To expect her to pay half if she stays?

[Overitallllll]

So I’ve booked a hotel room for one night as a treat. I’ve been with my kids for 6 months straight so I decided to have this one night to be left alone. To have a wine and junk food and relax.

My friend lives in the area and we agreed to meet up for lunch and a drink. She knows the reason for my visit and she said well she might aswell stay over.

I said if she wants to stay she could pay half, she’s now very offended and said I was going to pay regardless. AIBU?

Of course YANBU. Even just inviting herself along to your one night on me time makes her a CF.

You booked it because you wanted to be alone and now your friend's invited herself. I would stick with the being alone. Enjoy.

Depends how you said it though, but tbh it’s a little cheeky to muscle in on your quiet time and to invite herself along!

I probably wouldn’t have asked for it if I was you, but I would’ve offered if I was her.

Are you sure she's a friend?!!!🙄

Enjoy your night of peace.

What?! I cannot imagine ever hearing that a friend wanted a quiet night on their own, and me then saying "ooh I'll join you if you're paying!". I can't even imagine intruding if I offered half. That's just weird!

Enjoy a lunch together, then head back to your peaceful room alone to enjoy your junk food and a quiet night. Don't let anyone ruin that! Especially if they're doing it to bag their own free night in a hotel!

I don't know where these people come from, coz in all my years I don't think I've ever met anyone who would say "but you're paying for it anyway"...?! It's just so entitled!

YANBU. 'I was planning it as a night alone. Actually, come to think of it, I'd rather just leave it like that and spend the night on my own.' She's a CFer.

Spend the night on your own why would she/he want to stay in your room with you. If she/he does and you want her/him too then I don't see why you would want them to pay half you were paying anyway.

Sorry just reread and see she is a she

Firstly do you have a double bed booked or a twin room? No way would she be sharing my bed!

Secondly she lives locally so she can just go home after lunch, think she’s been a bit cheeky tbh trying to muscle in on YOUR night away.

She can book her own hotel room if she wishes to stay & pay for herself

Some friend! Enjoy your night off.

Do you want her to stay OP, even if she pays?
It's not the evening you planned

What a CF!!

The whole situation is strange. She’s strange for asking, and you’re strange for entertaining the idea if she pays half.

Yanbu at all. She is a c.f.
But I would love to hear the rationale of those who voted yabu.

Wtf?

I thought you wanted a lovely night to yourself anyway? Just nicely say you want some alone time.

She’s being a jerk.

This is very cheeky of her!!! I'd be raging. Especially at the "might as well join you" attitude. Errrr.

Recently had a similar situation where I'd booked a week away by the sea, my friend hinted she'd like to join as she had a week off leave she needed to take, so I said I've got a room for two and said fine if she joined as maybe a week is a long time to spend alone (I've got no kids, am single so wasn't leaving anyone behind, I just wanted a break from work).

Just the day before she was due to drive down I asked my friend if she'd be "up for splitting costs?" And she said of course. Had I not said that I'm sure she would have assumed it was a freebie for her. I did the right thing by asking ahead of time as did you.

Sorry this happened but don't hesitate to say "you know what? I really just want a silent retreat and need the week to myself as originally planned". If she's that offended I'm hesitant to jump to conclusions about how good a friend she is...

Fuck that.
A night away on your own? Sounds what we all need!
Tell her you are sticking to your original plan of some alone time

Cheeky thing, expecting a free stay. If she wants one that bad she can book her own room.

You said you wanted a night on your own so why did you go out with her ?

I personally wouldn’t ask my friend for money for a room I already booked but everyone’s different.

Also depends if you wanted her company for the night and if it was a cheap travel lodge or a luxury lodge etc

Well, it’s not the same degree of comfort and peace if you’re sharing the shower, toilet, sink etc and sharing a room. She should contribute so it benefits you both. Not sure why you’d even want her tagging along anyway when it’s rare for you to get peace.

Well, she's tipped her hand, hasn't she?

Not much of a friend more an Advantage Taker!

Tell her to side off and to take her selfish, entitled umbrage with her!

Do you want to be 'hosting' her in your hotel room on your lovely break away?

It sounds like the point was to relax and get to do exactly what you want without having to compromise for once - she sounds rather a dominant character so are you really going to get the relaxing weekend you've planned with her around?

she said well she might aswell stay over.

I would have translated that as "I might as well book my own room", I don't share hotel room with anyone but DH or the kids