To be utterly sick of the new normal?

[UtterlyDone]

I will do as I am told; wear my mask, follow the one way systems, queue up, but I am utterly fed up.

Sick of no hot meals at school meaning 3 nights a week I’m trying to cram a hot meal into my overtired 6 year old at the time she ought to be in bed (she goes to asc and usually she’d have a hot meal at school those days and then take a packed lunch to eat at ASC – school are not allowing anything from home to go in so no packed lunch and they only get a sandwich or wrap plus a piece of fruit to survive on until we get home around 6.15pm it’s completely unfair on DD as she’s used to bath teeth story and bed by 7.15pm)

Sick of swimming lessons, not allowed into change until 5 minutes before the lesson and have to be queued up 1 minute before the lesson starts so having about 2 minutes to get DD changed and in the queue to start. And only have 10 minutes after the lesson to change when it can take that to find a cubicle to change in.

No books, or spellings or homework coming out of school so no idea how my DDs doing at school or how I can help. Yes there’s online resources but I’d usually do 10-15 minutes homework with her a few times a week and then find some online resources to use if she’s struggling in a particular area.

Queuing to get into school in the morning, in the rain and then queuing again to pick her up.

Sick of spending my days off cooking so that the days I’m working I can focus on work and just bung something in the microwave (see above point about when DD should be in bed).

I am sick of having to buy socks all the time as even though they don’t remove shoes DD comes out of school covered in god knows what, and it’s always her socks.

I am sick of wearing a mask when in the office.

I just want something to give me a break. I am utterly exhausted.

Feel free to slate me for this. I am done. Don’t tell me to get signed off sick from work because that’s what keeps a roof over my DDs head and food in her belly. I am tempted to withdraw her from swimming though, but the amount of children in her lesson has dropped from 10 to 4 so I’m worried about the leisure centre being there when I want her to have lessons again.

Look its hardly a barrel of laughs granted but I really wonder how some people would cope if there was a major crisis like another world war. I cannot be alone in getting utterly sick of all the moaning and whingeing and whineing

YANBU and definitely not alone xxx

@AllWashedOut no problem x

It’s rubbish op

We do the fleecy onesie for swimming too.

If you don’t like the idea of leaving a slow cooker on - have you considered an instant pot? It’s like a fast slow cooker. I can do a one pot pasta bolognese in 5 mins.

Might be a small help

I hear you. It’s shit.
Please people, stop talking about the war. I am sick of it, seriously. Yes, everyone have their own struggles and we have been fortunate enough to enjoy peace.
I saw this quote recently and thought was very apt “saying someone can’t be sad because someone may have it worse is like saying someone can’t be happy because someone else may have it better”. This is not a race to the bottom. There will always be people who are in worse situation. Does it mean that our feelings are not valid? We are not allowed to have difficult feelings at all? Stiff upper lip is alive and well.

Give yourself some easy meals
Nothing wrong with beans and cheese on toast or an omelette with veg, carbonara is quick too

@QueenOllie

Give yourself some easy meals Nothing wrong with beans and cheese on toast or an omelette with veg, carbonara is quick too

Don't let the rampant no carbers see this! They'll automatically put on 5st and be hungry whilst eating it because 'carbs don't fill you up'.

We’re all in the same boat though aren’t we? You’re being a bit precious about your dd’s mealtimes.

It’s going to be like this for at least 6 months & we have to adapt. We literally have no choice!

I’m with you OP, I’m with you so much re the queuing and uncertainty it drove me to quit my job this week.

Luckily I’m likely to pick up work again in January but YANNNNNNBU and it’s such a kicker for everyone, it’s like each and every time we get close to tasting what life was like pre March it’s whipped away again x

@blue25

We’re all in the same boat though aren’t we? You’re being a bit precious about your dd’s mealtimes.

It’s going to be like this for at least 6 months & we have to adapt. We literally have no choice!

No, we're not because we've all got different circumstances.

