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Wanting to park on my drive?

91 replies

Lifeispassingby · 28/09/2020 17:09

Friday I came home approx an hour early, followed a car in and it parked on my drive ( a shared parking area behind our house in front of garages, with a few houses facing on to it- our drive runs along the back of 3 houses) behind another car already parked there. I wound my window and politely said to the woman getting out ‘that’s my drive there’ she explained she was visiting one of the other houses as her uncle is ill and she had picked up some prescriptions etc for him and the nurse was visiting who had also worked there. I said I didn’t mind and would park up the road and move it down when she had finished- under the circumstances that seemed fair enough. Today I have come home and she is parked there again, and has been since I got home about 2pm. She has been at the front of her uncles house with him putting up a key box etc. AIBU to think she doesn’t really need to be parked there?

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Lifeispassingby · 28/09/2020 17:10

Sorry realised I’d posed 2 Qs! So AIBU to want to park on my own drive?

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VictoriaBun · 28/09/2020 17:12

No excuses . Knock and say you want to put your car on your drive.

Hoppinggreen · 28/09/2020 17:13

Well the uncle may be ill but unless she is she can park elsewhere and walk

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 28/09/2020 17:13

No, YANBU. I wouldn’t have said it was fine the first time though.

Scweltish · 28/09/2020 17:14

Of course you aren’t bu to want to park on your own drive. I’d knock and say you didn’t mind as a one off, but you don’t want her parking there again and she needs to move her car immediately.
I’d be tempted to go the petty route and block her in if you can. Then conveniently fail to hear her knocking the door when she needs you to move your car

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 28/09/2020 17:14

I think I need a diagram though to fully understand the layout. Wink

NancyBotwinBloom · 28/09/2020 17:14

Can you block her in?

Proudling · 28/09/2020 17:15

Speak up fgs! Tell her to shift.

roastbeetrootsalad · 28/09/2020 17:15

YABU for doing a parking thread with no diagram

YANBU for wanting to park on your drive.

SBTLove · 28/09/2020 17:15

Diagram 👀👀👀👀

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 28/09/2020 17:16

What @Scweltish said

Pumpkinnose · 28/09/2020 17:16

Do you have a right of way over the area she parked on? Or was she on your actual drive just owned by you?

HarryElephante · 28/09/2020 17:16

Love the community spirit.

Thisisnotnormal69 · 28/09/2020 17:17

Cannot comment without diagram

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 28/09/2020 17:19

Go tell her to move and stop parking there!

Bluetonic41 · 28/09/2020 17:20

Yabvvu for letting her stay there in the first place! Opened the floodgates, you need to be firm now

Laaalaaaa · 28/09/2020 17:20

Any room to block her in or to block the house she’s visitings space?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 28/09/2020 17:20

Well the uncle may be ill but unless she is she can park elsewhere and walk

Yes. Also, the number of people who think they're justified in using a disabled family member's blue badge to park nearer or in a disabled bay when doing errands for them, or with the BB holder in the car but never leaving the car for the whole journey.

Her decision to put herself out to do a vulnerable person a favour doesn't earn her the right to expect a stranger to put themselves out by being forced to forfeit the use of their own property.

roastbeetrootsalad · 28/09/2020 17:22

Although having re-read the op.. a shared parking area? So it's not specifically yours, it's shared with the house she was visiting? In which case, it's annoying but you may be being unreasonable as the other house can vibe permission for visitors to park there I would think.

roastbeetrootsalad · 28/09/2020 17:24

A diagram may help clear it up! Grin

iklboo · 28/09/2020 17:31

Love the community spirit.

What's community spirited about parking in someone else's drive for 3.5 hours?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 28/09/2020 17:36

Yes, we definitely need a diagram!

LoudBatPerson · 28/09/2020 17:38

As you said drive I am assuming you have a dropped kerb. If so she shouldn't be parking there at all. First action would be to speak to her and tell her she cannot park there anymore, explain a one off was ok but you need regular access to your drive.

If that didn't work I would report her when parked (assuming you have your dropped kerb registered (if this is a thing everywhere?). In my local authority you can register and have white lines painted along your dropped kerb and if anyone parks there they will be ticketed if you call up the enforcement line .

However if don't have a dropped kerb and just drive over the pavement to park in your front garden, then nothing you can do as it isn't a proper driveway.

LoudBatPerson · 28/09/2020 17:39

I have just reread and see you said on your drive, not over it.

In that case you need to just knock and have a word. Is the drive on your deeds?

thelikelylass · 28/09/2020 17:45

if she's putting a key safe in, it's possible he may be getting carers daily in which case you will be battling with people every day. Best to make it stop now.