DD can’t stop crying- breakup

[teachinggreen]

DD1’s boyfriend called her last night to break up with her. They’re 17. They’ve been together for two years and I think his reasoning for the breakup is what is breaking DD.

He says he loves her but he can’t be with someone who supports an anti semite. DD was obviously quite confused and questioned this statement and what came out was very jumbled and unclear. It seems that her ex boyfriend was very angry that DD remained a Labour party member when Corbyn was in power as he felt unsafe with the thought of him as PM.

I’m devastated for poor DD. This was very random and when she stated that, he simply said his friends and he had discussed it and they couldn’t stand her politics and therefore her morals, in which case their relationship wouldn’t be going anywhere into adulthood as they have contrasting opinions.

DD asked if that was all, to which he said that her friends infuriated him and her best friend is a ‘marxist cunt’.

Incase you couldn’t tell, they’re all quite into politics. Except DD doesn’t let it impact her personal life, unlike her ex boyfriend who has been very righteous about it in the past and is applying to do PPE.

I don’t know what to do. DD’s friends came over early this morning to comfort her but she hasn’t stopped crying for hours, taking a couple of hours break to sleep.

How do I help her see that this is isn’t her fault? She is just blaming herself and it is painful to watch.

Definitely early days. Let her feel sad for a bit, but in time, in hindsight she'll more than likely look back with relief/amusement at what an eejit he is being.

She’s had a lucky escape if you ask me.

[quote teachinggreen]**@MadameMeursault* @Rhine*
I suppose a benefit of this is I won’t be subjected to conversations/lectures on how brilliant unregulated capitalism would be from an entitled 17 year old boy anymore [/quote]
Sounds like a right hateful little shit! She’s so well rid!

[quote teachinggreen]**@MadameMeursault* @Rhine*
I suppose a benefit of this is I won’t be subjected to conversations/lectures on how brilliant unregulated capitalism would be from an entitled 17 year old boy anymore [/quote]
God he sounds tedious. Sounds like she had a lucky escape.

@sst1234

Out of interest, why is everyone so outraged by the boyfriend. He didn’t agree with his girlfriends political leanings so he broke up with her. He didn’t insult her, he said he doesn’t agree with the people she supports and associates with. His choice to do that. Should he have ignored her, blanked her, lied to her?

Or is it that everyone’s offended by his politics?

He called her friend a ‘Marxist cunt’. I think that’s pretty extreme and insulting.

Ahhhh bless her. I’m sure she’ll be fine but feels awful now. Of course if she’s upset, so are you.
His reason sounds absolutely rubbish though.

Incompatible views on politics or religion are sensible reasons for breaking up,
along with views on having kids or on managing finances

However, whatever the reasons, his insults and demonising of her and her friends are nasty and his previous tantrums attempting to control her are red flags - she is well rid of him

More to the point, what did your DD see in her capitalist arsehole ex boyfriend?

She’ll cry for a bit but hopefully she’ll eventually find someone who believes in the same things she does and she’ll realise the error of her ways in ever entertaining this dick.

Ice Cream. Preferably expensive. I was so worried about my DD recently after a break up. Never seen her so upset. 2 weeks of her shadowing me like she was a baby again. So many tears. Very hard work.

2 months later she's reconnected with old friends that she didn't have time for because of ex, she's smiling again and has realised she's ok.

She's even starting to go out with someone else who I think will be much better for her.
I am a very relieved parent and I hope your experience is similar. Xx

I don’t think that there is an outpouring of spite from the other posters! That is a bit of a stretch, no OP, do you have selective reading? Or is bad faith an art form?

@teachinggreen it isn’t. If your DD’s ex were Muslim and your DD a member of UKIP I’d have said the same

Corbyn is old news now so it's strange that this has suddenly become a deal-breaker for him. Either he wants to be single when he goes off to Uni so he can play the field or he's already met someone else.

Aw, the poor thing. It's rotten at that age, regardless of reason. Just let her cry, provide all the tea and sympathy she needs and in a few weeks time, encourage her to move on. There will be plenty of young men out there who will believe your DD to be quite the catch. I shall refrain from name-calling and just say I think she is well rid.

Wow, teenage boys have gone very principled and self-righteous.

When I was 16 my 17 year old bf broke up with me because I wouldn’t go further than fingering

To be honest she will love uni when she will have her choice of young passionate Marxists. She could have a different one each night of the week!

She’ll be fine, one day she’ll look back and wonder what she even saw in him. I think it’s a bit odd a 17 year old would be so hooked up on political views to the point of it affecting his relationships. He’ll have a hard time finding the perfect girl with the exact views and opinions as him. Your dd had a lucky escape, boys like this can often end up quite controlling (experience not general judgemental)

@TheNanny23

To be honest she will love uni when she will have her choice of young passionate Marxists. She could have a different one each night of the week!

If they're anything like SWSS when I was a student, it'll be one big red orgy. One of the student exec members who was in SWSS had a reputation for shagging anything that moved.