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Devastated DC will miss first day of reception

63 replies

Callalilyponder · 02/09/2020 17:39

DC has started with a temperature and cough today, the day before she is due to start school. She will miss her first day of reception, probably longer. She's quite a shy child and not many of her nursery friends are going to her new school.

Aibu to be devastated and think that it will effect her settling in and making friends? Not to mention her confidence?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/09/2020 17:41

I would be gutted and I understand why you are but honestly it won’t make any difference. It’s a few days in the grand scheme of years, and I imagine a lot of kids will start and stop due to covid (isolating, staying home with colds etc).

BikeRunSki · 02/09/2020 17:41

Is it even a full day?
I think the teacher will make an extra special fuss of her if she comes later.
It’s a shame, but you know it makes sense. She’d only be sent home with those symptoms anyway.

Stompythedinosaur · 02/09/2020 17:42

I can understand how you are feeling, but she will be OK. She will still settle in and make friends. Her teacher will have had kids not be there for the first day already.

malificent7 · 02/09/2020 17:43

Awwww...she will be fine...i get why you are upset though.

AriettyHomily · 02/09/2020 17:43

Devastated is extreme, she'll be fine.

Jamhandprints · 02/09/2020 17:45

My kids are in year 2 and 4 but they both have cough and fever too. Goodness knows how, as we have only been to the park a few times and sanitised like crazy.
DS2 has SEN and really could have done with not missing all the welcome activities.
But really, a lot of kids will be in the same situation this term and reception is a crazy blur for the children at the start anyway. Your DD won't miss much, just lots of children crying and having toilet accidents. Hopefully they'll have calmed down a bit when she starts and it'll be easier for her to see what's going on.

NailsNeedDoing · 02/09/2020 17:45

I work in reception, she will be fine, honestly. If anything, reception is the best out of all the year groups to miss the first few days if you’re going to miss any, it really won’t affect her friendships.

WhyIsItSoHardToPickAUsername · 02/09/2020 17:46

Aw I'd be upset too. First day of school is such a big deal. She'll be ok though Thanks

londonrach · 02/09/2020 17:51

I understand how you feel as my daughter starts tomorrow...for one whole hour, it really nothing. I doubt they be making lifelong friends in a few days so your daughter wont miss out and start feeling better x

ThatBitch · 02/09/2020 17:54

My dc arrived in the country having missed the first 3 weeks of reception ( we were living abroad, moving dates dictated by employer). Honestly it didn't matter to him. If anything I would say he found it easier because the classroom had settled down and the teachers had an extra couple of minutes for him while the other children knew how to come in and hang up coats, sit on the carpet etc. Just be calm with her, maybe read some stories about school and move on. These things happen.

TheBitchOfTheVicar · 02/09/2020 17:59

I missed the first two weeks of school, apparently - and this was in the days when younger children went at different times in the year, so I was already not attending until after Christmas.

I don't remember it at all and had plenty of friends.

VainAbigail · 02/09/2020 18:00

Devastated is quite extreme. Your child will be fine and will settle in beautifully when she starts.

2bazookas · 02/09/2020 18:06

Don't worry. It just means that when she starts, other children in her class will be able to show /tell her what to do and the teacher will give her extra personal attention. That combination should make it easier for a shy child, rather than harder.

Porcupineinwaiting · 02/09/2020 18:08

I think you may be catastrophising. It will make no difference long term at all. Hope she gets well soon.

NoSquirrels · 02/09/2020 18:11

I would feel the way you do, but I know 100% that it won’t make a difference to her settling.

In some schools the reception start dates are so staggered some of them are in for weeks before the full class is in all day. It really doesn’t affect them - it’s good practice in some schools (even if inconvenient for parents!)

Don’t worry. It will still be her first day of school when she gets to go.

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Doodar · 02/09/2020 18:13

no-one will notice and your dc won't remember

Decentsalnotime · 02/09/2020 18:14

She’s showing symptoms!!

She should be off for longer than one week FGS!

user1471462428 · 02/09/2020 18:31

My daughter’s friend fell down the stairs and broke both arms and missed the first six weeks- she’s very popular and doesn’t seem to have missed out. Please try not to worry... could request a covid test.

MrsWombat · 02/09/2020 18:53

Hope her test result comes quickly and she can go in. I'm sure it will be fine.

MsTSwift · 02/09/2020 18:54

Devastated!?!

Disabrie22 · 02/09/2020 18:56

You are not alone - I cried buckets yesterday - one of mine came down with a cough and we are stuck waiting for the results of a Covid test. I’m a teacher so missing school too - sending you big hugs, flowers and wine xxxx

Longtalljosie · 02/09/2020 18:57

Oh piss off all you competitively relaxed parents taking the piss out of a mum whose first child is starting school. OP - she will be fine. Promise. Many reception kids have a staggered start anyway.

PablosHoney · 02/09/2020 19:00

Yanbu to feel upset but she will be fine, her first day will still be her first day and she’ll be fussed over when she starts I’m sure.

Fink · 02/09/2020 19:08

She'll be fine. My DD moved school after the October half term of her Reception year. It didn't take her long to settle in.

Kaktus · 02/09/2020 19:09

@Decentsalnotime

She’s showing symptoms!!

She should be off for longer than one week FGS!

Why, if she has a negative test?