to think it's normal to find medical professionals attractive?

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I have a couple of chronic health issues and see a a variety of doctors and nurses at hospital as well as visit my local practice for bloods etc.

Both my consultants are male, older than me and lovely. One is Indian the other is Scottish. They are both married as am I but when Isee them it is always very pleasant and I come away thinking how attractive they are. At my local practice I am often seen by a variety of young doctors male and female and they are all lovely and the young male doctors always seem very attractive to me.

I think it is the gentleness and care that is so nice and that it's only natural to find that appealing and as a straight woman I find the men attractive. I am not developing massive crushes on any of them or having fantasies about them but I do think they are lovely.

I think this is pretty normal and that people often find doctors and nurses of both genders attractive, am I being unreasonable?

I've spent a lot of time in and out of hospital. I can see a caring nature is very attractive but I don't find my medical team attractive.

@ZaraW Perhaps I'm just very lucky with my doctors!

I think it makes sense to find someone who cares for/helps you attractive. This happened to a friend of mine, she had a long term undiagnosed chronic condition which a lot of others doctors were very dismissive of or insisted she was exaggerating. She finally got a new doctor who took her very seriously and gave her a diagnosis, as well as finding a treatment plan to help and manage her pain. She developed a massive crush on him! But wasn’t sure if it was partly because she finally felt heard, and those feelings of relief and gratitude morphed into an attraction.

@Sparklesocks Yes that makes total sense, I'm sure her feelings of relief and being heard did contribute to her crush on her doctor. I imagine it would be quite common, perhaps more so if you have medical issues and come to depend on certain doctors.

Medical Secretary here
NO! Definitely not when you know any of them.

However, there are always a few patients think they are in love with them and send presents and some very odd letters. This happened when I worked in the NHS in the past and now I have been long in the private sector where the specialists also have this sometimes (luckily not too often as the people that do have a crush on them are usually rather delusional and a bit scary). Quite a lot of patients don't seem to realise that the practice emails are all read initially by the secretary, who filters out the ones the specialist needs to see - likewise with the post and answerphone messages.

The doctor on the post-natal ward was one of the most attractive people I’d seen in real life. I mentioned it to the midwife and she said it was the hormones, all the mums say it but he’s really nothing special. I don’t know though.

I agree OP.. cant understand what it is either.. but there is something about them

I agree. My dd had had a bad spate of health and we have seen a lot of doctors. She has rated them all, to be fair she isn't wrong as every single one is good looking.

Eh? No.

I understand! A good brain and a caring nature are two things which would be near the top of my list anyway, and doctors tend to have both.

@mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork Well that is interesting but I'm not surprised that people feel like that as it is nice to be taken care of but in my case I am not delusional and know they are just doing their job and being nice! How weird to send letters and gifts! Also as you imply they will have a professional persona / bedside manner which might not be who they really are. A friend of mine is a psychiatrist and if you knew her off duty self, you might just pass on her treating you but she's a wonderful doctor.

@Unsuremover @SadSack39 @isthismylifenow

Glad that some others can agree with me!

I once had a gorgeous anaesthesiologist. Got all fluttery when he cane round to do the pre-surgery checks.
Mortified when, on reading the surgical notes afterwards, I realised he’d inserted an anal suppository to manage pain/sickness during the process.

Lol Jesus Christ absolutely not. Half my family are doctors/medical field so all people in healthcare are pretty sexless to me. I think this is good because I have absolutely no shame/concern about telling them/showing them weird symptoms haha

I'm married to a Dr - met him before he was qualified, back in uni. He was handsome then too

He's in his 40s and says he has had several little old ladies tell him they wish they were 30 years younger! Ha! He said they say this after boring routine check-ups, and his opinion is that it is because he's sitting looking them in the face and listening attentively for 10/20 full minutes, which they sadly often don't get elsewhere.

It's 'Man On A Stage' syndrome.

Anyone in a position of authority is deemed more attractive than they would otherwise be, just by deign of being in that position.

Boris would never have got a shag otherwise 😂

What? No!

It's normal to find the ones you find attractive, attractive, yes!

But not all of them as a special breed or something. Apart from anything else many are the wrong sex or age for me

This is the female equivalent of sexy nurse stereotype isn't it? Which is not a great thing for nurses.

Loool as a nurse I can confirm that there are some very handsome doctors around

I've met one doctor I found very attractive but it was a very embarrassing Harry Enfield 'Oooh young man!!!' type way. And then he turned out to be a friend of a friend.

My ENT consultant is very nice & friendly but not my type. He looks like Jeremy Vine. I meet quite a few doctors through work and they all have a great sense of humour though, which is quite attractive.

I'm a scrub nurse. It always amuses me to see the young female nurses fawning over the male surgeons. It stops after a few years on the job.

I think it's entirely understandable - they're focussing on you, and listening and caring and trying to help you. A lot of people, sadly, don't have many people in their lives who do do that, and to have someone do that exclusively with their time for whatever time you're with them, is very nice to be on the receiving end of.

I work in adult mental health, and some of my regular clients have a lot of people in their lives, but don't have anyone other than me who just listens and focuses on them and helps, and you can see how much it means to people.

(None of my clients fancy me though, I'm pretty sure).

Thanks for all the replies and answers especially from the medical pro's themselves who see the other side of things! I don't know perhaps it is just me, I think I might be capable of finding any man attractive which might be a subject for another thread!

It's because they are listening to you and helping you... their caring nature is attractive. For me, it's a rare opportunity to talk about myself and receive support. They make me feel cared for which is nice and therefore attractive.

Good grief, OP, after 36 years as a hospital doctor, I have to say I think you need an eye test!
Docs are just people- with the usual proportion of the good, the bad and the ugly. And the few better looking ones were often raging narcissists. Especially if they were also surgeons. (But I would say that, being a retired anaesthetist...!)

@ShinyMe Hmm I do have friends, family and a great partner so I do have support from people who care about me outside hospital but I was raised to never really talk about my medical issues as it was unseemly so I don't no matter how much I'm suffering so perhaps feeling free to talk about my health issues means more to me than I realise!