Your opinion of having 'the talk' with children aged 6 and 8

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Not my children, I'm posting on behalf of a family member (at their request) to gather opinions.

Do you think children aged 6 and 8 are too young to be spoken to about sex related things. When I say that, what I mean is: what body parts are for and what is and isn't ok etc.

My family member isn't happy about it and thinks it's inappropriate and is putting things into the children's minds that they don't need to know about yet.

YANBU - Yes that's far too young
YABU - No, that's ok

[quote QueenArseClangers]@squeekums

Does that mean your 10 year old DD doesn’t know about periods?[/quote]
I thought that. It's potentially worrying, 10 isn't that unusual an age for periods to start these days.

@pointythings yeah, my DD started her periods at 9.
Luckily she’d known about them for most of her life so it wasn’t a shock.
My poor DM thought she was dying when she started hers in the 1940s.

I dont believe in "the talk" I believe in children growing up with common knowledge of what their genitals are and what sex is, why adults do it, what the risks are.

But yes, 6 and 8 year old children need to know about sexual abuse and how to protect themself.

I read a story (could be true or just an example) of a teacher whose young student said her uncle licked her cookie, teacher was unconcerned, just get another, until mother mentioned "cookie" in terms of a "cutsie" word used for genitals. The chd was being abused by her uncle but didn't have the proper language and tools to protect herself.

Kids should know the correct words, what to do if an adult asks to or tries to touch or see their genitals or gets them to look at or touch the adults genitals. As a bare minimum.

We had sex eduction in year 6 possibly year 5 at school. We had one friend that had already started her period. I would find it very strange for a 10 year old not to know about periods and what would be to come in the near future for her.

Mine demanded to know at 5 and I told him (after at least a year of asking). He was fine with it, I told him not to tell his friends because most kids are older when they learn and their parents will want to tell them - like Santa (he also found out at 5 about Santa, not from me).

Sorry posted too soon - I have a friend that didn’t tell her dd about sex ~ and Santa ~ until 13!! I still can’t believe it. Her dd did not take either news well!

[quote QueenArseClangers]@squeekums

Does that mean your 10 year old DD doesn’t know about periods?[/quote]
Not sure, she shocks me with things she knows or has picked up
I dare say its come up at school in health lessons but she never felt need to mention it to me.

My periods have never come up as she has never followed me to toilet, i dont get parents who say "my toddler dont even leave me alone in toilet" Well you shut the damn door crying toddler or not.
Nor do i feel the need to announce to the house its that time, hence its never come up.
She is much like me, if i dont ask for or about something, im just not interested in whats being said, it feels lectureish and like me, she dont respond to that.

Its literally just never come up in this house

As other have said NSPCC talk pants is great for children. They have a game and and a song so it’s a fun way about learning to safeguard themselves. Children are curious and teaching and talking to them openly is a good thing. As long as it’s age appropriate i don’t see anything wrong with promoting positive awareness of ones body.

And a song* sorry fat fingers 😂