To be utterly sick of the new normal?

[UtterlyDone]

I will do as I am told; wear my mask, follow the one way systems, queue up, but I am utterly fed up.

Sick of no hot meals at school meaning 3 nights a week I’m trying to cram a hot meal into my overtired 6 year old at the time she ought to be in bed (she goes to asc and usually she’d have a hot meal at school those days and then take a packed lunch to eat at ASC – school are not allowing anything from home to go in so no packed lunch and they only get a sandwich or wrap plus a piece of fruit to survive on until we get home around 6.15pm it’s completely unfair on DD as she’s used to bath teeth story and bed by 7.15pm)

Sick of swimming lessons, not allowed into change until 5 minutes before the lesson and have to be queued up 1 minute before the lesson starts so having about 2 minutes to get DD changed and in the queue to start. And only have 10 minutes after the lesson to change when it can take that to find a cubicle to change in.

No books, or spellings or homework coming out of school so no idea how my DDs doing at school or how I can help. Yes there’s online resources but I’d usually do 10-15 minutes homework with her a few times a week and then find some online resources to use if she’s struggling in a particular area.

Queuing to get into school in the morning, in the rain and then queuing again to pick her up.

Sick of spending my days off cooking so that the days I’m working I can focus on work and just bung something in the microwave (see above point about when DD should be in bed).

I am sick of having to buy socks all the time as even though they don’t remove shoes DD comes out of school covered in god knows what, and it’s always her socks.

I am sick of wearing a mask when in the office.

I just want something to give me a break. I am utterly exhausted.

Feel free to slate me for this. I am done. Don’t tell me to get signed off sick from work because that’s what keeps a roof over my DDs head and food in her belly. I am tempted to withdraw her from swimming though, but the amount of children in her lesson has dropped from 10 to 4 so I’m worried about the leisure centre being there when I want her to have lessons again.

Good grief. Dont make her walk home in her wet cossie! It will be cold, uncomfortable, and possibly chafe!
The onesie idea is great.
And yanbu! It is hard atm. I understand why, and I comply with all the rules, but man oh man, I'm done too

YANBU and it seems that it will go on and on and on.

We need to know when children will be free to be children again.

I have a Yr2 6 year old in a state school. He is getting 5 physical reading books every week - they just quarantine the returned ones for 72 hours. He also gets weekly spellings set and 1 piece of homework and timetables online (we have to upload the homework). The school use a platform as they did in lockdown. He is also getting warm meals again starting next Monday. I am not doing swimming lessons this term as I didn't fancy the new procedures with 2 others in tow. Trying to limit further outside activities as much as possible anyway.

I'm with you 100%.
I'm so over this now. It's utter crap.
Everyone I know thinks the same.
Sending hugs. (from 2m away obvs!🙄🙄)

YANBU I am so fed up today. This is not living, this is simply existing.
I also cannot abide working from home all week. I had just got back into the office part time for a week and now this complete shitshow. My mental health is declining. I feel so very flat.

I am sick of it to but unfortunately the virus doesnt give a shit so I am just going to have to get on with it. Be grateful for what I do have because getting stressed about it will have a negative effect.

Totally with you OP. This whole thing is just utter utter shit. I was just starting to feel more positive but now with more restrictions coming back, my mental health is rapidly declining. I don't think I've smiled in about a week and I'm sure I'm making my toddler sad too. Plus I can't even drink wine (that's how I got through the first lockdown) because I'm pregnant and feeling like hell. If I wasn't pregnant I'd seriously consider anti-depressants because the thought of not seeing my close family for months is possibly the worst thing that could happen for my sanity.

High fat but nutrition rich easy to eat food then?

So pass her a cheese string or some flapjack for on the way home. Then a full fat yoghurt. Or some cheese and oatcakes, then fruit and a glass of milk. Soreen malt loaf buttered. Hummus and breadsticks.

Depends on what your normal diet is whether you think those are good ideas.

My youngest often eats while I read bedtime story.

Currently waiting on a second test that's gone over 48hours. Don't think I can bring myself to do a 3rd one. Missing out on nursery, work and uni. Lo keeps asking to go and see his mates. He just a has a mild cough. Can't imagine going through this every time he picks a bug up. Certainly can't afford to either

Don't make your daughter walk a mile home in the cold and wet in a wet swimming cossie, maybe I read that wrong??

You need to realise she's 6. She has tears ahead to learn to swim. And tears ahead to charge through school. School is a marathon, not a sprint. Right now you need to cuddle up on the couch together with a story book and stop all the swimming and pressure about school. Please do it, for both if you. This is difficult times, don't make it more difficult.

Years not tears, bloody phone.

It's shite but i think of my nan who was bombed in the war...not setting the bar very high am I? Even sick of thinking of nan tbh!

This properly made me snort laugh. I needed that. No offense nan!

Ah it all sucks out loud and in stereo! Just tired of feeling like life's purpose has gone walkabout.

