Dear God please help me chick

[quantumdog]

Help me to work out a way to nip this madness in the bud please.
Newish partner refers to me as 'chick'. I don't know why, but this really winds me up and I'm losing all respect for him.
I'm not a 'chick'. I'm not newly hatched, I'm 40 and I've been around the block a few times. 😆
For context, this evening he's said 'Would you like another drink Chick?' and 'Sounds like you had a great week Chick', amongst many more chick type references.
He's so lovely and I know I should just tell him, but I've already had to reign him in on other things in the last few weeks, so to bring this up now would just feel pedantic.
Could you suggest a way of pulling him up on this without causing offence please? A witty riposte perhaps, or a nickname to counter this that I could call him?
Or am a just being utterly ridiculous? I mean, there are far worse things he could call me...right?

It's just a corruption of chica. Might you hate that less?

Oh God, I couldn't be doing with that. I'd have to tell him to pack it in. Silly names like that would be pretty much a deal breaker for me.

If you’ve had to have serious conversations on some things can you make this a joke? Or at least light hearted? Or just.. learn to like it? I hated babe but one boyfriend did it all the time and I just got used to it and quite missed it!

@Anordinarymum Yeah yeah, I get that that would be the easiest and most efficient way...but I don't feel like I can say that in a fairly new relationship when I've already put my foot down on a couple of things. I'd feel totally unreasonable and a bit of a bully.
He should be able to pet name me however he chooses within reason. I'm pretty easy going generally, but 'chick' grinds my gears for some unexplained reason.
It's a question of perception. You might take offence to being called 'Tubba Chunk' for example.
I take offence to being called 'chick'.

I thought chick was a Midlands dialect thing. Here in London it's love, darlin' or sometimes babe.

If anyone ever called me babe I would hit them over the head with a blunt instrument

I don't want to think about what I would do if they said I was hormonal

You're 40 years old, fgs. You should have enough fortitude by now to speak up for yourself. "Please stop referring to me as "chick." I don't like it."

How hard is that?

Call him Roo and when he eventually asks why say you thought it was some weird sex thing he was into, you were the chicken and he was the rooster or was he just being a bit of a cock?

Yeah yeah, I get that that would be the easiest and most efficient way...but I don't feel like I can say that in a fairly new relationship when I've already put my foot down on a couple of things. I'd feel totally unreasonable and a bit of a bully.

Logic would say that if there's been that many issues you've had to raise then the two of you are not compatible. Stop wasting your time.

Babe, baby, chick, hun - they all make me cringe. Then again, my DH calls me 'Gibbo' because he thinks I look like a gibbon. To be fair, I do somewhat.

@Mypathtriedtokillme

Call him Roo and when he eventually asks why say you thought it was some weird sex thing he was into, you were the chicken and he was the rooster or was he just being a bit of a cock?

@Aquamarine1029 I take your comments on board, but we are compatible. It's just small creases to iron out.

[quote quantumdog]@Aquamarine1029 I take your comments on board, but we are compatible. It's just small creases to iron out. [/quote]
If you don't feel comfortable to say what is quite literally a 4 second sentence because it contains a constructive (yet friendly) request then I'm afraid you're not compatible at all.....

One ex-lover who was great in many other ways used to call me "kiddo."
I'd have welcomed "Chick" as a substitute.

Just say, I don't like being called chick, can you call me (love, beautiful, lover, sexy, empress or even, your name) instead.

What would you like me to call you?

What other things have you put your foot down about?

@Alwaysinpain I do feel comfortable...if I never want to see him again. 😆 Right now I'm torn because I've been a bit of a cow bag telling him what I expect from him, and then this arises. It just feels a stretch too far, but maybe that's just me and I need to grow a pair.
I'm actually very abrupt and upfront. Something that my marriage struggled for, so I don't want to repeat that. Nowadays pI'm constantly having to vet my opinions and set up mental checkpoints for the shit that comes out of my mouth, so I'm trying to be a better person.

I find this very strange. You're looking for something quite specific and none of the suggestions have been what you want so far. The way you write comes across as quite assertive so it's surprising that you found other 'minor' things to 'rein him in' and 'have a word with him' about. This seems like quite a major problem for you so why did you have words over minutiae and ignore this issue?
It comes across as you're trying a little bit too hard to be cool. If witty comebacks aren't naturally your thing then just ask him to use your name only when talking or referring to you.

What other things have you put your foot down about?

Could be worse could be 'babe/s'

Im joking bad either way, I would come with one in return for him

What are the other things that you had to talk to him about?

@Ohtherewearethen
I have no idea why you think that I haven't got the responses I'm looking for this far. RTFT?
This is a minor problem in the relationship, it's a pet name ffs, but it doesn't mean that I don't find it irksome.
Also I'm not sure where I mentioned 'minutiae'. They are small but significant issues for me, and as you don't know me personally you have no idea what those issues are or just how significant or insignificant they are to me.

Trying to be cool? 😆 Okay. I'll let you have that one because for once I'm lost for a 'witty' comeback.

The other issues thus far are that he gifted me a car (albeit quite an old car) and refused to accept token payment. And that he's overly attentive; although I feel that's my past rearing it's head. These are things we've had issues with over the past few weeks, after 7/8 months of plain sailing. To bring up the 'chick' thing right now would be a kick in the teeth for him so I don't want to do it that way. He's a good man, so I don't want to throw our relationship away but the 'chick' thing does annoy me sadly.

I just couldn’t be with someone who called me chick so I’m no help.

My dad calls me chick sometimes..never been boahtered but would probably find it weird from a partner.

My mums ex used to constantly call me duck, which pissed me off. He seemed to actively try not to do it once I told him it was annoying yet he still had a habit of calling seemingly all female people duck..

Tbh I hate any kind of term like that, always irritates me and no idea why really. Even the likes of 'mate' which my sister overuses a LOT