I posted last night i was on the verge of cancelling the cleaner coming (after years of debating whether to get one because I wasn't posh enough) . I wanted to spend the evening cleaning before she got here but i got lots of reassurance to just tidy.
She came and was fab, we discussed what I want doing and have increased from 2 hours to 3 hours (£12p/hr) - not mega ecpensice and id sacrifice other things.
Wishing I got one years ago.....would have save many arguements with useless DH