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To miss out on this show as I don't want to wear a mask

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Witterywoman · 18/09/2020 07:42

DD and I (along with friend & her DD) were due to see a West End show we'd been wanting to see for ages. It was cancelled due to Covid. We then bought tickets for a drive in version of the show which was cancelled last minute. They've now announced a limited run of the show later this year. I was initially excited thinking 3rd time lucky but my heart sank when I read all the inevitable "Covid safe" blurb about masks, sanitising and temp checks. Sent it to my friend anyway who was "urgh no thanks". She then added we'd probably get cancelled again anyway! Although I would love to see the show I too don't think it's worth the hassle. DD & I hate wearing masks for any length of time so to wear for an entire show plus the journey into town would just be uncomfortable & depressing.

I know it's good to support the arts but I just feel sad about the whole thing. We"ve tried to go out and do normal things like go out for meals, to attractions etc but just feel sad at the reality at how far from normal things are and don't feel I can be bothered trying anymore.

No point to this really, I know why these measures are necessary but just feel so sad about it all and long for it all to end. I find seeing masks everywhere so depressing! Unfortunately reality has dawned that we may be living like this for a very very long time Hmm

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LastGoldenDaysOfSummer · 18/09/2020 10:47

YABVU.

If the arts are to survive this is how it's going to be.

It's just a mask, FFS.

lughnasadh · 18/09/2020 10:47

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Georgyporky · 18/09/2020 10:50

The guidelines state "face covering".
I wear a full-face visor that I find comfortable to wear. It sits on a spectacle frame :-
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B08F3WSLN3/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?psc=1&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8

Havaiana · 18/09/2020 10:51

@Georgyporky Those are £1 at the market!

Potterpotterpotter · 18/09/2020 10:52

@ameliajoan

YABU. Masks are here to stay and tbh you just need to get the fuck over it and wear one.

Plenty of people wear them all day every day with no issues.

Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

Doesn’t matter if some people have to wear them all day or not. No one has to spend their leisure time with one on if they don’t want to.

LouisBalfour · 18/09/2020 10:52

I’d cancel too. Like others, I’ll wear a mask for a dash around the supermarket, but I avoid anything else that requires one.

Completely different if you have to wear one for work, then you just have to get used to it.

Runnerduck34 · 18/09/2020 10:52

Up to you, you have to weigh up the pleasure of seeing the show against the discomfort of wearing a mask. No wrong or right answer just do whats right for you.
Not all masks are equal though , some are more comfortable than others and in an air conditioned/ cooler environment they are more comfortable. You also become more used to them the more you wear them,but tbh I dont really like wearing them either.

idontevenknowanyonecalledblurb · 18/09/2020 10:56

Is this six? Where are the new dates? We've had it cancelled twice!

SmileyClare · 18/09/2020 10:59

I think for your own mental state perhaps try to change your view that you find masks "depressing" . It's fine if you choose to avoid all mask wearing situations but you may find you're restricting your life and stopping yourself doing activities you previously enjoyed and that made your life better?

I have accepted masks as part of life and do not find it depressing to wear one or to see others wearing them. Can you try to view it as more of a positive thing? A sign people are being socially responsible where they can so that society and the economy can continue to function.

I agree with pps, the more you go about your life wearing a mask, the less of an issue it is.

Obviously that doesn't apply to people who are suffering with severe ptsd. I'm sorry for anyone who is distressed by the wearing of a mask. That sounds very difficult.

Looneytune253 · 18/09/2020 11:00

Seriously? If you really wanted to see the show you would just wear the mask, if you're not that bothered about the show you wouldn't. No need to feel sad or depressed about it. Masks are not the end of the world. I say that as an asthmatic who just wears a mask when required

Umbridge34 · 18/09/2020 11:02

@SBTLove

You don’t like? good job NHS staff aren’t so precious in full ppe all day. Honestly grown adults bleating about I don’t like, I feel uncomfortable🙄
I'm sick of comments like this.

I'm a nurse, I obviously wear a mask all day at work. I purposely avoid scenarios in my non work life where I have to wear a mask for too long because I find them uncomfortable and theyre ruining my skin underneath.
That doesn't make me precious for fucks sake, it makes me a huma like everyone else.

Etinox · 18/09/2020 11:04

@Wiredforsound

Oh for Gods sake. I’m sick of this whiny ‘I’m too special to wear a mask’ crap. Just wear the fucking mask. You’re not being asked to stick pins in your eyeballs. It’s just a bit of cloth over your nose and mouth. Nobody actually loves wearing a mask but it’s really not a big deal at all once you’re used to it.
Agreed, wear a mask or don't wear one. It's your choice.
MsWonderful · 18/09/2020 11:05

I had a mask that sucked in when breathing, that I hated. I've now replaced it with a lovely cotton pleated one which doesn't suck in and is comfortable to wear

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 18/09/2020 11:07

I wouldn't go. I'm just accepting that anything requiring masks isn't for me at the moment. I've tried really hard to get used to them but I absolutely loathe them and get zero enjoyment from any activity requiring them. Managed to take my children to a park which needed them on the entrance, wore it for literally the minute it took me to pay. I spent the next 3 hours panicking about having to do the same to leave. Kids want to go back...not sure I can face it.

