To think that ensuites shouldnt be for number 2's?

[landann]

Were buying a place snd the master has an en suite, i just think that it shouldnt be used for poo's well at bedtime anyway, as otherwise massive mood killer... AIBU? Thoughts?

There is a family bathroom and downstairs WC btw. So plenty of options lol

YABU

I actually collect pictures of hotels Ive stayed in and the weird en-suited I’ve encountered.

Two see-through bathroom doors (and no, they werent the ones that turn opaque.
One ‘saloon-style’ set of swing doors with a foot gap at the top and bottom
One saloon-style set of glass doors with huge gap at the bottom
One with no door at all, just at right angles to the bed in the corner

If I’d been sharing, Zi’d have been forced to use the ones in the bar or reception area.

I don't see the point of a toilet that one is only "allowed" to use for "number 1". Why bother?

That said, of course we should try to be courteous and respectful of the other people in the house, within reason.

Unfortunately, the way our house is laid out, someone in our bed is just as likely to hear "noises" from the main bathroom as they are from the en suite. We just switch on the fan and the other person pretends not to hear turns up the volume on the TV, music, or whatever.

I have IBS I don't care I'm going wherever is a toilet and loo roll. I don't care if DH needs a poo either, can open a window and shut the door. I'd probably grumble if it really stinks but wouldn't tell him where to poo in his own home!

My DH has rubbed my back and stayed with me in the bathroom when I've had bad ibs attacks. It's rare but when it's been bad I've been in tears and curled up in pain. I feel grateful we're not bothered by body functions & it hasn't affected our attraction to each other.

I don’t have an en-suite - there’s only one loo between four of us. My OH can stink out the entire house and that’s with VIPoo, the window open and air freshener afterwards. It’s so embarrassing when someone comes to the front door (loo at top of stairs door at bottom) and they get hit with the stench of his shite.

Definitely no pooing in the en-suite and if I had my way he’d be sent to the bottom of the garden to save the rest of us.

You wouldn't shit in the corner of your living room - so why would you in your bedroom?

Because it’s a separate room with a door your comparison makes no sense!

I saw a house for sale once and it had an "open plan" ensuite meaning the toilet and bath were in the bedroom, not separated by a wall!

It depends on the nature of the en suite, too many now are in newer builds that frankly don't really have space for them, so a corner is carved off the bedroom with plasterboard, meaning no sound insulation and a toilet half a dozen paces from your bed, it's worse than a travel lodge not refurbished since the seventies

I don’t get the fixation with ensuites. I rejected a two bedroomed new build because it had an en-suite for each bedroom AND a loo downstairs. Potentially three loos four sinks, a shower and a bath with shower screen for me to clean. Who needs it?

@Polnm

All these people who say no-why? Are they not adequately plumbed and ventilated?

The problem is, people section off a sad bit of bedroom with no window and you can hear everything 🤪 I'm with a previous poster - totally overrated! I would only ever have one if it was a proper room.

I have to ask wtf you are all eating with these rancid smells 😂 DH and I must be super healthy as neither of us have rancid smelly poos.

Goodness. So now the measure of being posh is not only how many en-suites you have, but how little they are used. What’s the point of them? How the other half live.

@EhUp

This thread makes me very relieved that we don't have an en-suite

It makes me very glad I have my own en-suite

@peppervort the opposite, it's us poor folks with tiny crappy ensuutes with no windows and are like a wardrobe are definitely not the posh ones!
Posh people have no we wn suites with windows and proper insulated walls can afford to shit in them!

It is not a rule in our house but neither of us would choose to do a poo in a room next to the room our partner was in at bedroom. Our house is old so walls generally thick but the part we are in is an extension and the wall a stud wall so can definitely hear through.

What is wrong with your diets that you are all doing such stinky shits?

@UserFriendly14

See if anything I have no downstairs WC poo rule. This is used by guests (OK perhaps not at the moment) and CBA to be cleaning it after every DH visit, which often tends to back it up.

Again if anything, it’s nice to take oneself off upstairs for a bit of peace and quiet.

If your DH backs up the loo. He fucking cleans it up, surely?

PanamaPattie

Yep - next to the freestanding bath.“

Hate those. Lovely at 25 I imagine, not so hot watching each other get in and out in your 60s

I even poo at work and in other people's houses and I'm not even anxious about if it smells. Rock and Roll

Me too.

It's a perfectly normal bodily function, we all do it and I don't get why some people are so hung up about it.

It makes me laugh how uptight some mumsnetters are about their natural bodily functions that we all have! I couldn't care less, it's a toilet.

Never holiday in a caravan, you'll have a traumatic week

Or a motorhome. You can hear someone having a pee from the outside and, while there's no splash from the chemical toilet, you can definitely hear fart noises.

There's something quite amusing about having a crap while parked on a High Street somewhere, and hearing strangers chatting while they walk past just a couple of feet from your head.

There's a door for a reason.

I onlt noticed how much sounds travels through the walls since I've been wfh and I'm mid terrace i can hear my beighbojr sneezing, scrapping dinner plates etc. Other day I was in my downstairs loo which looking at floor plans of kthe rneigjbournis almost sharing a wall with theirbliunfw and i could hear muffled talking.....

Its made me paranoid they could hear me on the loo so I now (which I know ppl will say is wasteful) put some loo roll in the bowl before going.

My main bathroom upstairs backs onto their main bedroom

Close the door, light a candle, or spray air freshener.

I suppose causing an explosion is one way of getting rid of the smell

so my point was sounds travels in certain houses! My bedroom is next to the main bathroom I had friend stay over and even with all doors shut I could here her peeing

I need a new house thats got cavity insulation