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Minor things your other half does that make you all stabby 🙃

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ChilliOnTheWilli · 22/09/2020 20:54

My DH is constantly asking for brews. I have never ever seen someone drink so many cups of tea and coffee in my life. His family are all the same, offering each other brews every 5 seconds. You literally put your cup down at my MILs and she's got the kettle on again.

I honestly can't take one more 'are you making a brew?' any time I look like I might be leaving the room or at the first hint of getting out of bed in the mornings. It gives me the RAGE 😂 (don't get me wrong, he makes a lot himself too). It's worse than hearing 'mum, mum, mum' for the millionth time a day.

He will even ask or get up to make one at like 11pm when we're in bed or if he's in the middle of drinking a beer in the evening.

Can I divorce my husband for making and requesting too many brews? Do your partners do anything minor that make you all stabby?

And obviously this is light-hearted, I won't actually stab him unless he asks for another brew

OP posts:
gamerchick · 25/09/2020 15:55

@FinallyHere

Empty loo roll tube left on top of the bin.

We had a friends brilliant au pair as a cleaner for a year. She was great, and I didn't like to explain that it was sheer laziness that mean DH leaves out empty loo rolls. I told her he collected them.

We were very sorry when she went home. She even had presents for us to say goodbye. A delicate glass saucer for me, from her fathers glass factory, to hold rings.

For DH, she had collected nearly a years worth of empty loo rolls, to add to his collection. 😆

Brilliant GrinGrinGrin
MitziK · 25/09/2020 17:32

A couple of thousand other things have occurred to me since posting.

Toilet Rolls. I replaced the old holder, yet, every single time I go in there after a roll has run out, the replacement has been got down from the high shelf and carefully placed either on top of the towel rail, two foot further away from the toilet than the the holder or, worse still, is left sitting on the cistern, so I have to do a full 180 to find it with a spine that doesn't think twisting is something it should do.

He puts the bath mat on the floor. I pick it up and drape it over the side of the bath as a) I don't trust the DTwatCats, b) I prefer it to be dry when I need to use it and c) it hides dust when it's on the floor. I go in there again and the bath mat is back on the floor with a suspicious damp patch that I am not sniffing to check whether it's just bath water or a bastarding cat realising my fears.

Every week, I find either an empty contact lens packet on the shelf and one balanced on the cold tap or at least a crispy blue lens glued to the sink.

He doesn't like throwing things away. The pillows were shit (and a disgusting colour), so I bought two superexpensive feather ones. He decides to keep the manky ones as well as the new ones. I bought a lovely wool quilt to replace the knackered old quilt. The old one gets stuffed into the back of the linen cupboard where it will remain until I can sneak it into a bulk rubbish collection.

The knackered by him frying pans have been replaced by fucking extortionately priced ones. He insists upon keeping the old ones as well, even though they will never be used again other than as a weapon or for a game of kitchen ping pong

Pan lids - they're some weird, scary technical thing that must be put on the top of the rack that I cannot reach. As he can only operate the hob on full blast, we therefore spend a fair whack of the gas bill on heating up the outside world rather than the food inside. And the pans all have scorch marks going up the sides.

And he has the Reverse Midas Touch. Off the top of my head, there have been

2 liquidisers
2 stick blenders
2 microwaves
1 rice cooker
1 toaster
1 breadmaker
4 vacuum cleaners
1 super expensive electric toothbrush
Multiple lightbulbs (with a shitty CFL specialist fitting that you can't ever guarantee getting a replacement that fits properly for)
Two bathroom door locks
Two bathroom door handles
One toilet roll holder
Scissors
Kettle
Fan
Sandwich toaster
Mini deep fryer
The mini processor part of the latest replacement stick blender
The DISHWASHER
The washing machine
The oven

All of which have 'just gone bang' when he's been using them. But he hasn't mentioned it until I've tried to use them days later. Because he also hasn't thrown them out. And then, when I ask about them, it takes about 95 minutes of prevarication, evasion, distraction and offers of cups of tea, trips to the sink for a glass of water, feeding the DTwatCats and interrupting me to derail the conversation into an account of something that may have happened 300 years, 30 days or 30 minutes ago, rather than just say from the outset 'Yes, it went bang on Tuesday'. I don't even get cross about things blowing up (no point, he just wouldn't admit to anything and then I'd be subjected to multiple diversionary accounts instead just the one agonising saga per item).

I just want to know these things are now dead/broken so I can buy replacements; if he said 'the microwave is sparking', I'd just say 'Fine, we need to get another one then' and fire up Amazon. Instead, he keeps it secret until it goes BANG and then still hides it. At which point I say 'Fine, chuck it out, we need to get another one then' and fire up Amazon.

And last of all is how he will happily go to sleep fully dressed, with no base sheet, no quilt cover, no pillowcases and the FUCKING BIG LIGHT ON. How the fuck does he manage that? It's like trying to sleep on a green pot scourer sponger with a bag of cocktail sticks for a pillow whilst camping in the top floor of a fucking lighthouse.

spookmeout · 25/09/2020 20:08

When he washes up (rarely) everything is covered in grease and I have to rewash it.

I discovered why when I caught him washing the dirtiest things first!

It's a good job he's very helpful otherwise, and does much more housework than I do!

JacobReesMogadishu · 25/09/2020 20:10

He puts the forks prongs upwards in the dishwasher.

He knows I hate it.

He does no other dishwasher emptying or stacking so I’m sure does it to wind me up. I emptied the dirty cutlery holder all over the kitchen floor Today and left it all there!

CoodleMoodle · 25/09/2020 20:11

Ooh, lots of little things (and I'm sure he could write a list about me, too).

But the first thing that I thought of was that he sometimes squeezes plastic bottles so they take up less space in the the recycling. At 6:30am. It's an annoying noise at the best of times, but at 6:30am...

