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AIBU?

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Original poster

aibu to think mn should be for mums and not dads.

882 replies

2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 12:39

id like to think that when i come on here for a quick chat im talking to other women. ive noticed some men on here and thats actually putting me off. some of the topics we talk about are very intimate. i cant understand why men would want to come on this website, maybe the name should be changed to parentnet. aibu.

OP posts:
compo · 06/10/2007 12:40

yabu
why shouldn't dads be able to visit a parenting site.
After all they are interesting in parenting issues too.

screaminghousewife · 06/10/2007 12:40

Yes, you are, some of the men on here are v. helpful, not to mention wonderfully witty. And sometimes it's nice to have a male perspective.

pollywollydooooooooodle · 06/10/2007 12:41

sits down with a nice drink and waits....

Gizmo · 06/10/2007 12:41

YABU

For me, the men on here are valued contributers. It may be mumsnet, but the resources are valuable for all parents and as long as the men make a contribution, I don't have a problem.

themildmanneredaxemurderer · 06/10/2007 12:41

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Saturn74 · 06/10/2007 12:41

It's a public forum!
Do you honestly think that the only people reading it are the ones who post.
And you could be a man, for all we know!

BeetrootMNRoyalty · 06/10/2007 12:41

yabu

littlelapintofbloodmwahaha · 06/10/2007 12:42

Yes, YABU. There are some really cool male posters, and they are very helpful (and sometimes witty ). Are you concerned they might be leching on threads about SEX or PRIVATE PARTS?!!! It's not like they can see you, or know who you are, you know.

And for all you know, we could all be men anyway!

MaryAnnSingletomb · 06/10/2007 12:44

definitely YABU - I like the men on here...

HairyIrene · 06/10/2007 12:44

yabu
its just a naff name

you could not control who reads it anyway, so why TRY to control who posts..
infact HOW would you know????

vacua · 06/10/2007 12:45

yikes, it can be catty enough without excising what little male influence there is

HairyIrene · 06/10/2007 12:45

are you a man?

LoRayningNewtsAndFrogs · 06/10/2007 12:46

Of course you are being unreasonable!!!

Why should it be a problem?? I doubt the male members take much notice of the 'girly' stuff that you feel may be too intimate for them to read, they, like most others, find threads they have an opinion on and make a comment.

I also think sometimes, as women, we can get very anti-men, it's good for us to get a man's perspective and to find out WHY they are behaving like they are, or HOW men feel in the situations we talk about.

I hope you don't ever post a thread on which you get the best advice from a man and ignore because of such.

Mossy · 06/10/2007 12:46

Yes, yabu. Nice to have a male perspective sometimes (especially when you're posting about what an arse your dh is and you get a bloke saying "yes, actually, he is an arse") and I think it's great that there are some blokes out there who are interested enough in parenting their children that they actually come on a web forum to discuss it!

vacua · 06/10/2007 12:46

You're the hairy one, not me.

cornsilk · 06/10/2007 12:47

YABU. Some of the male posters are hilarious. Would be a duller place without them.

Original poster
2hot2cook · 06/10/2007 12:55

im most definitely a women, but i feel uneasy that i might be talking to other men. im not a prude or anything but id like to be chatting to women. would you be happy for your dh/dp to be chatting on here?
im not sure i would.

OP posts:
cornsilk · 06/10/2007 12:57

Well you can usually recognise the men anyway by their names.

vacua · 06/10/2007 12:57

I'd be quite happy but luckily for me I haven't grown up in a place where sexual segregation is the norm or where men and women can't communicate without impulsively screwing one another into a coma.

littlelapintofbloodmwahaha · 06/10/2007 12:57

Why not? My DH is a funny, kind, erudite man. I think he could offer some useful advice.

Presumably you think they are going to FLIRT! Well, I hate to break it to you, but some of the other posters are gay

ChantillyLace · 06/10/2007 12:58

YABU I've had some great debates with the Dads on here, they are a valuable contribution to the site but agree the name should be changed cos it probably puts off a lot more men than attracts!

As for the intimate bits, if they're married and/or dads they already know all about our bits and pieces and how gross and funny it can all be!

colditz · 06/10/2007 12:58

Yes you are.

Bet you are one of those women who don't let their husband do anything with the children in case he does is 'wrong'. Then you sit and fume with your mates about how he doesn't do anything with the children.

if you don't want to have intimate discussions with men, stop having intimate discussions on the internet. Men are watching you, looking at everything you post, whether you can see them or not.

It's not a crime to possess a penis while discussing children. Yet.

daisyandbabybootoo · 06/10/2007 12:59

yabu.......the men's contribution is valuable, and tbh, I'm not sure they wander onto the "have I had a show" threads very often.

LyraSilvertongue · 06/10/2007 12:59

2hot2cook, that's the problem with the world wide web in general, you have no idea who you're chatting to, whatever site you're on. If you're uncomfortable I'd suggest you stop chatting online on public forums.
YABU

ChantillyLace · 06/10/2007 12:59

My DH wants to join cos he's heard me laughing at some of the posts and I've discussed ones that have upset me/got to me/annoyed me and he thinks it sounds like a great place!