Calling people's kids ugly. AIBU to think this is low?

[Justwhyyyy]

Work colleague posted this today on Facebook. I've name changed for obvious reasons as you never know who's on here.

"Alright man shit, I've had enough of seeing your ugly kids. Yes school is back in session"

I'm one of the many parents who have shared a photo of my child returning to school today. I appreciate acquaintances aren't interested but I have plenty of family and friends who are. I don't post for their benefit or entertainment nor do I expect others to gush over my DC and comment etc. I post significant events to document our year and to reflect on in time using the memories feature.

AIBU to think this is a disgusting thing to post online about peoples children?

Why do you plaster your kids’ photos all over FB ? Send to family members in a what’s app group. I have three kids but I’m sick of seeing the ‘back to school photos’ if I’m honest.

They’ve got a good point, those posts are utterly boring and reminiscent of the sheep-like behaviour of Facebook.

My newsfeed has been full of holiday photos as of late with people going abroad once restrictions were lifted.

At no point did I think to myself "stop posting your bloody holiday pictures they're boring"

I just find it sad that some people are that miserable they actually get annoyed about seeing photos of children returning to school.

You can hide these photos on the newsfeed in seconds.

I’m like you OP. I post things that are mainly for my family and serve as our family crap book. We’re sharing memories that pop up from years ago (albeit the memories via messenger). If people don’t want to see what I’m posting, they’re very welcome to scroll on by, hide my posts, take a break or unfriend me.

If I saw this from a work colleague, I’d have to think if I really want them as a “friend” on Facebook. If not, unfriend. Otherwise, choose to hide their posts (by unfollowing) abc you’ll not see anything from them unless you specifically go search them out

I have been doing this a lot with people posting stupid covid conspiracy theories and very uneducated idiotic mask posts plus people who are overly political. Not what I want to see

@Byallmeans

This one cracked me up this year.

Yes I did post pics of my kids too!

Yes, hilarious, the use of a person with a facial deformity type disability, badly photoshopped onto a childs body...

I've no idea if that ones real or pinched from some film but REAL disabled peoples images ARE being used in memes, horrible tiktok pranks etc

I thought that was Sloth from the Goonies?

@PhilSwagielka

I thought that was Sloth from the Goonies?

It is indeed - John Matuszak with make-up.

I haven't seen anybody else moaning

Maybe not publicly like your colleague but there are plenty of people who just aren't arsed about your kids back to school photos and find them annoying. They take up my entire feed every September.

I honestly couldn't get worked up about her status. The way you're going on you'd have thought she'd comment on your photo calling your specific child ugly.

She isn't calling any specific child ugly. She's making a joke about how no one cares that your kid is going to / back to school.

Really the only people who are interested in other people's children tend to be family or close friends.

I think this is more about your embarrassment that you're one of the people she's saying are annoying imo rather than some faux concern for the non specific children she's calling ugly 🤷‍♀️

The meme isn’t making fun of children saying they are ugly. They are just frustrated with all the back to school photos. Find this so weird that you’re so worked up about it and you’re focusing on the word ugly. They don’t really mean it!

I think you need to get off social media if this is your reaction. There a millions of memes like this!

OP I’d agree it’s mean and unnecessary.

As others have said lots of people post “boring” shit that others aren’t interested in. You just scroll past if you aren’t interested or unfollow if you’re really bothered.

It isn't nice but then things like this wouldn't bother me because the reality is I find it slightly irresponsible to post photos of children's first school day which include the uniform school logo etc and I don't understand the use of facebook to document things regarding children. I never post my children's first day school photo, they actually ask me not to and I respect their digital footprint. Don't get me wrong I have posted a few photo of them in the past but now they are 13 and 10 they don't want to be plastered all over my facebook. I use private family/friends whatspp groups and I'm also old school in that I print my photos! I just don't feel comfortable putting my kids life on my facebook knowing people who I actually don't know that well anymore as we went to school with each other over 25 years ago get to know all about my kids.

It is a bit mean. But the back to school photos are weird. I don't know why anyone would want to see them other than parents and maybe other close family members.

Facebook is filled with misinformation, coronabollocks, far-right bullshit, MLM bots being both exploited and trying to exploit and fake news yet the one thing you think is 'disgusting' is some random person calling some non-specific children 'ugly'.

Have you nothing in your life besides mothering?

I’m like you OP. I post things that are mainly for my family and serve as our family crap book.

I'm guessing that's a typo, but a brilliant one 🤣.

I don't find it offensive. Actually, I agree with it.

@Justgorgeous

Why do you plaster your kids’ photos all over FB ? Send to family members in a what’s app group. I have three kids but I’m sick of seeing the ‘back to school photos’ if I’m honest.

Thanks Just that's how I feel. I just don't understand why people plaster their kids all over SM. No issues at all with people taking 'first day back' photos and so on but I don't understand why it warrants so much publicity. Yes, it's great that they're able to go back to school and see their peers, but I don't get it. I haven't even taken a photo for my own collection this year as to be honest, it's the same uniform and it'd be in front of the same wall.

It's not a pleasant thing to post but it's no more annoying than the endless boring photos of their kids, holidays, birthdays and every other aspect of their lives that many people choose to post on Facebook with the mistaken belief that anyone except them could care less. "Disgusting" is a bit strong.

@WorraLiberty

Well it's certainly not very nice.

But then nor is using social media to 'document' anything about your child's private life.

There are other far more private ways to do that.

Complete agree. These kids haven't agreed to have their identities plastered all over social media. If I had kids I'd be worried about paedos, perverts or whatever getting hold of them. Sick and probably hugely dramatic, but it happens. The worst is parents posting pictures of their naked children, in the bath or on the potty. Grim. And fucking stupid.

I would unfriend the miserable sod.

You've got to remember that not everyone thinks your kids are gorgeous. The people who put comments up, saying they are, don't really mean it, and people do get fed up of seeing lots of pictures of kids.

To all the people saying it’s boring putting pictures of your kids on tv:

How is a photo of your holiday, good, run, weekend plans or pet any different?
Or your opinion on current events, politics or modern culture?

Facebook is for people to share photos and updates about their life, really. If you don’t like seeing baby or kid photos, just unfriendly peopl. Making nasty comments about people sharing back to school photos but then posting photos of your cat or new bike is a bit pathetic really

Oops! Yes SCRAP book, not crap book, but I’m sure to some it’s full of crap 😁 Hoping those people just scroll on by

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