Yogatomorrow · 25/09/2020 20:17

I haven't read the whole thread but need to vent:

  • backwards teeth whistling one half a line from a song repeatedly for hours
  • he started to slurp his tea (why? why does someone suddenly decide one day in their 40s that I would like to slurp my drink?)
  • pretending to my sister that I am annoying and would she like to join in belittling me in conversation
  • drumming his hands in time to the beat for hours

Some of these I pick up on. Others I leave.

Bubbletrouble43 · 25/09/2020 20:22

Not replacing the loo roll just balancing a new one on top of the empty roll
Rifles through the folded washing pile for something at the bottom and leaves it in a mess
Leaves teabags by the sink
Says " couple" for numbers that aren't 2 eg " couple of people ' when there were like five or six there
Wears socks more than one day
Leaves his huge boat like shoes in the middle of the floor
Stops songs midway and shuffles on to the next one
I could go on
It's a miracle he's alive tbh

neveradullmoment99 · 25/09/2020 20:24

Loads.
licking his fingers.
Eating a boiled sweet and crunching it in his mouth with small bitey sounds. Really pisses me off.

BensonStabler · 25/09/2020 21:57

@sueelleker lol he'd probably steal the second duvet too! He's that bad! Grin

Like @ladybee28 's man, he mostly does this without knowing and is related to his sleep walking. Haha can't be helped.

Maybe we should tie them to the bad frame or something?!

Yeah I wish I had a spare room lol he'd be in it. Luckily it doesn't happen all the time. So silver lining I guess Smile

BensonStabler · 25/09/2020 22:04

@finallyhere

For DH, she had collected nearly a year's worth of empty loo rolls, to add to his collection

This cannot be real? lmao 😂😂😂

Too good Grin

Oysterbabe · 25/09/2020 23:28

He puts the forks prongs upwards in the dishwasher.

This is the correct way to put them.

Imissmoominmama · 25/09/2020 23:30

Every time I say I like a song on the radio, he sings over it- like his voice will make the experience extra special Confused.

Imissmoominmama · 25/09/2020 23:32

Oh, and he says ‘them’ instead of ‘ those’.

GrubbsGrady · 25/09/2020 23:36

Reading all these is reminding me to stay single! I do make myself an excessive amount of tea too though probably 6 or 7 a day Brew all counts towards water intake though and tea is healthy right ?

Catsick36 · 25/09/2020 23:49

Eats so loudly.
Gets a blocked nose at night time and spends a god awful long time holding one nostril closed breathing through the other and general nose picking antics that I then hear wiped across the sheets Angry.

babyinthacorner · 25/09/2020 23:59

These are making me laugh out loud! I can’t disclose my DH’s worst trait as it would be outing, but he is also a hoarder. A couple of years ago he went to his parents’ on his own and came back with the pc from his teenage years - therefore massive computer - and a load of other useless shit which is now sat on the floor of the utility room! Occasionally I risk sneaking stuff into the bin but he’s got a memory like an elephant so he ALWAYS knows...

foreverandalways · 26/09/2020 00:18

F

CupOfTeaAlonePlease · 26/09/2020 00:19

@GalaKC he's abusive, none of that is minor.

JacobReesMogadishu · 26/09/2020 07:07

@Oysterbabe

He puts the forks prongs upwards in the dishwasher.

This is the correct way to put them.

But I don’t want them that way and I’m in charge. Grin

You have to handle them by the prongs if you do that which I think is very unhygienic.

InterstellarDrifter · 26/09/2020 07:18

Mine thinks soup should always be always served in a mug. Even the home made minestrone I made the other day with chunky veg and broken spaghetti.
Then he tries to drink it. Drives me mad.

MamaPip · 26/09/2020 07:37

Leaving the Iron on the kitchen counter every morning even though I have asked a million times to leave it on the utility counter so I don’t have to look at it !!!

Taking the toilet roll out of the holder and leaving it on top of cistern.

Opening chocolate bars eating half then leaving it in press and opening another new one the same day as the other is no longer dress 🙄 wouldn’t mind but it’s the kids Milky Way he does it too !

Never cleaning up tea rims after I’ve just cleaned the kitchen for the millionth time .

Wow I think I better stop I’ve a few more but I’ll end up in bad mood with him if I keep thinking of pet hates and he will be wondering why 😂

Oh one of my most annoying is not picking up his dirty clothes the fairies do that . Okay really stopping now !!!

MuseumOfYou · 26/09/2020 08:48

He gets up very early. Sits for well over an hour in the kitchen, having breakfast and playing with phone. Gets in the shower at exactly the same time every day and gets out huffing and puffing, stressing about being late for work, as though it's a surprise every day.

Why not just get in the shower 10 mins earlier?!

MuseumOfYou · 26/09/2020 08:52

Oh, and the sneezing. And if I'm a bit anxious about having too much to do in a day, he'll helpfully say, 'well, just don't do it then, go and have a sit down'.

yearinyearout · 26/09/2020 08:57

Snoring and other ridiculously annoying noises when he's asleep
Slurping tea
Leaving doors ajar
Putting dirty crocks near the dishwasher and not in it
Making toast on a clean work surface and not wiping up crumbs
Hoarding stuff
Munching food loudly
The list is endless and I must ask myself daily why we are still married.

Bubbletrouble43 · 26/09/2020 09:15

I have more
Opening a new food item eg cereal when there is already one open
Drinking milk from the bottle
Also leaves Iron out
Actually leaves everything out
Losing his hat ( since receding has taken to wearing a beanie or baseball cap on cold weekends)
Rolling socks into a ball in laundry so I have to unravel them
Uses about 800 sheets of loo roll when he has a dump