Devastated DC will miss first day of reception

[Callalilyponder]

DC has started with a temperature and cough today, the day before she is due to start school. She will miss her first day of reception, probably longer. She's quite a shy child and not many of her nursery friends are going to her new school.

Aibu to be devastated and think that it will effect her settling in and making friends? Not to mention her confidence?

Probably a far bigger thing for you than her, she'll be fine!

@Decentsalnotime

She’s showing symptoms!!

She should be off for longer than one week FGS!

FFS She'll have a test, if it's positive then she'll stay off. If it's negative she can go in when she feels better.

Live is being made shit enough for kids, who aren't even affected, why are some people insistent on making it worse.

[quote Decentsalnotime]@Kaktus

Where does it say she has had a negative test?!

Furthermore, you can have a negative test, and an hour later contract it. You are negative at the point the test is taken. That very minute. Not post test.

The OP’s child is showing two of the most common symptoms. A day off is insufficient[/quote]
So can you - so I hope you are sitting in isolation at home since March and don't come close to anyone.

It doesn't say she has had a negative test but, with symptoms she will have a test and can then go back.

It's unlikely to be Covid because she has symptoms. Most kids don't.

Babe she's 4.
The children in her class will take weeks to learn everyone's name let alone make friendships.
Chill.
It's great you're saying you aren't showing your LO your anxiety but I'm a primary teacher and I've seen a lot of children suffer from serious anxiety, which often is because their parents are anxious and the children do pick up on it and emulate it.
I just say this in case you want to reflect on what vibe you give off to your DC generally and what effect it may be having on them.

Reception kids usually take a few weeks to settle in to a routine and find friendships anyway, she won’t be missing out on anything. Hope your little one feels better soon.

Well done, OP. She’ll take her cue from you and really, honestly, try, this ‘first day’ stuff is more important to you than her. Your concept of time at that age is so fluid, she won’t know everyone else has started. She’ll take it as it comes. Enjoy the extra snuggle time - hope she feels better soon and test result is negative.

YANBU to feel that way, as it’s totally natural.

But in reality she’ll be fine. She probably won’t be the only one, especially if some people have been on holiday and been caught by isolation measures.

My DD changed school after 1.5 weeks of reception, didn’t affect her making friends.
I’d be upset too, but starting later might work out well for her as the other kids will probably want to make friends with the new girl and feel special if the teacher tells them to show DD where the toilets or crayons are.
Mind you, there might be lots of children starting/stopping school, don’t know what’s going to happen.

She will still have a first day and she will be fine.

That said dd2 and I had a little weep when we realised she would not have any leavers stuff on leaving primary. Which is worse as they actually remember it at 11. We weren’t “devastated“ though just abit sad.

In a way the first day can be somewhat overwhelming, she can join the class at a quieter time, it wont do any harm if anything I'd say it's better/less stressful. I understand why its upsetting, it's a 'milestone' but you'll have your milestone just on a different day x

Aw that’s rubbish. Hopefully she tests negative and she can go back soon. It’ll only be a few days or at most a couple of weeks if she tests positive, I’m sure she’ll be fine

Totally normal to feel upset, but I'm sure in a few weeks she'll be just as settled as the rest of the class.

Might even be that bit easier in some ways starting a bit late, the first couple of days are always a bit chaotic with a few tears which my shy children found upsetting. A few days in when most of them have got the routine things were much easier.

Usually when someone starts a bit late our school matched them up with a couple of buddies I the class who would sit with them, show them where the coat pegs were, play together and so on for the first couple of days so shell not be left out I'm sure.