To think she keeps getting pregnant on purpose?

[Opalwindfury]

So I’ve got BIL’s wife (we’ll call her Sam) who seems to get pregnant every time any of us gets pregnant and it’s starting to look A little strange. When SIL got pregnant first Sam was livid saying SIL did it on purpose to “steal the spotlight” from her and then proceeded to announce her pregnancy 2 months later.
Another BIL’s (youngest BIL) wife got pregnant about a year later (Sam was upset and claimed it was to sabotage the attention her child was getting 😬) then proceeded to announced her pregnancy a couple months later. About 2 years later I got pregnant with my first and 4 months later she announced she was as well fair enough. Then about 4 years with no babies and the youngest SIL got married and got pregnant straight away and boom 3 months later SIL is pregnant! I’m now pregnant about 6 months after she’s had hers and she’s announced again (A month after we announced) that she’s pregnant are we being silly to think that she’s doing this on purpose? Or is she just fertile myrtle? And we’re all silly?

I have a family member that does this. They announced they were pregnant when family met my baby 🙃

It's not absurd. And yes for her it was a type of munchhousen she enjoyed being ill, needing her husband and children to care for her, be bed ridden or incapacitated. If she wasn't pregnant she fainted some type of illness or infirmity, made up all sorts of lies. I didn't say most people who have a million children have munchhousen. Just in this woman's case she was addicted to the incapacity and attention. She definitely didn't care for any of the children once they were born.

You can call her Sam if you want. We don't need to call her anything.

You are seriously deluded if you think someone would have 5 children in response to others announcing their pregnancies. As others have said, what about your BIL's input? If she really did get pregnant on 5 occasions, to spite others or whatever, would he be stupid enough to go along with it. It's a bit of a costly, labour-intensive choice if it's just a pastime.

If she's pregnant again with a 6-month old then I'd guess she is just very fertile.

But what’s she like as a mother?

Surely if doing it for the spotlight she’d get bored!

I’m guessing you don’t get on with her?!

She’s had 3 children and expecting a 4th... hardly loads. Average spaces between Them.

I think you’re pissed off the “shine” has been taken off your broadcast!

anyone else read these threads

The family drama, family members getting pissed off With each other about pregnancy announcements, thinking other family members are jealous Of them, doing things out of spite etc

And think WTAF. Adults adult live like this?!

I think it can be common in families, my mum is one of four and dad one of four, altogether there were 12 kids in four years!

Oh my sister thought this about me cried to dm ‘it’s my turn now SHE needs to stop’ and various other things about how she needed to have the youngest child in the family 🤷‍♀️
Don’t think she realised that when she had her first I’d been trying for 4 years struggling with secondary infertility and just by change got pregnant a few months after her it wasn’t intentional she just took it to be that way

I can easily believe it. In fact, had my sister's circumstances been different I'm quite sure she'd have announced a pregnancy soon after me, despite having been married for 25 years and never wanting them up to that point. She's always hated me having something she hasn't got / doing something before her and I'm sure my having a child must jar.

How exhausting.

Probably just a coincidence

For all you know shes always wanted five kids (or how many she's got) but it could have taken them time to fall pregnant in between and it just happens to coincide with other people

For everyone who is pregnant when she is there will be relatives who are not!

Goodness knows how she finds the energy for sex with 5 or 6 kids in close proximity. I would just want sleep.

If this was happening in my family I would be pleased for them.

If BIL doesn’t want more he needs to visit the doctor.

You're waaaay too over-involved in their business. Your BIL was thinking of leaving and your DH talked him out of it because you think it's better that the children don't come from a broken home?

There's a very easy solution for your BIL if he doesn't want any more children, it involves a 15 minute minor surgical procedure that he can probably get done at his GP surgery.

As for you - Keep your beak out.

Have you ever asked her why on earth SHE thinks there is a spotlight to steal? She sounds bonkers.

@LiveFromHome

You're waaaay too over-involved in their business. Your BIL was thinking of leaving and your DH talked him out of it because you think it's better that the children don't come from a broken home?

There's a very easy solution for your BIL if he doesn't want any more children, it involves a 15 minute minor surgical procedure that he can probably get done at his GP surgery.

As for you - Keep your beak out.

“I” never thought anything, I fully supported his decision to leave my DH however did not because of the kids therefore talked him out of it.

@D4rwin

Have you ever asked her why on earth SHE thinks there is a spotlight to steal? She sounds bonkers.

Per my in-laws tradition when you’ve given birth it’s a huge deal! MIL comes to stay with your for a bit to help out bless her and family members will take it in turn to come over cook/clean for the first 40 days. You and your baby are fawned upon to no end and MIL has thrown a party for each of her grandchildren so pretty much the attention is on you for a good while I’m guessing this is what she Craves it’s not like they don’t bother about you after the baby they just put such an emphasis on helping every new mom cope.

@Opalwindfury

I’m not thinking it’s to spite us at all but it’s a little strange especially since someone mentioned BIL he was upset she’s got pregnant with the 4th as she swore she was on the pill and he found out she’d been tracking ovulation behind his back claiming she was on Birth control he even threatened to leave her my husband and his brother had to actually talk him out of it.

Wow on here lying and deceiving a partner to make them pregnant would be 100% ltb.

Not pursuading them to stay

@habibihabibi

fahrt 9 kids! Are they Amish ?

😆 no, but she is a DM journalist's wet dream.

Tbh op. I’d just let it go - and ignore
Not your life. Not your choice
She ( and bil presumably) are the ones who who has to feed and clothe all these kids

You have and enjoy however many babies you have

* pretty much the attention is on you for a good while I’m guessing this is what she Craves*

And you