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After today's accouncement - planning to ask for remote learning

149 replies

Howslifenow · 22/09/2020 15:27

After these new lockdown restrictions and increase in cases, is anyone planning to not send their kids to schools and ask for remote learning.
After today's announcement I am thinking of doing this.
YIBU - To do this
YANBU - It's fine if works for you and the school

OP posts:
RepeatSwan · 22/09/2020 16:11

You have to ignore the screeching to deregister instantly and have a 1-1 conversation. Every school and every head is different.

But you may need to deregister in the end, yes.

Leafbeans · 22/09/2020 16:14

You can ask, I can guess the answer.

Paperdove87 · 22/09/2020 16:15

We are already setting remote learning for the kids at my school every week. There are so many off at the moment. I think it's for self isolating ones though, so it sure if your school will support 'shielding'. You can but ask though, good luck!

ithinkiveseenthisfilmbefore · 22/09/2020 16:20

@Howslifenow

By remote learning - i just need indication of the work they will be doing for a week. I can work with my kid on these activities in my spare time along with DH.
Teachers don't really have time to provide this to every parent who wants it when they're already teaching full time. They just don't.

I hope the unions speak up, frankly.

SionnachRua · 22/09/2020 16:21

I think yabu but understand why you'd like it. As a teacher I wouldn't be giving you my termly plans. They have notes as to particular children's needs (now I don't work in the UK so maybe system is different there). I'll also point out that if your child is on my class list, I'm meant to be responsible for their learning. That can't happen if you are choosing to keep them at home.

RepeatSwan · 22/09/2020 16:22

I hope the unions speak up, frankly.

Given the unions want distancing, I would have thought moves to reduce crowding in schools would be in the interests of all.

emilyfrost · 22/09/2020 16:23

YABU. Either send them, or deregister and home school them full time.

There isn’t a pick and mix option depending on what works for you at the time, and your children would be missing out simply because of your anxiety.

BlusteryShowers · 22/09/2020 16:23

Is this primary or secondary? Remote learning and home educating are quite different. Teaching remotely is a job in itself, and teachers are now back working in the classroom. They cannot do both. The communication demands and alterations to lessons to suit home learners and classroom teaching would take too long.

By all means remove your child. Perhaps they could give you an indication of what will be covered e.g two weeks of fractions, three weeks on non fiction writing but I think YABU to expect lessons sent home.

Brighterthansunflowers · 22/09/2020 16:23

YABU to expect teachers to support remote learning while teaching in the classroom (and the teachers I know have extra lunch and break time duties and extra cleaning of surfaces to do on top of their normal job). Unless your child is extremely clinically vulnerable then if you choose not to send them to school it should be your responsibility to educate them. And risk potentially being fined or losing their school place.

AntiSocialDistancer · 22/09/2020 16:23

I've said YABU but obviously if you live with any severely vulnerable family members it would of course be more understandable.

Children's lives need enriching which you don't get solely through education.

Frazzled2207 · 22/09/2020 16:25

depends on the school but pretty sure ours would not support it (i.e. be able to send you stuff) unless there were exceptional circumstances. If the whole class was sent home to self isolate it would be different.

The positive social experience MY children get at school far outweighs the risk of them getting Covid but appreciate it is a personal choice. I do worry about how they will deal with self isolation, potentially several times though.

At least if you did take children out to home school you would not have to worry about self isolation and still go for walks and so on and have a much better consistency in routine.

BrazenlyDefying · 22/09/2020 16:28

All you're doing is doubling the teacher's workload. Regular work for the 28 kids in school. Remote work for the 2 kids who aren't.

Deregister for home education if you wish. Your choice. But don't expect the teachers to provide education to fit your exact desires and requirements.

