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AIBU?

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Wanting to park on my drive?

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Lifeispassingby · 28/09/2020 17:09

Friday I came home approx an hour early, followed a car in and it parked on my drive ( a shared parking area behind our house in front of garages, with a few houses facing on to it- our drive runs along the back of 3 houses) behind another car already parked there. I wound my window and politely said to the woman getting out ‘that’s my drive there’ she explained she was visiting one of the other houses as her uncle is ill and she had picked up some prescriptions etc for him and the nurse was visiting who had also worked there. I said I didn’t mind and would park up the road and move it down when she had finished- under the circumstances that seemed fair enough. Today I have come home and she is parked there again, and has been since I got home about 2pm. She has been at the front of her uncles house with him putting up a key box etc. AIBU to think she doesn’t really need to be parked there?

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IseeIsee · 28/09/2020 17:49

If it was your driveway that you are the legal owner of then you wouldn't mention shared driveway so another one who needs a diagram.

ferretface · 28/09/2020 17:54

Is it a shared parking area or a private drive that is on your property?

If the former, YABU and shared parking is first come first served
If the latter, YANBU and tell her to move the car, no more parking

Meredusoleil · 28/09/2020 18:44

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

No, YANBU. I wouldn’t have said it was fine the first time though.

Exactly this!

lazylump72 · 28/09/2020 18:51

OP Put a stop to it now or it will become a habit of hers to park there everytime. Then you will get well you didnt mind last week why the change? and then you find yourself trying to justify why you want to park in your spot and it ends up with her doing you a favour by moving it...do it now ...

Havaiana · 28/09/2020 19:01

Yep nip it in the bud.

ilovemyrednosedaymug · 28/09/2020 19:01

OP, you need to put a stop to it now. Say that you said yes the other day because you thought she was just popping in with the prescriptions, but that you need your drive on a daily basis and that is is private property and she has no right to park on it.

Whammyyammy · 28/09/2020 19:09

YABVU for lack of diagram. Until a diagram is posted, she has everyones permission to use your drive

Sexnotgender · 28/09/2020 19:11

Does the driveway belong to the house she was visiting too?

MaverickDanger · 28/09/2020 19:13

YABU for moving your car the first time. Can you block her in?

Bluemooninmyeyes1 · 28/09/2020 19:31

I’d be fuming if someone did this to me. Tell her to move her car ASAP!

2bazookas · 28/09/2020 19:48

Block her car in with yours. When she comes to the door to ask you to move, tell her she is not to use your drive again.

toiletpaper · 28/09/2020 20:07

So it's a drive and shared parking at the same time? I'm a bit lost. Definitely needs a diagram!

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Lifeispassingby · 28/09/2020 21:26

So sorry for the confusion!! There are 3 driveways/allocated parking in front of garages in a row. It’s at the back of our house, then another neighbours and then her uncles. His car is parked on his drive in front of his garage so she can’t park on his. Our drive runs along our back fence the width of the plot. she doesn’t park far enough on it to be able to block her in and she moved it about 5:30 when I assume she thought we would be home (I am finishing early at the mo due to covid reduced hours) on to the other neighbours drive (on the other side of her uncles). To those who said I shouldn’t have agreed first time, I felt as she appeared rushed and flustered having prescriptions for her uncle and the fact the nurse was visiting I was just trying to be helpful to her

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StoneofDestiny · 28/09/2020 21:34

Tell her not to do it again, that you need full and regular access onto your own drive. She needs to walk from a legitimate parking area and not inconvenience you. I’d not want to have to keep re parking my car after work because someone is so ignorant.

SBTLove · 28/09/2020 22:02

@Lifeispassingby
Diagram is still required for a parking thread.

monkeymonkey2010 · 28/09/2020 22:36

she moved it about 5:30 when I assume she thought we would be home (I am finishing early at the mo due to covid reduced hours) on to the other neighbours drive
i bet she's been parking on your drive regularly and wasn't expecting you to be home early - hence being all 'flustered'.

mineofuselessinformation · 28/09/2020 22:43

Is her uncle's drive next to yours?
If so, park across the back of both cars.
She won't be able to leave unless she's knocked at your door, when you should tell her not to park there again.

msbevvy · 29/09/2020 03:48

If you encounter her again maybe suggest she puts her sick uncle's car in his garage for him leaving his drive free for his visitors.

Monty27 · 29/09/2020 03:54

No. Wouldn't have it. Clearly you will be inconvenienced and her parking is her problem. It doesn't sound like a life and death matter.

seayork2020 · 29/09/2020 04:05

@ferretface

Is it a shared parking area or a private drive that is on your property?

If the former, YABU and shared parking is first come first served
If the latter, YANBU and tell her to move the car, no more parking

Yes this is what I think, public is one thing private another

forrestgreen · 29/09/2020 04:27

Put a note on next time to say please dont park on my property. Then after that just block her in.

BessieSurtees · 29/09/2020 04:34

So she parks in front of your garage and you can’t get in, just tell her she must leave your drive free, leave her a note, nip it in the bud. She has got in the habit of using your drive and moving her car before you come home.

EFLabroad · 29/09/2020 05:09

If she's right there in front of the house, just say to her to move the car, you can't get on the driveway. Why on earth would you think you would be unreasonable to do this?

Florencex · 29/09/2020 05:46

I could not make head nor tail of the parking situation. It is your drive, but a shared drive, your drive runs along the back of three houses (?), you told someone you didn’t mind them parking on your drive or the shared drive or whatever it is...?

CaptainAthena · 29/09/2020 05:51

YABVVVVVU to not have posted a diagram, it's actually the law

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