Secret Santa

[SecretSantaFix2020]

I know, I know. It's not even October yet but I'm trying to be organised.

In my family, we do Secret Santa between myself, my siblings and our spouses. I'm in charge of organising via a website. We set up exclusions so we can't draw our own partners to make it more interesting.

Now, the dilemma. I've seen something that would be perfect for one particular participant. So, WIBU to "fix" the names draw so I get this person? I could do this via the exclusion option.

Technically yes YABU. But I’ve done it before. The recipient gets a gift they love, you get an easier present buying experience. Win/win!

@Dollywilde

Technically yes YABU. But I’ve done it before. The recipient gets a gift they love, you get an easier present buying experience. Win/win!

Exactly my thinking.

Thank you.

I'm on my phone so I can enable voting to make it easier!

Can I also just commend your commitment to the ‘secret’ness of Secret Santa by name changing for this post

Totally - I did this for my last work one, I made sure I didn't get my bitchy boss and she didn't get me.

I wouldn't be surprised if my SIL is on here and I've recently posted something outing under my usual name. 🤣🤣

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YABU it's cheating. Can't abide cheats

Yanbu. I’d do it! I’ve actually swapped work ones before for similar reasons.

I think it's a win win situation too.

Go for it.

go for it. youre doing it with the best intentions. think of it as a perk for your hard work of organising it all

Yes I would a friend did this for me at my work one.

@myhobbyisouting

YABU it's cheating. Can't abide cheats

Bit extreme. I think cheating would be making sure I don't get someone who is notoriously difficult to buy for, as that's unfair on the others. But I do take your opinion on board. Thank you.

I'd do it, without a second thought.

I've done it.

I don't think it's extreme. It's like being trusted as the banker in monopoly and then slipping an extra £500 out cause, perks 🤷🏽‍♀️

That is literally nothing like it. I'm not stealing, am I?

Fuck me. Cheating? . Just to be clear, you organise the ss and want to allocate a person to you because you have found the ideal gift for them? cheating! Mumsnet at its finest.
Crack on love. You know yanbu

Haha, I agree my comments were very "MN at its finest" but if I think someone's fixing something in their favour it makes me want to flip the fucking monopoly board pull out altogether

And yeah, you're stealing

Just do it.

Bit extreme. I think cheating would be making sure I don't get someone who is notoriously difficult to buy for, as that's unfair on the others. But I do take your opinion on board. Thank you.

I don't really have an issue with your suggestion. But the above would be a side effect of what you're proposing 🤔

I organise SS. I would do this. And if any family members asked for a particular person for a particular reason, I would sort that. However we have never actually done it thank god as I didn't know about the secret Santa police who have come out in force on this thread.

Do it. Its win win.

I'd do it 🤷