Terrace58 · 22/09/2020 16:29

I’m in a different area and schools are legally obligated to provide a choice here for in-person or remote. Half of our school chose remote. It’s going extremely well. I can see how it might not work for very young kids, but my dd is year 6 and it feels like she is learning more remote than she would at school. All the teachers covering the remote classes are exclusively teaching remote students so they only have to have one set of curriculum. I know in areas with a lower rate of remote choice some of the teachers are splitting their days, but they never teach remote and in-person simultaneously.

For socialization, we formed pods with children’s friends that have also chosen remote and we have all agreed on certain guidelines for participation in the pod.

ktp100 · 22/09/2020 16:31

As far as I'm aware Heads have been told o issue fines for kids not in school.

Of course the decision comes down to them, but don't be surprised if they say no.

I too am worried about DS being in school as I need to be very careful not to catch it due to my weight. This really could come down to my son either having time with his peers or having a Mum, for us. He's only 7 so I need to be here for him and him being in school could seriously jeopardise that.

OfficeMonkee · 22/09/2020 16:31

Yabu to expect teachers to do this as well as teach in class. Unless you also have two full-time jobs Hmm

reluctantbrit · 22/09/2020 16:35

No as DD mental health has significant improved and her anxiety levels are way down since she is back at school.

Remote learning is the last thing she needs.

The school has made provisions how to deal with children ill or have to isolate but they won’t do this for parents who just don’t want to send their children,.

Mippi · 22/09/2020 16:37

Schools will already have remote learning set up for children who are self-isolating, so I would ask.

If not you can use the Oak National Academy online school to cover the curriculum.

Howslifenow · 22/09/2020 16:37

I’m in a different area and schools are legally obligated to provide a choice here for in-person or remote. Half of our school chose remote. It’s going extremely well. I can see how it might not work for very young kids, but my dd is year 6 and it feels like she is learning more remote than she would at school. All the teachers covering the remote classes are exclusively teaching remote students so they only have to have one set of curriculum. I know in areas with a lower rate of remote choice some of the teachers are splitting their days, but they never teach remote and in-person simultaneously.

For socialization, we formed pods with children’s friends that have also chosen remote and we have all agreed on certain guidelines for participation in the pod.

Excellent option. I don't know why UK is not doing this. I have no issues with people sending their kids to school but this gives options to everyone.

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QuestionMarkNow · 22/09/2020 16:38

For me YABU.
Because your dcs might be able to cope well with remote learning but not all will do

  • there are the ones who don’t have any support at home (usually low income families, only one computer etc...)
  • you have dcs on free school meals (will they eat?)
  • you have dc who are vulnerable (abusive parents)
  • you have dc who are in an exam year (GCSE or A levels)

Not been at school has affected the ones who are already are struggling. They dint need to be even more pushed down iyswim.

(My dcs would probably cope well btw but they are both in an exam year. Harder to tell how much the situation will affect them)

Howslifenow · 22/09/2020 16:38

Thanks. Signed the petition.

OP posts:
Rosehip10 · 22/09/2020 16:38

Deregister and homeschool then OP - schools are currently open, they are not going to double their work load by doing remote learning too.

DappledThings · 22/09/2020 16:40

After these new lockdown restrictions and increase in cases, is anyone planning to not send their kids to schools and ask for remote learning?
No, not at all. DC1 has only just started school. O hope that if schools all close again that it is the same as previously so we don't lose our nursery/school places because of DH working for NHS. Home school would be the absolute last resort.

YABU - To do this
YANBU - It's fine if works for you and the school
These voting options are different to your first question. "If it works for the school* is key. I can't see how it could possibly work for the school.to provide materials for home learning on one parent's whim.

QuestionMarkNow · 22/09/2020 16:40

@Howslifenow so not a deprived area with a SAHP to look after the dcs and support them.

Of course this is the ideal situation and I’m sure this would work. For YOU.
It’s unlikely to work for families where both parents are working, lower income, lower education level etc....

Howslifenow · 22/09/2020 16:41

Are you people not worried about around 5000 cases today. If people are allowed an option to WFH, why fine parents who want to keep kids at home. Even keeping them on the roll is enough for me as I can teach her for some time.

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