AIBU

[bctf123]

My supervisor calls me in for a gen performance meeting after my holiday(before lockdown)
She tells me im doing great, the odd mistake here & there but great otherwise, im popular & hardworking. Then we start the general chit chat and she mentions the one negative to take away:
i eat too much fruit and its for everyone (the company pays)
There was a lot of fruit left when i was on holiday apparently
(No mention that over 50% of people were absent then- one sacked and the account and director also off)
Granted i have the occasional piece too much but i was miffed

AIBU to feel this way?

"Granted i have the occasional piece too much"

So you have too much.

Don't take more than your share.

Yabu to not actually put a title on your post

What a weird criticism. Presumably if there was lots left over when you were on holiday, your colleagues aren’t eating much and it would go to waste if you didn’t have it?

Are you miffed that it was mentioned or miffed because you think it's not accurate?

"I have the occasional piece too much"

There you go. If it's enough for people to notice then reign it in a little. Easy to solve.

Lol!
That’s a very corporate way of saying stop being a greedy bugger isn’t it!

Your boss has made an observation that you appear to be taking more than your share of a joint office resource. Ask for clarity on what the limit is and stick to it.

Good God

What are you miffed about, that she noticed you treat it like an all you can eat buffet?

I would be mortified if this was pointed out to me and never touch the fruit again.
You do seem aware that you had more than your share so maybe you should have gone easy on it.

Also, if this conversation happened pre lockdown why are you still worried about it? Its been months and loads has happened since then

You say before lockdown. Have you been annoyed about this for SIX MONTHS?!

Jesus Christ. Stop eating more then your share. Build a bridge then get over it

Im miffed that there were 4 people off and i was accused of eating an extra 3 peoples worth of fruit.

just becuase she behaves like a dictator so its stuck in mymind on a list lol

Usually people underplay things like this, so i’m guessing the ‘I have the occasional piece too much’ translates that you actually do have far more than your share. But I wouldn’t get miffed about the comment as it sounds like she has listened to other colleagues and is relaying that information back to you. Part of a manager’s job.

It sounds like she was reaching for a ‘negative’ and picked this. I wouldn’t worry about it too much!

Sorry but it is something that people notice.

In ye good olde days when we were in the office, I noticed and judged my colleague ( at the time a very well paid contractor) who dipped into the fruit bowl 3-4 times on the day it arrived. Also judged him for never carrying the fuckers up from reception - only a couple of us ever did that - or the empty baskets down.

However I would never say anything to him as it would have sounded incredibly petty, so I have a sneaking admiration for your boss for mentioning it.

@bctf123

Im miffed that there were 4 people off and i was accused of eating an extra 3 peoples worth of fruit.

But they might not eat it when they're there.

I mean only you can answer this but how many pieces do you take each day?

YABU - she is not making up accusations.

I can understand how 😡 this makes you op, about 20 years ago I was accused of eating an excessive amount of the chocolate/biscuits we had been given in work by reps, hand on heart I had not eaten a single one, the girl who accused me was the real perpetrator (I know she had emotional issues and was a comfort eater) to this day it still gets brought up...."hide the biscuits from iamaMused as once she ate a whole box of celebrations and 2tins of Rovers".
Could this be the case for you? Are you taking the blame for someone else's gluttony? The funny thing for me is that everyone knows the truth now and it helps me weight wise as I stubbornly refuse to touch the goodies 😂😂

If there are 10 people in the office and 10 pieces of fruit and you eat 3 then you've taken too much.
If only 3 people eat the fruit then you might as well have 3 because they would go to waste otherwise.
Are your colleagues complaining because they want fruit but you've eaten it all, or because they just like complaining?

How many pieces of fruit do you take a day?

tbh i think she is a bully. Its a friendly, non petty office where people dont watch things like this and small enough to hear whispers if people were annoyed

no colleagues have complained, i am 100%. She is a bit of a control freak im & im her only employee in the office

Yes but how many pieces of fruit do you eat ?