To expect her to pay half if she stays?

[Overitallllll]

So I’ve booked a hotel room for one night as a treat. I’ve been with my kids for 6 months straight so I decided to have this one night to be left alone. To have a wine and junk food and relax.

My friend lives in the area and we agreed to meet up for lunch and a drink. She knows the reason for my visit and she said well she might aswell stay over.

I said if she wants to stay she could pay half, she’s now very offended and said I was going to pay regardless. AIBU?

I don't think she should stay full stop and you should enjoy some peace, which is why you are there! So it doesn't matter who pays half, she should not have even asked (I am assuming she wants a few drinks and doesn't want to pay for a taxi)

Just like another poster said I wouldn't have asked her to pay half but if I was her I would have offered.

As she's already offended I'd just tell her she knows you wanted the night away on your own for a break. You're happy for her to stay over if she wants to pay half and turn it into a girls night....because you might need to book another night away for yourself in future! and i'd tell her you're a bit annoyed that she's making you feel like you've done something wrong by asking for her to split costs.

If you don't want to share the night with her then just say you know what I'd rather just spend it on my own like I had originally planned because I really need the time alone. I only asked for you to pay half because I thought that was going to be a shared girls night in so that was the fair thing to do!

I think stick to the afternoon and evening on your own. I suspect there might be the odd dig from her and unless she has apologised for her attitude I think there will be an atmosphere.

Planned night with a fried - lovely.

Planned alone night gate crashed by grabby person - potentially rubbish.

She's a cheeky madam.

Tell her to book and pay for her own room!

A shared hotel room is horrible. One to yourself is bliss.

I wouldn't want her there even if she paid.

Why might she as well stay over if you're meeting for lunch & she lives in the area?

Because she thought it would be a free night away for her also?

Which bit of having a night alone doesn’t she understand?

Just say don’t worry, having it to myself means I can watch tv naked 😆

Staying over is fine, as long as she books her own room!!

staying over is NOT fine own room regardless if the OP has booked a night on her own that she desperately needs.

Cheeky cow! Why would anyone think they’re entitled to a freebie like this?

I recently got a lift back to my hometown with a friend who was going anyway. I asked her what I owed her in petrol money. She didn’t want to take anything as she was going anyway, but I insisted; I’d got lucky by getting a lift, so she should get some benefit too (her journey costing her less). It’s what a normal person would do!

Just tell her you need the time away to recharge and can’t accommodate her. I would not even spend precious hours of my day on lunch.

Sharing a room, even with a friend COMPLETELY defeats the purpose of a night away on your own.

If you had wanted her to stay, wouldn't you have suggested it.

Enjoy your peace.

Without asking, she plans to muscle in on your bedroom and have you pay for it? Cancel the whole arrangement. If she wants a night away, she can arrange and pay for it herself.

If she's anything like an ex friend of mine, she'll expect you to pay, decide on bedtime, bitch all night about what's on telly, then either wake you up early or get pissed off because you woke up early.

You are paying for alone time, keep it that way.

I wouldn't have asked her for half the money because that implies that you're happy sharing a room, when you had planned a quiet night's sleep.
Bizarre assumption of hers.

Not sure how much relaxing you'd have sharing a room with someone who appears very inconsiderate

Do you think she is planning to get so drunk she wouldn't find her way home?

"... she said well she might as well stay over.

I said if she wants to stay she could pay half, she’s now very offended and said I was going to pay regardless. AIBU?"

You were going to pay regardless - for a hotel room all to yourself! Why should you pay the same to share, and she pays nothing? What a cheeky fucker she is!

CF.

I can hardly cope thinking about that never mind it actually happening. I'd tell her that there were crossed wires and I was going myself.

No way on gods earth if I had managed a night away from my DCs would I have shared one square inch of the room. The idea is to have total peace, it was one of my fantasies to do this when the children were young.

If I wanted quiet time alone, I wouldn't be meeting a friend anyway

Cheeky freeloader!

How long have you known her?
Even my BF of 40 years, my DSister, my DMum or my DD wouldnt try this.
Well possibly my DD, but shes my DD so exempt.
Very CF.