To be annoyed with DP

[Splashingintherain01]

He announced yesterday that we're having a Sunday roast today and bought a joint of slow cook beef, that translates to "you're cooking the Sunday roast" because he works nights then goes to football after his shift so it's all left to me to fuck about with meaning I'm stuck indoors all day keeping an eye on the meat.

He comes in from work has a quick shower and I say I really can't be bothered doing a roast today. He decides to be 'helpful' by plonking the joint of beef in the oven on the defrost setting without removing any packaging at all but not before wrapping it in additional tin foil?!

This is supposed to help me by taking away some of the work

He sods off to football and after half an hour I have a feeling to go and check on the meat and find the abomination that is his attempt to prep it for defrosting.

I've got to remove it from the oven, remove the layers of tin foil, cut off all the netting and scrape off the paper base of the packaging which was now stuck to the meat like superglue.

I need to go to the shops today and get pack up stuff for nursery, do washing and other housework, look after two toddlers and now have the hindrance of this to add to my never ending to do list.

When he gets in from football he'll be going straight to bed, understandably, but I'm pissed off that he's managed to spoil my day by committing me to babysit a joint of beef I didn't want or ask for in the first place.

It's going to take hours to defrost and then hours to cook and I just can't be arsed with it all.

It's my time of the month so I am a bit hormonal, but am i being unreasonable ?

Yabu why didn't you just say no! Why didn't you just leave the meat for him to sort his mess out?
Sorry being a bit harsh but I learnt a long time ago to just say no to people like this. They have their heads in the clouds and they just stress me out, I just let them anymore.

It's about three quarters defrosted thank fuck.

I did as suggested here and picked up some frozen veg and Yorkshire puddings from the shop.

PP's raise a very good point about him going to the shops after football and why couldn't he have done that today. He could have.

See usually I don't mind, given that he'll have just finished a 10 hour night shift and played football. He's bound to be tired.

Except usually he doesn't number me with a big frozen joint of beef to defrost and cook.

@Splashingintherain01

We don't have a slow cooker unfortunately. The beef is defrosting in the oven on the defrost setting then will need to be cooked for hours after it has thawed.

Twenty Quid on Amazon.

All that needs to be done is packaging off, chuck in pot, add salt & pepper, put lid on, switch on, forget until later.

I definitely need one, I thought they'd cost alot more than they do.

For some reason I had 50-100 pounds in my head as a figure.

DP has a birthday coming up in a few weeks you may have helped me decide on his present

What double buggy do you have OP?

I used to have an out n about and it was a dream to push even with two children in it and I had a severely bad back.

I could push it one handed

I have the Joie twin air.

It's a lightweight pram but my eldest is massive and alot heavier than my youngest so the pram is forever trying to swerve off to the left due to uneven weight distribution.

I have a pelvic condition (you can probably guess as to what that is) and it means i can't lift anything heavy. I really struggle going up and down pavements / just lugging it about in general.

My eldest (almost 3) can't walk very far as he has a bad case of tibial torsion and is very prone to falling over.

We're a bit wonky us lot.

Why couldn't you cook it last night and then put it in the fridge? That's what we do. Means we can go out on a Sunday and then come back and just sort the trimmings. YABU.

@Splashingintherain01
I just bought student DD a slow cooker in Asda for £9, good size one too!

He could have done that as he's the one who wanted it in the first place. I was working yesterday then running around after two toddlers.

Tis a good tip for next time though.

Read that he fucks off with the car leaving you to struggle with a heavy buggy 😡😡
Get the shopping delivered or hand him a list, stop making work for yourself.

If you can, try and get hold of the out n about.

It’s so easy to push.

I can't believe he takes the car and thinks it's ok to let you manage two DC and the buggy and the shopping.

If he's that thoughtless OP, you need to do online and he needs to rethink his time 'off'.

When's yours BTW?

I'll look into that pram Sou, thanks for the recommendation.

Much to my surprise (and annoyance) home delivery is still hard to get here. I checked this morning on the Tesco app and there's nothing until 5th October and that's a late evening slot.

My 'time off' is when I manage to grab an hour or two to bugger off for a coffee and cake or walk around the shops at my leisure minus the children. I do get these opportunities and he doesn't begrudge me that but it doesn't cause the type of inconvenience that his football does.

He's mid thirties and tells me that he's aging out of playing which is music to my ears, I just hope he isn't planning on joining a VET's team.

The beef still isn't ready and I'm losing the will to live.

He got up to use to loo and I told him in no uncertain terms not to ever do this again.

Cool the beef.
Put it on barm cakes.
Job done. No wastage. No hassle.

*cook not cool

Well op, whats the beef now ? is he up or will he be asleep for a while yet ? Please can we have a picture of the infamous joint when it's all done ?

He's still asleep and will be for another hour at the very least. I will post a photo of the offending dinner when it's all done

I used to have this type of argument with DH when our two were small, but mainly because of the amount of fecking golf he played. It was a massive bone of contention between us, but as overall he was (still is!) a good dad and husband, I tolerated it.

I know you've had a few 'cuh, what a fuss over nothing' type of comments, but I get it - he was off having fun with his mates for maybe 2 or 3 hours (including travel time) but also managed to lumber you with a chore you specifically said you didn't want to do, as well as look after a baby and toddler. Have it out with him when he gets up, but try not to let it spoil your evening .

DP has a birthday coming up in a few weeks you may have helped me decide on his present

Yes!

Get him a slow cooker. He will be THRILLED!

You can even buy him a joint of beef to go with it to get him started.

Here we have it, one 'can't be arsed' Sunday dinner.

Please note I usually make my own Yorkshire puddings and veg

Not shown in picture is the copious amounts of mint sauce I'll be eating it with yes I know that is supposed to go with lamb but I'm a non conformist

Looks lovely to me!

YABU to even consider rescuing him from this situation. I would feed myself and DCs, he can sort his shit out when he gets home.

Make roast dinner = this situation will happen again.
Stick beef to one side and explain that you didn't have time to prepare, ask when he's making it etc, no drama = expectation set.
The roast does look good though, enjoy 😋

Bloody hell op, you're a better woman than me.

The dinner looks not half bad for a cba meal.

The mood I'm in today I'd have served him the frozen beef on a plate and ordered myself a takeaway. The waste of money would have served him right for trying to force me to cook a dinner I didn't want to cook.

Many a times I do cook a roast, but if I'm not in the mood I'm not in the mood. We have a roast most Sundays but today we here are potato wedges, garlic mushrooms and chicken goujons in the oven and I give not one fuck.