To think drink driving does not mean lose your license?

[berks]

Regular poster but name changed.

DH was arrested for drunk driving last night after crashing his car. He blew 104 on the breathalyser then tested 57 at the police station several hours later. He broke his wrist so had to go to hospital before the station.

He's the sole earner in our family- I haven't worked since 2014 since I had our first child- we have 3 DCs (age 6, 3 and 1). If he loses his license he won't be able to get to work which is 15 miles away and not near public transport.

He seems to think that because of this he may be allowed to keep his license. I am desperately clinging to this.

I know what he did is wrong, I know what could have happened so please don't lecture me- he's in more trouble at home I assure you.

I haven't stopped crying all morning. He's such an idiot.

If it’s a first offence and no one was killed or injured I seriously doubt he’s going to get a prison sentence.

• He will and should lose his licence.

As an aside:
The noun in UK English is ‘licence’
The verb in UK English is ‘to license’

You have a driving licence in order to be licensed to drive. Cf ‘practice’ and practise’, ‘advice’ and ‘advise’.*

Because what the OP needs right now is a grammar lesson

His wrist isn't plastered just sore. Obviously he wouldn't drive if he's sick but he's not banned yet was my point.

You can't seriously think him driving with a broken wrist, plaster or not, is appropriate or morally right?! Ffs. He cannot drive now. That's it. It's that simple. He's not physically able to do so safely because he has a BROKEN wrist. Even a sprained wrist wouldn't be safe to drive with. I can't believe after everything that you and him are even considering him driving with a broken wrist until he's officially banned for drink driving is a viable option?!

Drunk drivers should get a lifetime ban on driving, fucking arseholes.

Time for him to find a new job OP and he'd be finding a new home too if he were my DH.

This. Why should anyone in his position be given the benefit of the doubt again? He was three times over the limit and crashed OP. You realise that the only difference between you worrying today about transport and worrying today about the family he killed, is pure chance? Everything he chose to do would be the same in both scenarios. I actually cannot believe people are not given a prison sentence at least for that. You are massively minimising what you call his 'stupid decision' and even though you weren't the one who did this, that is disgraceful. Wake up and see clearly who this man is.

Ps. And he thinks he might get to keep his licence because it is inconvenient for him and his family to lose it? The fact he is even thinking like that rather than being distraught at how he took such a risk and what he could have done is very revealing. He disgusts me.

Mandatory disqualification.

OP, this is really shit for you. Please do not take on the shame that belongs to your husband. This is his fault - not yours. As well as the danger he was to the public - he has really let you down.

Given that he is a married man with 3 children I wonder if its worth thinking if his drinking is a problem and this is not a one off? Its not like he is youngster where he might be making reckless choices that that aren't necessarily about having an alcohol problem.

If it’s a first offence and no one was killed or injured I seriously doubt he’s going to get a prison sentence.

He wrapped his car around an inanimate object and broke his wrist, so I don't think it's out of the question

@thedancingbear

If it’s a first offence and no one was killed or injured I seriously doubt he’s going to get a prison sentence.

He wrapped his car around an inanimate object and broke his wrist, so I don't think it's out of the question

I really don’t think it’s likely. Fair enough to be realistic about the consequences is fair enough but coming out with shit seems to have no other function than to give the OP a bit of a kicking when she’s down.

3 times the limit, what on earth possessed him?? Is he in a job that requires him to drive, if he is, prepare for the sack anyway.

If he drives with a broken wrist regardless of whether it’s in plaster or not he may find his insurance won’t cover him if he has another accident.

@U2HasTheEdge

I am sorry you are dealing with this OP.

I would find it very hard to remain married to someone who would do what he did. I doubt I could get past the fact that he was willing to risk innocent lives and put his own family in a very difficult situation.

I think drink driving should be a life long ban.

Totally agree with this; nobody who actively chooses to drive whilst drunk deserves to have their licence returned to them again. It is a conscious decision to not only endanger themselves, but so many others around them, and it would affect how I felt about DH if he chose to do it.

