People with kids who insist on using the adult only pool

[SlightlyCheesedOff]

I have 2 kids myself, grown up, so I have been a parent on holiday too.. 8 pools in the hotel, including special kids pools.. Children welcome and catered for at 7 of those... But people insist on using (with kids) the one pool officially designated for adults and designed to be quiet... The "relax pool". Not relaxing with children screaming and splashing.

AIBU to think it's slightly selfish behaviour on their part?

[magicstar1]

That’s why I go to adult only resorts

[Quillink]

I tell off other people's kids too, lojoko I'm always happy when people point out the right thing to do to my own DC.

[Laaalaaaa]

It works both ways - let me first say as of yet I have not been on holiday with my child. Anyway, a hotel we stay in annually has an adult area with day beds, jacuzzis etc. First year we were there children running riot round it - annoying but nobody wanted to be that person and complain. Following year the adult area completely fenced off and gated entrance - great no kids at all to be seen. However, just set back from the main pool is a small family area with little paddling pool - this area is always commandeered by adults for sunbathing and dipping their toes in. Never any room for families and any that dare at tutted at. I wouldn’t dream of taking my child into the adult only area but it’s a bit much when the family area is also out of bounds. If we stay there with our child - they’ll be playing in that paddling pool tutting or not.

[SlightlyCheesedOff]

I wouldn't dream of using a child only pool, so I don't think it's wrong to not want children at the adults only pool, specifically as this area is what I love about this holiday. The people that prompted my post left quietly, and with dignity.. However we have stayed here in previous years and I have witnessed terrible behaviour, people shouting at lifeguards refusing to leave, when actually the rest of the (brilliant) hotel is totally geared up to little ones and entirely in their favour.

[BrightYellowDaffodil]

Yes it is selfish. They’ve decided they don’t want to sit with other people’s children but that other people without children should put up with theirs.

Absolutely. My old gym had “adult only” times and it was amazing how many parents could only make those hours to swim with their little darlings. Absolutely nothing to do with it being quieter and more civilised then, I’m sure

And they were always the first to complain when their children got in the way of people doing lengths and nearly got mown down...

[SlightlyCheesedOff]

And, to add, they DO know. Large sign, in multiple languages, that they have to pass to get to a sunbed or the pool.

[AltoCation]

Not surprised that the LIfeguard told them to move.

The risk assessment for each pool would be different depending on whether it has children / slides / deep water etc.

[Laaalaaaa]

When we return, husband will be on child duty whilst I get a cocktail and take half an hour to myself in the adult area!

[BigusBumus]

@Laaalaaaa I've done that before. Had a bit of a row with DH and stropped off to lovely Adult area, sipped cocktails and actually got to read some of my book while he had to look after 3 children for the afternoon hahahaha

[NoViolins]

I never really "get" threads like this on here. Any sensible person would just go and tell the staff, so that they could do something about it. Why is it such a drama? It just feels like an attempt to stir people up into a thread where they all moan about "entitled" parents and little shit kids, etc.

[NoViolins]

If it keeps happening every year and it really affects you so badly, then just stay somewhere else next time!

[JalapenoDave]

That would mega piss me off. Get it reported to the staff.

[PopsicleHustler]

Heard if an adults only pool. Never heard if a relax pool. Unless it's hot tub or jacuzzi

[SlightlyCheesedOff]

It just feels like an attempt to stir people up into a thread where they all moan about "entitled" parents and little shit kids, etc.

Not at all. It's just a thread. It's what we do here, isn't it? Make threads, post on threads, object to threads.. Ad infinitum.

[SlightlyCheesedOff]

Heard if an adults only pool. Never heard if a relax pool. Unless it's hot tub or jacuzzi

It's just a pool.. A very nice pool.. But just a pool.. The word relax makes for better marketing I suspect.

[WaxOnFeckOff]

A relax pool to me conjours up images of soft lighting and a few people doing a slow languid breast stroke which barely ripples the water...:o

[Bluetrews25]

Where are you, OP, where the place is so massive that there are 8 pools?

[Sam1515]

Depends where you are in the world to what is classed as an adult as well. We have been to parts of the world where 12+ is considered an adult and others where you need to be 21+.

[Livelovebehappy]

It depends on the age and personality of the staff manning the pool. The sort of parents who are happy breaking the rules are hardly going to be the sort of people who would leave quietly and apologetically. Staff trying to enforce any rules are likely to receive some push back or verbal abuse, so some will prefer to turn a blind eye rather that confront people. And unfortunately the parents probably know this. Glad you’ve got your peace and quiet back though OP.

[Livelovebehappy]

Op, I think noviolins must be the invading parent at your hotel. And she’s not happy you’ve had her and DCs evicted from your pool it seems.........

[NoViolins]

Hilarious!

I told her to tell the staff. What more should people say? Hardly needs a thread does it? If I was on holiday and kids were in the adult pool, I would just tell the staff so they could ask them to move.

[TwoLeftSocksWithHoles]

Don't forget to puncture any of the children's flotation devices e.g. water wings, arm bands, unicorns etc., as they sheepishly leave, as a firm reminder for the future.

[Laaalaaaa]

@Bluetrews25

Where are you, OP, where the place is so massive that there are 8 pools?

It’s hardly the unusual for hotels to have 8 pools. If you are in an all inclusive resort then it’s quite normal - or the ones I’ve stayed in anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Chicchicchicchiclana]

NoViolins - AIBU is the petty gripes topic of Mumsnet. People are quite within their rights to post their petty gripes in here and get a little check on whether they are being unreasonable or not but people please stfu with the ever-tedious AIBU to ask what time you go to bed type questions .

[NoViolins]

AIBU is the petty gripes topic of Mumsnet

I know I know. I was basically just saying "this is a non-event that doesn't need a thread" as a way of saying yes, OP is BU.