@ZzzMarchhare I have a swimming sorry that puts that in the shade. I had my 5 and 7 year old in different swim levels back to back, so one gets in at 4 and one at 4.30, whilst I look after the other one on the side. The new rules stated that I have to be in the water for the duration of both classes. No siblings are allowed to wait by the poolside and obviously I can't have them roaming the gym. I wrote back to ask how I can make that work, and she just said oh well if you can't do it, I'll give you a refund. So it'll be a year until they ger back into swimming lessons, basically.

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It's all a massive pain in the arse OP.

I’m very sick of it all too.

Be grateful you have people in your home. Both my DC have gone to uni and I’m on my own, working from home with winter lockdown beckoning. I’d give anything for some evening company.

Yeah it's crap. My DD is in year 11 and sitting her GCSEs next summer. Over a term of proper teaching missed, all the bits like work experience/college open days/parents evening not happened. No idea what is happening going forward and no idea how my child is doing as the last parents evening I attending was in year 9 and the last report I got was in Feb. She's trying her best but the pressure is mounting - she has 13 pieces of homework to do by Friday plus art coursework. I can't wait until this academic year is over TBH. My DS is in year 9 so I'm not too worried about him.

My friend ds school is no hot meals too. I really don’t understand why! My kids are all having hot meals at school.

In terms of the whole hot meal thing I would make a lasagne/spag bol or whatever she likes at the weekend.
Pop portions for her in fridge or freezer and just heat them up if you feel a hot meal is essential. It might take the pressure off those nights.

But yes, focus on the right amount of protein carbs fats and vitamins etc. Health is not determined by what temperature it entered the body. Kids have a tendency to let it go cold as the eat it anyway

be grateful you've got people around.. I'd love company well yes, but I've got two tweens, am an SP and think that sounds idyllic. Would you like my two for company? You vcan argue about homework, tread on lego and get cross's about screen times. Endless evenings in a tidy house, time to cook food I want to eat, read, go on long walks, zoom calls for company. That'll do. We all think we'd rather have x than y, doesn't mean x isn't crap for the person that has it.

Yep, absolutely sick of everything!

@Bouledeneige

Be grateful you have people in your home. Both my DC have gone to uni and I’m on my own, working from home with winter lockdown beckoning. I’d give anything for some evening company.

I'd happily swap my 6 year old for an evening alone, where do I sign up?

Everyone reaches their limit of endurance in prolonged events like this, with no clear end in sight, so much uncertainty and worry, having to find make-dos and work arounds made that much worse by going into winter.

For those of us that still have a bit left in the tank, how about being understanding and supportive of those who don't, who are finding it really hard, in their own unique set of circumstances, just to keep on keeping on and putting one foot in front of the other?

Some days, all a person wants to do, is to be able to have a vent, and a sympathetic ear to hear their pain and worry.

I know it seems incredibly likely that any light you can see at the end of the tunnel, is an oncoming train, but hang in there, it could be spring, and freedom!

And I'm pretty certain that everyone has blessings to count, and burdens to carry, and one person's burden in this shit show of a dumpster fire that is our current reality, would be another person's blessing to be only dreamed of!

YANBU to have a rant - we all need to vent and it sucks for everyone to some extent, in different ways.

I'm fed up of feeling as though my life is on hold while my body gets older.

I know what I have to do:
Gratitude every fucking day
Self-care
Courage to change the things you can. Serenity to accept the things you can't.
Take the joy where you can.
Know that the clouds will clear eventually

Schools here have never had hot meals so i guess I'm used to making a hot dinner every day. I agree with the slow cooker and/or batch cooking OP...it comes in very handy.
In terms of swimming mine just get changed at home and then after they just throw on a onsie.
I don't mind the one way systems to be fair I think they make a lot of things easier.
Mind over matter OP...but I know it's easier said than done.

It's beyond shit

I think in your situation my strategies would be:
-don't worry about homework, just read proper books together, stories you both enjoy, fuck that reading level shit - the single best thing you can do for literacy and language is to read and take pleasure in it

• bin of swimming lessons for now. More trouble than they are worth at the best of times. Take her swimming to a family session now and then. Do some one to one lessons later. If she doesn't learn to swim properly till she's 8 so what?
• 3 easy dinners each week. Even if its egg on toast. Homemade soup. Look at nutrition over the course of a week. Its macro not micro

But yes it is beyond shit