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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To not be sad that my dc are going back to school?

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:13

So this morning my Facebook feed is full of gushy posts from parents saying how sad that they’re kids are going back to school this week and how much they will miss them. AIBU to think get a grip you’ve had you’re kids home for the last six months? I’m a mum to 2 dc, one teen and my youngest who’s almost 10 and is autistic. Now don’t get me wrong we have had some for days since they finished school in March and we managed a weekend away last week which was nice, but on the whole it’s been very hard for us all. I can’t wait for my kids to get back to school/college yet I get the feeling I’m in the minority?

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:14

Sorry for the typos. Posted to soon.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/09/2020 10:15

Not amongst anyone I know- everyone is so happy their kids are going back.
My child’s only 3 but I was so happy when she went back to nursery even in June- she was probably first back in.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 01/09/2020 10:15

Definitely not sad. I'm excited for them. They've missed their friends and activities a lot.

MothAndRabbit · 01/09/2020 10:17

I'm delighted ds is going back to 6th form college today, and more importantly so is he!

I think I'd feel even more relief if I'd got small children - I'd probably go back to bed for the day to celebrate

vickibee · 01/09/2020 10:19

@Nilnick couldn't agree more
My 13 yo son is also ASD and he has found it incredibly tough, think he is actually depressed. He doesn't return until Friday though. I hope that it works out well
I actually think he will like school better because it is more structured than before, all desks facing forwards and not expected to work in small groups which he simply can't do
He also hates walking around school in noisy corridors so being based in one room could also help

I think people need to get a grip - cant stay home for ever, it will be interesting to see if any parents keep their child off. Our school is massively over subscirbed so I say allocate places to other children if parents wish to carry on home schooling

Doingitaloneandproud · 01/09/2020 10:19

I'm not sad, It'll be quieter without him which will make working from home easier tbh, and I'm so excited for him to see his friends, some it's been since March - others he's seen the last month or so but it'll be good to be back in school with the whole group. Plus I'm pleased he's back learning properly from the teachers, It's stressful trying to work from home and teach my son his work at the same time

MumOfDiamonds · 01/09/2020 10:21

I was excited for my DD but in the last week a girl from her year has bullied her in the local park. Now I'm very very anxious. My DD seems fine although I know she will be slightly worried about if it will carry on in school. They're only year 8 and I'm hoping they'll be so much change that my DD won't enter this girls thoughts.

Aside from this my DS is starting college and he is super excited and I'm going in to my final year at University!

Mynameisrow · 01/09/2020 10:21

I think the mushy Facebook posts are for show. A lot of people just do this to get likes rather than actually being devastated the kids are back at school.

MumOfDiamonds · 01/09/2020 10:22

But I agree with Mynameisrow

SadBrows · 01/09/2020 10:23

God no, I can't wait

minipie · 01/09/2020 10:23

I think the mushy Facebook posts are for show. A lot of people just do this to get likes rather than actually being devastated the kids are back at school.

Yep agree. It’s a way to show what a fabulous mum they are, since they’ll miss their kids sooo much.

nanbread · 01/09/2020 10:24

I'm conflicted - partly really gutted, partly anxious about how they'll settle in, and partly massively relieved.

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:24

Yeah you might be right about the likes lol. I don’t post much on social media but only because I refuse to lie and make out our life is perfect when it isn’t. Can’t be doing with all the pretence lol. I’m not saying their won’t be parents out there anxious about sending their kids back, I’m a little anxious myself, but we all need some normality back, even if it’s the same pre covid.

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formerbabe · 01/09/2020 10:24

Yikes, they must be made of stronger stuff than me. The last few months have virtually broken me. I couldn't be happier they're going back

RandomTree · 01/09/2020 10:25

Everyone I know is pleased their DC are going back. OP, remember that people are not 100% honest on Facebook!

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:25

Oh I’ll just tell people straight if they ask me and say it’s been bloody hard work. The first few weeks were nice as it was novelty and my ds loved being home. But we’ve all be so isolated and my ds now doesn’t want to go anywhere or see anyone. He just wants to stay in the house all day which isn’t good.

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Feellikedancingyeah · 01/09/2020 10:27

Looking forward to Thursday when our 14 year old with ADHD goes back.
I'm exhausted and feel physically unwell.

Pinkmakeupbag · 01/09/2020 10:27

Yanbu, I can't wait, I say that as someone who is usually really, really sad at the end of the school holidays.

It's been such a long time, I've been working throughout and it's been really hard. The holidays have been wonderful as Dh and I have had some time off and been able to get out and about, it's been fabulous after the lockdown.

But a bit of routine and normality will do us all good.

Of course I've got mixed emotions. I'm nervous, not just about Covid but about will they be ok, will they settle back in ok. My youngest returned in June and loved it, but it was all very calm and quiet with only about 12 in the 'bubble'. I'm worried about the inevitable bug one of us will pick up then there'll be the worry of all that.

But no, after 6 months at home I can't say I'll miss them terribly just because they'll be at school for a few hours.

lioncitygirl · 01/09/2020 10:29

They were ready weeks ago. God it seems they’ve been home for months and months. I can’t wait!

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:30

Oh I’m glad I’m not on my own feeling this way lol.

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Sparticuscaticus · 01/09/2020 10:32

Hmmm...
I haven't put a fb post up, so it's clearly not for show, and I will miss my 3 DC hugely when they go back. I agree it's been tough at moments (I'm WFH) and a challenge to homeschool them whilst working, but also really lovely to have all that family time together in peace without a stream of teenage angsty friends round for the older one. I have not missed other teenager's or their family's dramas ! I dread going back to that ...

zigaziga · 01/09/2020 10:34

I’m not sure half of them feel that way, it’s just what people write on social media isn’t it? Like gushing posts on wedding anniversaries etc.

I am thrilled my oldest is back to school this week.

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:34

Oh I get that there are some parents will genuinely miss their kids. It will definitely be an adjustment that’s for sure. But splashing it all over Facebook I just don’t get.

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Sparticuscaticus · 01/09/2020 10:35

@NiknicK

I agree with this though. Some DC have become too insular. It's definitely the right time for them to return to school.

Am a bit curious how long the 'whole year bubble ' idea will last, as potentially a lot of pupils could be sent home to self isolate, any way, we will see.

Breckenridged · 01/09/2020 10:36

Well, I was very sad when the kids went back. I didn’t post about it on FB though. Generally I find that the people who post most about parenting on FB are the ones who feel they have something to prove and I imagine this is no different.

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