DH screaming at local kids to fuck off

[CocoChan]

Well not exactly but he might as well have done. We have a 1 year old dog who barks at every little noise. Anyone walking past the garden sends her crazy. We live next to a walk path popular with dog walkers. Not too much of an issue as they tend to be quiet which our dog can handle.

When lockdown started the path became popular with people taking their kids for their “one hour exercise” so this is where the trouble started. Kids running up and down screaming etc ... dog going crazy ... eventually she got used to that but now people have decided that the bushes near our fence are great for their kids to play in ... this absolutely sends our dog crazy as the kids are messing on the fence. She barks, they scream, she barks more .... it’s become a nightmare.

Last night kids were messing near the fence. Dog started barking. DH went to bring her in and then heard the kids shouting “woof woof woof” stood directly facing the fence deliberately winding her up. He then said very loudly “it’s ok Cujo, they’ll all fuck off back to school soon thank god” 😱 it went quiet and they walked away.

I said he shouldn’t have sworn at them and his argument is he didn’t swear AT them. Just about them. I believe two of them might belong to my neighbour 🤦‍♀️ Not seen her yet but if she brings it up do I apologise or ask her to keep the kids from winding up the dog?

Dh was in his own garden using language talking to his own dog.

What's wrong with that?

If the kids weren't doing what they were doing he wouldn't have said it and they wouldn't have overheard.

The fact they did indeed appear to fuck off shows they also,knew they were in the wrong!

It is quite feasible to train any dog to be quiet.
Ours never barked when anyone came to the door, apart from the once when it was someone up to no good.
Both erupted in a cacophony of barks and growls that surprised me- and the teenagers ran off.

Quiet dogs protect their homes just as well as noisy ones- perhaps more so...As a would be their isn't sure who is in .

Years ago in Kent, we were walking down a lane, and a pack of Traveller's dogs followed us silently.~GSD Lurchers~ it was quite alarming- when they'd followed us off 'their' territory, they retreated.
They'd been put there to guard 'Scrap'

The most menacing dogs I have met have all been quiet.

What is noticeable, people tend to have the same 'nature' of dog..A woman neighbour we had, had four dogs over many years, all were different, but had frantic, loud, aggressive natures- She'd scream and shout at them..which of course wound them up more.

Good exercise, mental stimulation and good training {everything owners do with a dog is ''training''} makes for a pleasant to be around dog.
You get out what you put in. :)

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'But yes, you do need to train your dog not to bark at passers by. Just like people need to train their children not to tease people's dogs. Neither is desirable behaviour.'

swearing about children in their earshot is dreadful. It's also passive aggressive. He should just ask them politely not to wind up the dog. I'd be livid with my OH if he did this tbh.

They are fully entitled to be playing by the bushes - they aren't in your actual garden and you don't own these bushes do you. They are children. Your dh sounds like a foul mouth tbh.

Control your stupid dog

If this was my DH I’d be meh.

If my kids reported this to me I’d be meh.

Dogs like this with owners who don't train them properly, deserve to have them wound up frankly. Sort out your nightmare dog.

Both, apologise and ask for her to tell her kids to stop doing it.

Control your stupid dog

Wtf? A reactive dog is most certainly not stupid. Don't be so rude.

Yes, you need to train your dog not to bark at every little thing. But some dogs are reactive and you can't stop them barking altogether. I don't blame your DH. These kids were out of order and their lazy parents were letting them goad your dog. No apology necessary. An apology from the parents if anything.

I would buy a sign for the path side of the fence if I was you saying something like 'please keep noise to a minimum, reactive dog lives here'.

Well you will call your dog Cujo.

People shouldn't have to 'keep their noise to a minimum' when they are out walking fgs. The OP should train the dog not to bark and go 'crazy' when anyone so much as walks past.

I pity your neighbours tbh.

Please tell me that Cujo is a chihuahua?
😂

Also with your DH on this one. I'd have lost my temper and done the same I think. Relax, they sound like right little shits and your husband was pretty reserved IMO.

If you can't stop the dog from barking the whole time, how about taking it for a walk instead of letting it in the garden?

Why should the dog not bark at unknown people messing around in bushes along the ops fence?

The children shouldn’t be in the bushes, if the children where not in the bushes shouting woof woof woof antagonising the dog it wouldn’t be barking 🤷🏻‍♀️

If the dog was barking at people walking down an ally next the house then the dog would be in the wrong as would the dh but that’s not what happened.

My old neighbours kids used to lean over my garden fence doing the whole woof woof woof thing run away screaming when my dogs reacted by going upto the fence on the back legs. The mother complained that I should keep my dogs under controller because her children where scared of them. Not very scared really to be leaning over shouting woof woof woof at them. As I said prior I had a few choice words and they left the dogs alone after that. My dogs never bothered with them when they where just playing in their garden but the second they are leaning over and shouting at them tough if they don’t like being barked at or looked at.

Okay maybe stupid is the wrong word. Shitty? Pain in the arse? Annoying? If the dog is reactive you can’t complain about people getting pissed off by it. They weren’t tormenting it, it’s a shitty dog that barks at people of course kids are going to bark back.

He's right they should fuck off and if they or their parents don't want them told to fuck off then they should either know how to behave better or have been taught to.

High time you trained your dog not to bark all the time, it must be driving your neighbours mad.

OP's first lines are:

We have a 1 year old dog who barks at every little noise. Anyone walking past the garden sends her crazy.
The dog shouldn't be in the garden if it barks at everyone who walks down the path.

Nah, sounds like they deserved it. I’m with your DH on this one.

A dog that barks at every single noise is fucking annoying for the neighbours though! (Voice of experience)

We have a supersoaker that we shoot the cat with as she attempts to disappear over the fence.

It could work both on barking dogs and bratty kids?

People shouldn't have to 'keep their noise to a minimum' when they are out walking fgs

No, people should respect the fact that people's gardens back onto paths/parks etc and be considerate ffs. And also people should not goad dogs ffs.

you shouldn't apologise for your DH actions - he is an adult

you should train your dog- there is no need for dogs to be constantly barking

if the parent says anything to you I would apologise for your dog - and say you are trying to do x,y,z to improve the situation=

I hope you are trying to train the dog as barking dogs are a nusance and you both sound quite poor neighbours as seem to be proud of your barking dog rather than trying to actually doing something about it..also aggressive with your DH behaviour,

I'm sure they are not surprised if they live near you - you live next to a public path - the clue is in the name everyone is entitled to walk down it -not just 'walkers' or people that are quiet