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Can she go to school?

57 replies

rabbitheadlights · 11/09/2020 07:38

sorry I know this has been done to death but I can't figure it out.

My ds woke on Monday with a heavy cold including a cough. Kept all dcs home and took him for a test. Self isolated until we got the results which were negative. Everyone back to school Wednesday.
Now today dd14 has woken with the same, now it seems obvious to me she's caught ds's cold but will school see it like that or does she now also need to test and all of us isolate again?

Yanbu ... send her in
Ya u.... test and isolate

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hippohector · 11/09/2020 08:36

Although it’s highly likely that she has just caught your DS’s cold, you can’t be 100% certain. We are repeatedly told that older children are more likely to catch/spread Covid, so there is a chance that she has caught it from school.
Also, her school probably won’t just take your word for it that she has just caught your DS’s cold (lots of parents unfortunately make things up just to send their kids in) so I think she should probably be tested.
It’s a pain in the arse but that’s what I would do, just to be sure.
If she gets a negative result (which hopefully she will) she can go into school and tell them that if she is asked why she is coughing etc. Kids can be immature and cruel and it will stop any silly teasing like ‘ew, have you got Covid’ etc.

NoGelForHands · 11/09/2020 08:39

Like hippo said. I expect that the school will just send them straight home anyway. Ring them for advice.

MinnieMountain · 11/09/2020 08:41

Test and isolate.

We're currently isolating until we get test results for DS who has classic cold symptoms. When I spoke to the COVID line yesterday, I was told to keep him off if his cough's bad and he's negative as people get antsy about these things.

Crockof · 11/09/2020 08:44

Definitely don't send her in, schools have said stay at home if sick. Is it a dry cough that has been going on for over an hour or three bouts of coughing? If yes test, if no just keep her off. The criteria for a test is quite clear. I don't agree with the criteria but we should follow it.

Potterpotterpotter · 11/09/2020 09:01

I’d Send her in.

I also wouldn’t of kept all children off last time and only the child that had a cold as the others weren’t showing symptoms.

My dd primary school told a different mum to send there child in even though a sibling had cold symptoms.

Sh05 · 11/09/2020 09:10

Our primary have said that if outside of covid times you would have sent them in then send them in now as well. After 6 months of limited contact with outsiders I think kids will be catching everything going.

catsarecute · 11/09/2020 09:16

If she's got a new cough, she needs to isolate and get tested unfortunately :-( it's going to be a right pain all winter. I would expect (hope) that schools would send home any child with a new cough anyway. Hope she's better soon.

rabbitheadlights · 11/09/2020 09:41

So split 50/50 I gave kept her home and will get her tested, I have sent the others to school though. Which I think technically I shouldn't but they were all off monday/Tuesday waiting for ds7 results, which were negative and itshighly likely she just has what he did. if I were to keep them all off to test and isolate everytime one of them is under the weather they will literally never be in i have 7dc!

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fairplay · 11/09/2020 10:26

We're in a similar position. Ds got cold symptoms on Monday and a temperature on Monday evening. All of us isolating (as per the guidelines) whilst he was tested on Tuesday, negative result yesterday. Now dd has a temp and is going for a test so we're all isolating again. Although we're 99% certain dd has the same bug as ds, there is a slim chance that it could be covid.

NerrSnerr · 11/09/2020 10:33

She has a new continuous cough so needs testing and isolation. I know it's likely to be what her brother had but no one can be 100%.

The guidelines for Covid testing has been clear all along- someone with new symptoms needs testing, it is irrelevant who else has been tested in the family.

Notfeelinggreattoday · 11/09/2020 10:39

@potterpotter she had to keep the others of whilst waiting for
Test result , that is the rules
If one person in your household has symptoms you all isolate until a negative test
It concerns me that people still don't know this

Notfeelinggreattoday · 11/09/2020 10:41

I have kept my dc 15 off today he has just a runny nose but is sneezing a lot
He currently had no official covid isolation signs but i didn't think it was fair to him or others to send him in whist he is sneezing , even a cold people can do without at the moment

22Giraffes · 11/09/2020 10:42

Ds had a cold at the beginning of the week and developed a cough he ALWAYS get with a cold on Wednesday. I am well and have zero symptoms but got him and myself tested as I work in a school and they wanted me to test so I could come back to work. Results are negative but it clearly states in my results message that if I develop symptoms I will need to test again, despite the fact it will most likely I will have just caught the same cold.

It is a pain, and as winter comes kids are going to miss a lot school due to normal coughs and colds. It's shit.

