To say I don't quite get the hatred for Gina Ford?

[wineandwhining]

So, I have been given a copy of the Contented Baby and the weaning book, and came onto MN to do some reading and realised that you cannot even mention her? I ebf my DD so definitely don't stretch her feeds, but the naps we adhere to quite well.

I see on here lots of divisive feelings for the woman but after reading her books and getting my girl into a good routine, I don't get the controversy.

Can someone explain it to me?

Why do women do this? I mean not all or even most. But birth choices/ feeding/ sleep are really angry horrible on here often. Why?

I don’t get it either. The shit I got from some people for following the routine was quite unbelievable. Really vicious. Apparently my dc would be psychologically damaged and be permanently inflexible. I mean, it’s just laughable. It’s a baby routine. It’s not feeding your children to sharks. Do it if you want, don’t if you don’t.

My dc have grown up to be completely normal, happy children, as have all their peers regardless of who were co-sleepers, GF babies, breast fed, bottle fed, SAHM, WOHM.

Luckily I have a thick skin so just rolled my eyes; not everyone is able to shake off the barbs.

Honestly it's ridiculous. A decade or so on you cannot tell who had a routine, who didn't, who was breast fed and who wasn't.

Make choices that work for you and don't tear down other people's choices.

venusclaptrap

MN has many members who are anti routine and critical of people who bottle feed.

There seems to be an assumption that we all left our baby crying alone for the whole evening in a blacked out room.

Whenever anyone tries to say that it worked it's met with disdain and disbelief.

I have no idea why people get so worked up. I wonder if men chat in the pub about how the baby is fed, whether they're co-sleeping, when to wean etc. Pretty sure they don't discuss the baby at all - let alone criticise each other's parenting.

I don't think anyone is anti routine per se, every baby seems to have a routine they naturally fall into, the disagreement is whether the parent should impose a routine on the baby.

slightlybrwn that's the thing - it isn't necessarily imposed & most small children & babies like a routine. They know what to expect So less crying because they're never particularly hungry or tired.