To think the receptionist at the hospital was a little odd..

[Dyinginsideatthecringe]

Hello,

I have a few mixed reviews on this so thought I would ask complete strangers what they thought -

I went to the hospital today for my 20 week scan and I went to the main entrance reception to put a mask on and do my hands etc all that and the young man on reception asked where I was heading - I couldn't think of the name antenatal and just said "oh it's for my twenty week scan" and he replied saying "ohhhhh have you been doing naughty things?", I was a bit taken back by this as obviously didn't expect it so laughed a bit then walked away but my husband thinks it was completely inappropriate and thinks I should complain (so maybe this is more is my husband BU).

What do people think? Now I don't really think much of it but I don't know if it would have made other women uncomfortable.

YABU - it was a joke.
YANBU - it was unprofessional and he shouldn't have said it.

I'd be a bit taken aback but also find it quite low-level amusing.

Not a fan of complain culture.

He had a pretty basic/vaguely immature sense of humour.

I find it OTT that your husband would be acting like he has somehow sullied your honour or something.

YANBU, It was completely unacceptable and unprofessional, you should report him. No member of staff should ever make off colour jokes which make patients feel uncomfortable.

Massively unprofessional, obviously.

I think its a little odd, but after thinking that i would forget about it. Not worth complaining about.

Yanbu, that was unprofessional. I don't understand what he was insinuating, though?

Wouldn’t complain. He sounds like he was attempting to be humorous, albeit badly.

I would have felt uncomfortable too, completely unnecessary and unprofessional. If they have a general email address I’d inform them of their receptionists’ poor communication and let them deal with it, but I wouldn’t get worked up about it to the extent of a proper complaint.

The execution was odd, but you would be unreasonable to complain. Was clearly just trying to be friendly. They were probably running it through their head after over and over cringing.

Ah leave him be. Weird times right now.

I don't think he meant any harm, just trying to make a joke that didn't quite work? Was he insinuating that sex was the "naughty thing"?

Not good. I’m not sensitive but I think I would complain. Bit gross. Was it said flirtatiously?

I took the "naughty things" as sex - honestly I'm not going to complain, like others have said i think it was a bad attempt at being funny and I still cringe about things I've said about 10 years ago (more specifically before I fall asleep ) no harm done, just wanted to know what people thought - I told my husband if he's made other women uncomfortable they can complain but I'm not bothered about it.

@Stellaroses

Not good. I’m not sensitive but I think I would complain. Bit gross. Was it said flirtatiously?

I don't think he was flirting unless big baby bumps and masks are his thing

He was being weird and unprofessional.
You don't have to make an official complaint, but you could write to the hospital telling them, saying you don't want to take it any further but found it odd and unsettling.

That's a really weird and creepy thing to say.

It’s a joke.get a sense of humour and grow up,he didn’t mean anything by it.

He needs training. Imagine if he said that to a rape survivor FFS. And he has no way of knowing.

Do people genuinely not understand why hospital staff who don't know you shouldn't make rude jokes?

Weirdos.

peculiar - for all he knew, could've been the culmination of years of fertility treatment.
Extremely unprofessional.

It sounds like a joke. Get over yourself

Not sure why a couple of people are being a bit nasty about it as I said in the original thread I'm not bothered about it but as someone else has mentioned it may have made other women uncomfortable especially if they are a rape survivor or any other circumstance and then in my updates I said I wasn't gonna complain and no harm done so not sure what I need to get over but okay, fair enough.

Not sure why a couple of people are being a bit nasty about it

Because they are enormous tools.

Having a dirty sense of humour and medical staff who I don't know? The Venn diagram should be two distinct circles.

@Dutypaid

It sounds like a joke. Get over yourself

As mentioned upthread, there could be many reasons why his "joke" was inappropriate. OP isn't going to make an issue out of it anyway, so not sure what she has to "get over"?

It was a somewhat poor comment given that the NHS is a public service and lots of people in all sorts of situations could come through. But at the same time, robotic and scripted interactions from people serving the public are also poor, leading to a lack of connection and cultural capital and, making people feel like they may as well have spoken to Alexa or Google Home. This can also lead to poorer outcomes,

If you were actually upset by the comment then I think a complaint (ideally as a comment to the man at the time) is fair enough - in the spirit of feedback so that he can better calibrate his communication. Otherwise, leave it.

Definitely weird and creepy. It was either (as another poster mentioned) a poor attempt at an inappropriate joke or he's a complete weirdo with access to medical records. I would report it.

I don’t understand the joke? Did he mean you’d done ‘naughty things’ (sex I assume?) 20 weeks earlier and that’s why you were pregnant/at a 20 week scan?