Brighterthansunflowers · 18/09/2020 11:07

@idontevenknowanyonecalledblurb

Think it’s November/December, in the west end for the London cast and also the Lowry in Salford Quays for the tour cast. The dates were on the Six fb or their website

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 18/09/2020 11:07

Why make it about a 4 year being held and raped?
Because I was. I was just a child yet I need to get the fuck over it? Maybe if it were her child she'd have some fucking empathy for others. Sick to death of people being the mask police. Had 2 people just this morning confront me about it. One more and I'll be explaining myself in graphic detail in front of their damn kids who are supposedly better than me because they can wear them and I can't.

2andahalfpints · 18/09/2020 11:09

You need some perspective

If it was important enough to you, you'd do it with the mask.

I sat with one on for 3 hours so u could hold my nans hand in her last hours, I didn't even think about it.

SockYarn · 18/09/2020 11:09

I wouldn't go and sit through a 3 hour or whatever performance in a mask either. Refund please!

And if they're doing the social distance, 2 metres apart thing anyway, then why do you need masks?

SmileyClare · 18/09/2020 11:15

I'm sorry you're dealing with such trauma nothingcanhurtme I agree there is no need for members of the public to confront people. A card or lanyard explaining your exemption might make you feel more confident, although you shouldn't have to justify yourself, some people are interfering idiots.

This is probably not the right thread to make your point about mask exemptions but I see your point and your pain is almost tangible in your posts. I hope you have some support Flowers

GroupSects · 18/09/2020 11:16

The thing is with Six is you don’t just sit and watch it. it’s more like a concert. You join in and cheer and holler etc. I feel muted in a mask and it puts me off talking some might say not such a bad thing Grin

SockYarn · 18/09/2020 11:18

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

The complaining is all very tedious now. My four year old is capable of wearing a mask around the supermarket for 45 minutes without all of these dramatics, so this behaviour from grown women is absurd. Grow up.

You have a very resilient four year old if they can wear something over their face after being held down and raped with a hoodie pressed over their face so that their crying didn't make the rapist lose their erection.

Oh wait. Sorry that was me. But, you know, I'm happy to relive that every time I go in a shop for the next year, so long as no one thinks I'm whining or being dramatic or thinking I'm special. Perhaps if it had been your child you might have a bit of compassion for them.

Doctors choose a career where they have to wear PPE. We aren't choosing, we're being forced. No matter how much distress it causes us because even when we are legally exempt some busybody, holier than thou, smug cunt thinks they have the right to judge and go Oh but my 4 year old... just fuck off and take your mask with you.

Where's the emoji for the round of applause?

People are such total arses about this mask thing. Some people are exempt. Even if you're not exempt, there is NOTHING WRONG with stating that actually, you hate masks and only wear them because you're forced to by the government legislation.

There is NO RULE which says you have to be joyous, and Pollyanna, and all "OMG i'm SO excited about wearing my wonderful, amazing mask!"

They are shite. They are uncomfortable, sinister and mean you can't see people's faces. The super thin ones which are more comfortably are utterly pointless. The single use ones are devastating to the environment. The cloth ones are unhygienic and get soggy.

It's all about performance hygiene.

madcatladyforever · 18/09/2020 11:21

No definitely don't go you are far too selfish to be allowed to enjoy the company of a show with other people there.
Don't you watch the news? It isn't safe right now.
I wear a mask 12 hours a day at work in the NHS and it is no big deal at all, I don't even notice I'm wearing it half the time. You are being ridiculous and a petulant princess.

Thecobwebsarewinning · 18/09/2020 11:21

I felt the same way about 3 months ago. I love theatre and have missed it so much but decided I wouldn’t be going again if I had to wear a mask. However this is set to go on for a long time yet and I don’t want theatre to die so I cracked last week and am off to London for a matinee later today and I have booked 3 more shows over the next few weeks. I am at the point when I would wear a beekeepers veil and a wetsuit if that was needed to try and get life back on track.

It’s The Bridge theatre near Tower Bridge I’m going to today and with all the Covid precautions it’s going to be very different to previous visits there. Isolated seating, temperature checks, a time slot for me to arrive and go straight to my seat, wearing a pesky face mask etc. But I don’t care! I am just so psyched to be going to a theatre!

OhCaptain · 18/09/2020 11:22

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

The complaining is all very tedious now. My four year old is capable of wearing a mask around the supermarket for 45 minutes without all of these dramatics, so this behaviour from grown women is absurd. Grow up.

You have a very resilient four year old if they can wear something over their face after being held down and raped with a hoodie pressed over their face so that their crying didn't make the rapist lose their erection.

Oh wait. Sorry that was me. But, you know, I'm happy to relive that every time I go in a shop for the next year, so long as no one thinks I'm whining or being dramatic or thinking I'm special. Perhaps if it had been your child you might have a bit of compassion for them.

Doctors choose a career where they have to wear PPE. We aren't choosing, we're being forced. No matter how much distress it causes us because even when we are legally exempt some busybody, holier than thou, smug cunt thinks they have the right to judge and go Oh but my 4 year old... just fuck off and take your mask with you.

What the fuck? Uncalled for.

Don't talk about her four year old being held down and raped because she made a quip about mask wearing.

Thecobwebsarewinning · 18/09/2020 11:22

I’ve also booked Six for a few weeks time. 😀