Same OP, same

And the idea of another six months at least when of Boris has of listened in the first place we would have been in such a better position.

It's looking like my already postponed from June this year to June next wedding won't be going ahead, I can just feel it now as the numbers will probably, possibly, be very slowly increased in March/April so can't see us having 100 there by June.
I could cry but then I'd feel like a selfish div.
My self employed business is officially fucked.
I'm sick of not seeing mates and family.
I just hate it.

YANBU at all.

I am a governor and we had a zoom gov meeting yesterday and the staff present looked absolutely exhausted and utterly fed up.

@ssd

Don't make your daughter walk a mile home in the cold and wet in a wet swimming cossie, maybe I read that wrong??

You need to realise she's 6. She has tears ahead to learn to swim. And tears ahead to charge through school. School is a marathon, not a sprint. Right now you need to cuddle up on the couch together with a story book and stop all the swimming and pressure about school. Please do it, for both if you. This is difficult times, don't make it more difficult.

Yes it's a mile home, and I won't make her walk home in it. I think I'll email the leisure centre and see if I continue to pay will that keep DDs place, even if only for a few weeks or a month to give me some head space.

I know DD will be ok, but it doesn't help me now when I'm worried about her schoolwork at least during the school closures that was a distraction and something to focus on. School have said because they're a large primary they don't have enough books for them to be changed regularly and quarantined, they are still reading in school but as it's down to the class teacher and there's no fulltime TA for years 1 upwards it could only be once per half term - I don't see how my DDs reading will progress with that. Spellings and homework it's just something else for me to do isn't it? When I'm already stressed and worried.

I work 3 9 hour days with an hours break per day and it's just a lot to deal with.

The socks thing is because I have to go out and buy more so I'm wearing my mask in the supermarket, having to queue to get in etc.

I was already juggling a lot pre-covid and this has just made it all worse and I feel like I'm going mad but I've got to stay happy and smiley for my DD.

I just want it to get easier. Or something to give.

@Venicelover

I am a governor and we had a zoom gov meeting yesterday and the staff present looked absolutely exhausted and utterly fed up.

I can imagine, my DDs headteacher looks completely exhausted. I am not critisicing school at all, I just wish they'd either kept the schools closed or done away with some of the stupid rules like the reading books.

I understand. Its really a lot for you to handle. But as a mum if older teens, I'm giving you the voice of experience. My 2 hated swimming lessons at 6 so I withdrew them, then about 10ish they were very keen and learned in a few months!!
Also with school, she's got years to catch up and I'm sure she's not the only one finding it difficult. I'm sure the teachers will be expecting a lot of this.

I wouldn't pay for anymore lessons, put the money away for the future when she can go back.

All the best op

@ssd

I understand. Its really a lot for you to handle. But as a mum if older teens, I'm giving you the voice of experience. My 2 hated swimming lessons at 6 so I withdrew them, then about 10ish they were very keen and learned in a few months!! Also with school, she's got years to catch up and I'm sure she's not the only one finding it difficult. I'm sure the teachers will be expecting a lot of this.

I wouldn't pay for anymore lessons, put the money away for the future when she can go back.

All the best op

See DD absolutely loves Swimming, she's one of the few that doesn't cry. I just wanted something normal for her but I think it was too much to ask and it needs to go

This is so much better than doing all the homeschooling whilst wfh. I’m finding it much easier, yes the queuing for drop up is a faff but could be worse. The alternative is schools closing so I am much more positive about everything!

Totally agree.

On the swimming side - me and DS both have our swim stuff on under our clothes, so we just strip in 30 seconds and we're done! We have the same rule about 10 mins but I can't get myself and a 2 year old changed in 10 mins!!! Impossible!!! We do it in about 15 but no one is there to tell us off

My mum is in hospital. Burst appendicitis, really really ill. DH has had skin carcinoma diagnosis back in March, but nothing has been done since. I have had non-stop period since 29 August, spoke on the phone with my GP today about it, was told to 'wait and see'
I am fed up and upset about everything now. 2020 can f** off already!

Same.

When lockdown first started it was nice to have a rest from everything. Then i missed the activity but now it's all back on and I'm getting brain strain from all the things i have to remember. I hear you especially on the swimming lesson thing. Sooooo many rules to follow.

It's alright not to be alright.

This is a very sucky motor.

@rosie1959

I am sick of it to but unfortunately the virus doesnt give a shit so I am just going to have to get on with it. Be grateful for what I do have because getting stressed about it will have a negative effect.

Absolutely this !

A virus gives not a shit about
Boredom
Mental Health
Education
Employment
Money
Poverty (except it LIKES TO ATTACK THE POOR MORE THAN OTHERS - easy targets)

Yes it's shit . But unless everyone sticks to it - it will be double shit for twice as long with many more dead.

You aren't doing this for you (if you are young and healthy, you are doing this for grandparents, and people who are vulnerable- that you do and don't know.