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Original poster

Aibu to think I'm not being weird?

87 replies

Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 21:40

Sorry. Posting for traffic and company

I'm speculating here...what kind of person are you? My 3 year old was blue lighted to hospital with his dad at 4pm - they sent a first responder and an ambulance. Both of which arrived in exactly two minutes. I've just found out he's being admitted.

I've put my two year old to bed. Tidied the kitchen, put the dishwasher on and put the washing machine on... please tell me I'm not the only crazy person who feels the need to empty the washing basket and hoover the stairs in times of crisis?

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QuestionableMouse · 09/09/2020 21:42

No when my mum was in hospital recently I spent most of the time baking! Anything to take my mind off it.

Hope your lo is OK

DramaAlpaca · 09/09/2020 21:45

I do that too. For me it's about being prepared for whatever's coming next and trying to keep some control over what's happening.

Hope your DC is OK.

tealandteal · 09/09/2020 21:46

Thinking of you and your DS, you are definitely not weird for distracting yourself in difficult times.

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Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 21:46

Baking sounds like a brilliant idea. Unfortunately the adrenaline is wearing off and I'm getting tired.

I hate not being there but really can't hack the idea of hospital right now. Husband will be fine.

The hospital are not particularly communicating as usual

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Waveysnail · 09/09/2020 21:48

I eat Blush

Baileyscheesecake · 09/09/2020 21:51

Sending you best wishes for a speedy recovery for your son and hope he’s back home with you very soon Flowers

RaspberryToupee · 09/09/2020 21:51

I make cups of tea. And offer around biscuits. If I can make cups of tea (for instance if we’re in hospital), I will offer to get cups of tea constantly. I don’t even drink tea or coffee.

I hope everything is ok.

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Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 21:52

Eating is good..stock up on energy. I havent managed more than a few bites of dinner. I could do with losing a few lbs though so dont mind. I am an emotional eater but not a stress eater.

Half my neighbours text me within minutes of the ambulance arriving to offer assistance

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Takemetothebar · 09/09/2020 21:53

Stress and worry affects us all differently. It’s ok, it’s allowed. I sleep! I’d have gone to bed with the 2year old at 7pm.

I do hope your little one is alright and home soon.

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Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 21:53

I would like to sleep but feel when I don't know if my 3 year old is ok that i would be an awful mother to sleep. That's silly I know.

I'm only really giving a monologue of my thoughts

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Shizzlestix · 09/09/2020 21:54

I hope your little one is ok. I’m an emotional household chores person too. Maybe it’s a stress relief thing, it definitely helps.

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Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 21:59

I'm worried under my calm exterior.

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dillydallydollydaydream7 · 09/09/2020 22:02

Hope your LO is okay PP

Disneyvillain · 09/09/2020 22:02

Could you take a nap? You need to look after yourself xx

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Heartofstrings · 09/09/2020 22:04

I'm literally sat on my bed in a daze and aimlessly pressing buttons on my phone.

I'm imagining he's ok. But it's not nice to hear sirens and know they are coming for your child

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Pinkshrimp · 09/09/2020 22:09

Flowers I hope you hear soon and all is well

Sk1nnyB1tch · 09/09/2020 22:18

I hope your son is well OP.
Stress busywork is one of the saner ways I respond to crisis, you are not alone.

meow1989 · 09/09/2020 22:18

I am always the person to go to hospital (not just ds, if a family member needs to go etc), I need to be there (as in i need it for me and to be fair, I'm usually the most useful person as I don't panic and have insight into what might happen/what questions to ask).

But Keeping yourself busy is a perfectly normal thing to do, a defence mechanism if you will. It'll be night time when you have time to let your mind wander that might be difficult so try to take a book or something to bed with you.

I hope your little one is OK Flowers

rambleon1 · 09/09/2020 22:21

I'd be so out of my mind with worry I wouldn't even be able to chat on MN.

ChrisPrattsFace · 09/09/2020 22:23

Two minutes though, he literally couldn’t have got help any faster, we’re 55 minutes from our nearest hospital without traffic.
I hope he’s on OP. You eat, sleep, whatever fluky want to get through.

user1473878824 · 09/09/2020 22:24

I stress clean WHILE eating. Hope all is okay xxx

user1473878824 · 09/09/2020 22:25

@rambleon1

I'd be so out of my mind with worry I wouldn't even be able to chat on MN.
Helpful.
HandfulofDust · 09/09/2020 22:31

When I'm anxious I can't do anything even remotely productive. I can only try to distract myself by watching mindless shows on Netflix (probaby comes across as even more odd to be watching friends during a crises). I'd much rather be like you! Hope everything is OK with your little one OP!

MamaLKB · 09/09/2020 22:32

What?

Why are you not with your DC?!

I'm sorry but that's not normal. Mothers should be with their babies. How serious are we talking?

DameFanny · 09/09/2020 22:33

When my father died I came home and reassembled the spinning wheel I'd taken apart the week before for cleaning. Hadn't slept properly in 3 days, cried for most of them, had to do something. Felt right to be putting something back together again. Like you did with getting the house ready for your family. All my hopes for your 3yo's swift and complete recovery Flowers