Notfeelinggreattoday · 11/09/2020 10:43

Also think because new symptoms that could be then need a test but maybe ask 119
Or a dr etc for advice
It does seem like we may be testing regularly throughout cold and flu season as know way of telling apart if have cough / temp etc

Spam88 · 11/09/2020 10:53

Not sure why people think there's any ambiguity here - your household need to isolate and she needs a test. You absolutely should not have sent your other kids to school.

NerrSnerr · 11/09/2020 11:14

if I were to keep them all off to test and isolate everytime one of them is under the weather they will literally never be in i have 7dc!

The guidelines state (and have stated since they changed them mid March) that if someone has Covid symptoms EVERYONE in the household needs to self isolate. It has been over 6 months, why are people not getting this?

No bloody wonder cases are going up- I know in this case it's likely to be a cold but it won't be every time. The rules are clear on the gov uk and NHS websites. It is not ambiguous at all.

Potterpotterpotter · 11/09/2020 12:10

[quote Notfeelinggreattoday]@potterpotter she had to keep the others of whilst waiting for
Test result , that is the rules
If one person in your household has symptoms you all isolate until a negative test
It concerns me that people still don't know this [/quote]
Just going by what my daughters primary school has said.
Kids would be off every 2 minutes at this rate if everyone stayed off for a sniffle.
There’s no way entire households can isolate every time a child has a sniffle through winter, specially when a family has multiple kids and they each catch it one after another. Parents have to work and lots won’t get paid if they don’t turn up.

user1471530109 · 11/09/2020 12:16

But you're missing the major point that if you are waiting a test result, ALL household has to isolate.

When my youngest just had a snotty nose, her sister went to school as per schools instructions. But the next day they both had a cough so we had a test. All of us isolating how and waiting results.

NerrSnerr · 11/09/2020 12:47

There’s no way entire households can isolate every time a child has a sniffle through winter, specially when a family has multiple kids and they each catch it one after another. Parents have to work and lots won’t get paid if they don’t turn up.

They don't have to isolate with a sniffle. They have to isolate when someone has Covid symptoms. This is government guidance and school's rules are irrelevant as you'd have to all isolate whether they're going to school or not.

Makes me wonder how many people have been going off to work and getting on with their life over the summer instead of isolating and getting tested? There's no excuse not to know the rules as it's clear on the gov uk and NHS web pages.

Potterpotterpotter · 11/09/2020 12:50

@NerrSnerr

There’s no way entire households can isolate every time a child has a sniffle through winter, specially when a family has multiple kids and they each catch it one after another. Parents have to work and lots won’t get paid if they don’t turn up.

They don't have to isolate with a sniffle. They have to isolate when someone has Covid symptoms. This is government guidance and school's rules are irrelevant as you'd have to all isolate whether they're going to school or not.

Makes me wonder how many people have been going off to work and getting on with their life over the summer instead of isolating and getting tested? There's no excuse not to know the rules as it's clear on the gov uk and NHS web pages.

Loads will have. Some People can not afford to stay home.
TheFuckingDogs · 11/09/2020 13:01

Yes in what world do you think that a self employed couple with 3 kids as an example can all completely isolate for 2 weeks every time one of the kids has potential Covid/very likely common cold symptoms?

user1471530109 · 11/09/2020 13:08

@TheFuckingDogs

Yes in what world do you think that a self employed couple with 3 kids as an example can all completely isolate for 2 weeks every time one of the kids has potential Covid/very likely common cold symptoms?
Are you serious? So you wouldn't isolate? I'm sorry if that is particularly hard in your situation, but you would need to book a test asap and hopefully only be isolating for a day or two. You only need to do the above if you have covid symptoms.

If this is a true representation of the British public we are all screwed.

NerrSnerr · 11/09/2020 13:24

@TheFuckingDogs they don't need to isolate for 2 weeks. They need to isolate until a negative test result has come back.

TheFuckingDogs · 11/09/2020 13:33

That could take a while depending on where you are in the U.K. - I’m not saying this is my situation by the way (I’m lucky it’s not) but the money to help is no longer there - if you’re in an area where the testing is in the go slow and your kid has a “normal winter cold” which for them happens to include a cough you might be disinclined to enter the whole testing system and potentially lose days/weeks if work. You might not like it but this is a reality for some people 🤷🏼‍♀️

TheFuckingDogs · 11/09/2020 13:35

Also most schools are sending out the message - send them if you would’ve done normally- yet a bit of a cough, sniffles but no temp could depending on the various definitions be Covid symptoms in a kid - it could also be a normal cold