13 yr old ds is late for everything. He is so disorganised, is completely incapable of managing his own time. I spend most of my morning yelling at him to get ready and then he yells at me because he's fed up of constantly being yelled at. I'm fed up of constantly yelling. It's horrible.
I reckon I'm going to make sure he has his alarm set tonight, he has one of those light alarms, and he has his phone. So I will help him set as many alarms as he thinks he needs, make sure he has his bag and his uniform ready then I am going to leave him to it.
Problems with this are that I hate lateness. I really hate it. It is so rude and disrespectful to other people. I will be mega anxious if he is not actually up and ready.
Also the school don't seem to take any action if someone is late. I get a text saying ds was late today but there is no sanction at all in school. No staying in over break or anything, no-one has ever spoken to him about his lateness despite him being 5 or 10 minutes late at least once a week for most of his school life. So there is no incentive to be on time there.
I wonder if maybe him being properly half an hour(or quite possibly more) late might shock him into getting more organised, if he misses the start of an actual class and not just rolling in at the end of registration.
He doesn't have his phone in the morning, but he will be reading a book or playing with lego or reading the cereal packet or something. Sadly he has the ability to entertain himself in an empty room with just his imagination. But I can't pack away every single thing he owns anyway.
I feel like I am facilitating this behaviour by just micro-managing him through his entire morning. Which makes him angry with me and me angry with him. I am so fed up.
Would you just leave him to it, no matter how late he ends up being? Or at 13 is it still my job to get him to school on time at all costs?
Obviously if he's massively late 3 days in a row then my plan is not working and I will try something else. I'm not just going to let him be late every day for the rest of his life.
But AIBU to see what happens if he's not shouted at for the next few days?