@berks - what has your husband said about what he did?

Is his wrist actually broken? It 'just being a bit sore' doesn't sound like it's broken, and it's not been strapped up?

He's not using it to try to get sympathy is he?

I broke both wrists once. It was more than 'a bit sore'. I couldn't grip for a fortnight.

When it comes to punishment, I don't see why someone should be given leniency because no one was killed. No one was killed due to lucky chance, not because the drunk driver did anything different.

Sorry. I know it's an inconvenience for you but if anyone who drinks and drives should have their license taken away. In my opinion it should be for longer than a year or two they usually give out. 🤷‍♀️

Electric road bike could be answer

Do insurance companies really insure people who are awaiting sentencing for drink driving, even if technically he hasn't lost his license yet

He absolutely WILL lose his license without a doubt and rightly so.
Absolutely disgusting, cannot even believe you are even entertaining the fact that he is responsible enough to even keep his license.
Utter disgrace!
Next time he might not be so lucky and he might kill someone!!!

OP, I'd hide the thread now if I were you. There are several very supportive posters on it but they're absolutely being drowned out by the moronic and utterly smug thigh-rubbers who are really enjoying themselves at your expense.

I have lost a friend to a drink driver also and have no time for people who do drink drive but many, many do. They just think they are superb drivers and also, that they won't get caught.

I'm very sorry for you, having to clear up this mess. I won't be telling you to re-think your marriage or that I couldn't be with this man-because-I'm-so-much-better. Try not to focus on the twats who are feverishly posting this to you. It takes a certain type of person to kick somebody when they're down and can be safely ignored.

Your husband must be the one to make restitution.. As others have said, he won't be able to drive with a broken wrist anyway and his insurance would be null and void so that's not an option.

Please make sure that any additional work you have to take on - like ferrying him around - is offset by him, not you. He has to pick up the slack, not you.

Take care of yourself and don't feel ashamed, you are NOT the guilty party here.

My husband would be looking for a new house if he did this. I absolutely couldn't stay married to someone who thinks it's ok to drink drive, and I'd bet that it's not the first time he's done it either.

If it was down to me he'd get banned for life

Tbh if I had my way drink drivers would lose their licenses for life.

This woman's entire family was wiped out by a piece of scum who had 3 previous driving bans.

He might lose his job and things might be hard for a while ? So what.

People have lost their lives because of the likes of your husband. I'm sure you'll manage unlike this poor family. www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2020/06/22/dad-two-children-killed-fathers-day-walk-drink-driver-12887357/amp/

My XH was banned for the first time in 1999, he was arrested the night before I started my new job, he didn't want me going out to work so took himself off to the pub in a fit of pique. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship, je was abusive.
Ten years ago he was banned again (on his stag do) and then again five years ago. His W drove him everywhere but then she herself got banned last year for being over the limit. They wouldn't spoil another couple.
I would suggest you perhaps rethink your whole relationship; I think you may well end up doing that when he is inevitably banned.

Your considerations shouldn't be whether your husband, 3 times over the limit, might keep his driver's license. More importantly, how can you stay with a man who could so easily have killed people last night due to nothing more than his selfishness?

He won't keep his license. When his case comes up there will be one less individual on the road who doesn't care if he tears a family apart, as has happened to mine.

@WaffleCash

Do insurance companies really insure people who are awaiting sentencing for drink driving, even if technically he hasn't lost his license yet

Depends on the T&Cs. Although I am going to take a wild stab (from all the policies I've seen) that he will be required to inform them of his "change in circumstances" since that are certainly material to their issuing the policy.

When I worked in insurance there was a phrase "drunks and skunks" for people who had a problem history and found it difficult to get insurance.

If this person is planning on driving the OPs car on the OPs insurance then the OP needs to inform them immediately and they can make a decision as to whether they would allow it or not. I'd be guessing no.