Dear God please help me chick

[quantumdog]

Help me to work out a way to nip this madness in the bud please.
Newish partner refers to me as 'chick'. I don't know why, but this really winds me up and I'm losing all respect for him.
I'm not a 'chick'. I'm not newly hatched, I'm 40 and I've been around the block a few times. 😆
For context, this evening he's said 'Would you like another drink Chick?' and 'Sounds like you had a great week Chick', amongst many more chick type references.
He's so lovely and I know I should just tell him, but I've already had to reign him in on other things in the last few weeks, so to bring this up now would just feel pedantic.
Could you suggest a way of pulling him up on this without causing offence please? A witty riposte perhaps, or a nickname to counter this that I could call him?
Or am a just being utterly ridiculous? I mean, there are far worse things he could call me...right?

I can't stand any 'pet' names such as babe, babes, hun, chick etc. Myself and my partner call each other it in jest if we want something or are being witty but we both hate it thank god. I'm a very black and white person and I can't understand why you can't just say 'I'm sorry it might seem a bit unimportant but I really hate being called chick, can you not please otherwise I might have to start calling you cock!' you could make a joke of it.

aww my boyfriend used to call me gorgeous when we were first going out. I told him to stop- he did- and now I feel bad about it and miss it!

be careful what you wish for!
(although chick would make me hurl)

If he can't change it then I'm afraid it will be time to say goodbye.

Only on MN! You sound rather hard work tbh. You say he is a good man, yet you've had to pull him up because he gifted you a car (LTB - what a thing to do!), and he's overly attentive - and now he calls you a fairly inoffensive name. I would rather hang onto a good man than moan about his petty faults - but I don't think the pair of you are compatible. Maybe it's time to cut him loose so he can find someone more laid back who will appreciate him.

If you don't like it then tell him. It's just a matter of personal preference. Personally, Chick wouldn't bother me because it sounds like duck which (having grown up up in the Midlands) sounds friendly.

My pet hates are babe and hun. I can't stand those.

I quite like chick. Babe though, omg no way could I be with a man who called me babe or baby, nope.

How about just saying nicely, “Hmmm... I don’t really feel like a ‘chick’. Where does that come from anyway?”

Sounds like my ex husband on a smaller scale reduce someone to a nickname not their own name gives gifts to seem so generous (tells other people he HAD to do it or else)

I'm sure it will a work out just hold your boundaries and a real person wouldn't mind you asking them to use your real name

"Forgotten my name have you?"

Nip it in the bud. My husband occasionally uses a term of endearment I hate but we've been together about 12 years so I think it's probably too late to mention it....

Just tell him that your name is X, you dislike being referred to as 'chick' and ignore him when he uses this.
It's not a term of endearment - he can't be arsed to learn what your name is.

Scream loudly in his face every time he does it, he’ll soon stop!

Agh! It's difficult. I've decided that I will work my way through suggestions on here in order, methodically, until he gets the message

To me that sounds much more aggressive than a simple :I don't like being called chick.

Have you perhaps got the ick ?
Whenever my DH calls me ‘love’ I want to stab him as I don’t love him and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t love me any more.

I quite like chick. Babe though, omg no way could I be with a man who called me babe or baby, nope.

‘Chick’ (or ‘hen’ in my part of the world) are the kinds of endearments I could only imagine being called by family/friends that I wasn’t having sex with. It would put the relationship instantly on a non-sex footing for me.

Could you call him ‘hen’, @quantumdog?

This might be too indirect, but maybe trying to put aside the extreme irritation and have a positive-sounding conversation (since you're happy with him and you're likely to be together for a nice long time) about pet names, what he likes to be called, what each of you have been called in the past, what you'd like to be called rather than chick etc. (and hope he doesn't over correct and start using your first name in every sentence like a bad salesman).

My Dsis had a BF that called her "monkey" I cringed so often I had a constant crick in my neck.

I hate pet names for partners, it feels really disrespectful to me not to use someone's name.

It would give me the ick but I assume it’s a pet name and he doesn’t refer to women as chicks in some unreconstructed 70s way?

Tell him to stop 🙄

Chick/chicky isn’t a girl thing, it doesn’t mean chick in the American sense, which does come from chica. It Is just a term of endearment for children or a close relative, like hen or ducks. My Mother and her sister used it and they were born in 1928 and 1931, I think it is an old fashioned term now, but sweet. Mum called my brother chicky too, and any small child she was affectionate to, or a relative a younger than her.

My friend’s husband calls her Queen. I like that.

Aw my Dad calls me chick ❤️

But yeah I would hate it from a partner 😂

I'm going to suggest to DH that he starts calling me Queen or Empress.

This is easy: say to him, “It’s just a figure of speech and no biggie but my ex used to call me chick and it’s bringing back all bad memories and I only want good things with you. Can you call me something else? Like ‘mate/babe/lovekin’?”

My mate gets called ‘Duchess’ which I love a it’s so EastEnders

@GoodbyePorpoiseSpit

My mate gets called ‘Duchess’ which I love a it’s so EastEnders

That immediately reminded me of Jimmy Savile 🤮