Wanting to park on my drive?

[Lifeispassingby]

Friday I came home approx an hour early, followed a car in and it parked on my drive ( a shared parking area behind our house in front of garages, with a few houses facing on to it- our drive runs along the back of 3 houses) behind another car already parked there. I wound my window and politely said to the woman getting out ‘that’s my drive there’ she explained she was visiting one of the other houses as her uncle is ill and she had picked up some prescriptions etc for him and the nurse was visiting who had also worked there. I said I didn’t mind and would park up the road and move it down when she had finished- under the circumstances that seemed fair enough. Today I have come home and she is parked there again, and has been since I got home about 2pm. She has been at the front of her uncles house with him putting up a key box etc. AIBU to think she doesn’t really need to be parked there?

I need a diagram for this

Not sure of this will clarify or not 😆 I can’t block her in without blocking the access to other houses. I think I’ve got that I’m not BU which is what I thought but then had a guilty moment because her uncle is ill, although the niece is not and could walk like we are having to

Why can't she park on his driveway

Because the uncles car is in his space Slippery.

Also my I be the first to suggest...
ahem... PENGUIN BOLLARDS!

I've always wanted to do that but some bastard beats me to it!

OP you're too kind.

Option 1: Uncle's car goes to the garage when she's visiting, she's parking on his drive.

Option 2: Uncle's car stays on his drive, she parks on the road (or elsewhere) and walks.

If you want to park two cars on the drive, you need a house with a double drive. Like yours. Her uncle's house does not have it, therefore she can't expect to just dump her car on your property. I'd be telling her firmly but politely never to park there again. If she gets difficult, I'd say your driveways are now being monitored and any unauthorised use from now on will be reported to the police. It's not harsh OP, it's your property and she's taking the mick.

She should park behind the uncles car, there she won't be in anyone's way

That is a bonkers layout. Why does no one build straight roads any morrrrrrre???

OP, you’re not being U to want to park on your own drive. I would maybe leave a nice note and say that you were happy to help out that one time but it can’t happen anymore.

Now I see the diagram she’s a CF, tell her it’s your drive and she can park elsewhere, I’m assuming there’s a street at front she can park on.

Why does no one build straight roads any morrrrrrre???

Bendy roads are supposed to be safer, as it makes drivers slow down, in theory.

She's being a CF. Sick is not emergency if you were able to park elsewhere so could she. She shouldn't be on your drive at all
I hope you've got rid of her.

Where do you park when she is on your drive?
Wherever it is, that’s where she should park.

Tell her clearly you are in and out at different times every day and to leave your space clear and show her where to park.

From that diagram I don't understand why you can't behind her without blocking access. Or died she park nearer the road rather than directly in front of the garage

Oldraver

It's her drive. No one else should be using her private property.

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Note on her windscreen- please do not park here again this is private property.

If you are on friendly terms with the 3rd neighbour you could park both cars in and given neighbour the heads up. Or left a note on their windscreen to call you and you will move, and an apology for their inconvenience explaining that the rogue car is a visitor to uncle not you.

But personally I'd have just gone to knock on uncle's door and told her to move it immediately and put her right on her lack of permission to park there in the future.

Finally a diagram! Why don’t you just take your diagram and put a big X on your drive and write;

‘This is my driveway please stop parking on it - I need to park my own car on here’

And then stick it under her wiper blades.

Then hide behind your curtain and report back to us on the CFer’s next move.

behind another car already parked there

Was someone else parked there without permission, or did the other car belong to someone in your household.

YANBU - you were nice to say it was okay the first time, she is BU to push it. If you could park down the street and walk, so could she. Couldn't the uncle park in his garage?

In that case YANBU.

From that diagram I don't understand why you can't behind her without blocking access.

Aside from the fact that it's private property, she's deliberately parking at the end of OP's drive to make sure that she doesn't get blocked in, should OP dare to want to park on her own property. Although there would technically be room for two cars on there, and less inconvenience for OP if the visitor only illegally used one of the spaces on somebody else's private drive, she would rather fully inconvenience OP by stealing her entire drive. Massive entitled CF-ery.

I'd be tempted to follow her home when she leaves, to see where she lives, and then park on her drive/allocated space. Ideally, that would make her see just how wrong and infuriating it is.

Incidentally, if her uncle is now at the stage of life where he can't get out on his own any more, does he actually still need a car of his own? Does it ever get used? If not, that would provide the ideal solution.

Can you not block her in by being on the Turing circle too. Either way she's being cheeky. Tell the uncle that you're not working the same hours so need access to your drive all the time. I doubt she'll be contributing to your resurfacing costs.

I'm just really struggling to imagine seeing a stranger's own drive and actually parking on it. I might if it were a close friend and I was certain that they wouldn't be home until I was gone, but I'd still be feeling cheeky if I hadn't pre-arranged it with them.

For me, it would be like letting myself into a stranger's house, if they'd left their door unlocked, and making myself comfortable on the sofa in front of the telly.

If she's out there again then just tell her that you were ok to help once as a one-off but she needs to stop parking on your drive from now on. If she's inside then leave a huge note under her wipers with a little map to the nearest public parking space.

YABU to have allowed her to park there the first time, although I can understand why you did.
Yanbu to stop this now before she parks there everyday/tells hcp’s they can park there.

@PurplePansy05

Oldraver

It's her drive. No one else should be using her private property.

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Well of course. That's not what I asked

OP said she couldn't park behind the woman (on her own drive) without blocking access to the other drives. As the OP's drive has space for two cars, then surely she can block in without blocking access.

Unless the woman is parking away from the garage

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

From that diagram I don't understand why you can't behind her without blocking access.

Aside from the fact that it's private property, she's deliberately parking at the end of OP's drive to make sure that she doesn't get blocked in, should OP dare to want to park on her own property. Although there would technically be room for two cars on there, and less inconvenience for OP if the visitor only illegally used one of the spaces on somebody else's private drive, she would rather fully inconvenience OP by stealing her entire drive. Massive entitled CF-ery.

f course it's private property that the woman SHOULD not be parking on.

I must of missed the bit where OP said the offender was parking on the bottom of the drive