread and again everybody posts their own view and ignores the others unless it's aibu and there's the chance for a bunfight

Is nobody on MN interested in anybody else? It seems like people want to have their say and not have interest in others

I have no idea what you're talking about! The whole post doesn't make sense to me, and I've read it a few times to try make sense of it.

@Eistigi

[quote spottybitch]
I read many threads where op asks for experiences of others and thread is a long list of experiences posted and everybody ignores experiences or others or it's a discussion thread and again everybody posts their own view and ignores the others unless it's aibu and there's the chance for a bunfight

Is nobody on MN interested in anybody else? It seems like people want to have their say and not have interest in others

I have no idea what you're talking about!
The whole post doesn't make sense to me, and I've read it a few times to try make sense of it.[/quote]
Yeah it is a bit of a confusing post.

It would make more sense if it was talking about threads asking for a discussion not threads specifically asking for experiences.

What proves your point? I have no idea what you’re talking about?

It would make more sense if it was talking about threads asking for a discussion not threads specifically asking for experiences.

This was in my OP:

or others or it's a discussion thread and again everybody posts their own view

So, people post experiences because they’ve been asked to post experiences... not seeing the problem.

Of course people are interested in other people. This isn’t the medium for it though.
In my experience of forums, you start off just posting your own stuff, and the interaction is minimal. Then, you start to recognise posters, and look out for the ones who make you laugh, or have a similar issue or point of view... the interaction gets more conversational and personal and then - you’ve made a friend. But that takes time and - in my opinion - a smaller board than AIBU.

I just came off a thread where someone says they bought a second oil tank and did the poster know how cheap oil was right now? And a reply back and forth about price... there are lots of mini conversations like that.

I think that you’re not noticing those AND having an unrealistic expectation of the medium.

Your follow up post is a little abrasive - a would have made all the difference to it. People are more likely to engage with you online if you seem to have a sense of humour rather than aggression.

@Scweltish

What proves your point? I have no idea what you’re talking about?

That nobody replied.

Can someone decipher? I have got a massive hangover, but I’ve read it 3 times not and I’m getting nowhere. Maybe I’m still drunk.

Thanks @Elsewyre

I have no idea what you're talking about!
The whole post doesn't make sense to me, and I've read it a few times to try make sense of it.

I'm glad it's not just me!

OP, are you complaining that you don't get enough mini conversations in a thread?

I do think @spottybitch is on a different MN to me though, as I see quite a lot of interaction between posters on threads 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Scweltish I think OP means things like you mention your hangover, but then other people just post their replies in a vacuum to that. I think she means we don’t show interest in others. So... how come you were drunk last night? . (and possibly this morning?!)

I think you are on the wrong site if you don't want to read people's experiences and opinions

When you look at how often the quote function is used, or an old style bolded quote, you’ll notice the interaction.

Quite often il scan through the OP’s posts and reply before reading other people’s, so it may not seem that I’ve taken anyone else’s words on board when I first post. There’s not point me replying on page 6 of a thread to a comment I read and agreed with on page 3, as the conversation has moved on, so often I just put in my own two penneth and then read the rest. It also stops you from being influenced in your opinion in the first instance. Then if someone else’s post makes you think twice you can contribute again.

I really don’t see the problem you describe.

MN is a lot busier than most averages forums but the expectation isn’t really for chats in the traditional sense. Forums are more like commentary I suppose.

If your statement doesn’t particularly inspire anyone to comment directly that’s fine. Plenty of people just read through threads without commenting once, members and none members.

I agree it would be nice to feel like your not just talking into the nothingness sometimes but I also know that ‘like’ buttons for posts have been largely decided against by the MN community consistently over the years.

I totally understand what you mean, OP. I think you get so used to most people not responding to your posts, even though you try and acknowledge others’ posts, that you sort of give up and just answer the OP and not bother acknowledging many others.

The other thing is many posters only acknowledge posters that they perceive to be long standing members of MN. Unfortunately MN is not immune to popularity contests.

I don't find that, at all - the opposite is more common.

Other websites are available if this one doesn't suit you 🤷🏻‍♀️

@MJMG2015 what a spectacularly unhelpful response 🤦🏻‍♀️

It's hard to have a discussion when the board moves so fast, though, OP. As a pp said, you may agree with a post on page 3, but if you haven't come to the thread until page 7 is up, there's little point in replying. And a lot of threads depend on differing experiences of things, not everyone piling in saying 'yes, I agree'.

Are you drunk, OP?

If I wanted a discussion I would post in Chat, Feminist or Philosphy boards. People can then have a discussion and read posts apart from the op. If I want advice I will read all the posts and reply but don't expect posters to necessarily interact with each other. If I post and no one replies I assume they are not interested or can't help.

@Zaphodsotherhead

It's hard to have a discussion when the board moves so fast, though, OP. As a pp said, you may agree with a post on page 3, but if you haven't come to the thread until page 7 is up, there's little point in replying. And a lot of threads depend on differing experiences of things, not everyone piling in saying 'yes, I agree'.

This is why I think we need a 'like' button but MNHQ keeps saying they'll revisit the idea periodically.

I think each time the subject comes up though, more people are in favour of the idea for this reason.

I mean to acknowledge a post you agree with 3 pages back.

I would guess noone replied in the first instance because you posted a vague title that did not pique interest in anyone browsing active conversations. If you had enabled voting I could have just clicked to indicate my thoughts. I am interested in others, but can't say this is the most riveting thing I've read recently.