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AIBU?

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To not be sad that my dc are going back to school?

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NiknicK · 01/09/2020 10:13

So this morning my Facebook feed is full of gushy posts from parents saying how sad that they’re kids are going back to school this week and how much they will miss them. AIBU to think get a grip you’ve had you’re kids home for the last six months? I’m a mum to 2 dc, one teen and my youngest who’s almost 10 and is autistic. Now don’t get me wrong we have had some for days since they finished school in March and we managed a weekend away last week which was nice, but on the whole it’s been very hard for us all. I can’t wait for my kids to get back to school/college yet I get the feeling I’m in the minority?

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DrownedDuffers · 01/09/2020 10:36

Cannot wait. Neither can most people I know. It's not normal to spend so much concentrated time together.

Plus middle child was so against homeschooling and it was such a battle to get him to do the minimum, it spoilt a lot of our time. Funnily enough he doesn't want to go back!

Dizzib1 · 01/09/2020 10:38

I'm in 2 minds, one way pleased for them, they need to get back to normal, but sad for me as i have genuinely enjoyed spending time with them (plus enjoyed the no rushing about in the morning's)
I am anxious about how the older one will manage to SD in secondary school, not so worried about the primary school even though she is asthmatic.

Divebar · 01/09/2020 10:39

I’m not sad and I’m not anxious about them going back.

mum2jakie · 01/09/2020 10:39

I can't wait 😄

Todaythiscouldbe · 01/09/2020 10:40

I'm absolutely gutted DS is going back. I won't plaster it all over social media though.
As much as this time has been tough, I've been WFH, DH is NHS and DS is doing GCSEs, I'll never have a chance of 6 months at home with him again. We've laughed, cried and bonded. I'll miss him terribly.

Kaktus · 01/09/2020 10:43

I wasn’t sad at all. Slightly anxious at how the year will pan out, but happy for them that they get to go back to the school they love.
I have a friend who is absolutely gutted though. She’d love to home school permanently but her DH doesn’t think it’s for the best. She was furloughed from a job that she hates (and which isn’t their main income), so basically she had her dream 6 months.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 01/09/2020 10:46

I'm glad my dc are going back because then we can watch and hear about something other than Minecraft. Schools reopening also hopefully means I can get back to work and earn some money again.

lazylinguist · 01/09/2020 10:49

I'm not sad my dc are going back, because it will be good for them and me. They don't want to go back though!

HandfulofDust · 01/09/2020 10:52

I think putting a facebook post up about it is attention seeking and a bit cringy but people feel different ways. Some years I'm a little sad about schools going back some years I'm counting down the minutes. I have actually enjoyed the time at home during lockdown but my DC is definitely loiking forward to going back to school and seeing his friends. I know other DC though who don't enjoy school and it's probably stressful for their parents to have to force them back.

Serendipity79 · 01/09/2020 10:54

I'm pleased mine are going back, they need to be with their friends, and start proper learning again. they've been home with me since March 17th as we isolated before lockdown due to CV symptoms. So its been six very long months trying to work from home and keep them entertained and do very inadequate basic schooling! Midway through, I was on my knees with tiredness, now I feel like I'm coping with all the juggling, but I'm still tired all of the time!

But there is a bit of me this week as well that thinks - when else do we get the chance to spend 6 months with our closest family other than if we take maternity/parental leave? So in that sense, when its silent here on Thursday and I'm able to drink a hot coffee and work properly from home without hearing "Muuuuum" echoing through the house every ten minutes, I know that I am genuinely going to miss them and look forward to them coming home.

Rosebel · 01/09/2020 10:56

Mostly I'm glad they're going back but I will miss them and am a bit nervous about my youngest going back as she was bullied last year.
They're both quite keen to go back, although youngest is worried about bullying and I think they need some sort of normal routine back.

mummyof2boys30 · 01/09/2020 10:56

We were 1st at the gates 😂 I'm well ready for mine to be back

Waxonwaxoff0 · 01/09/2020 10:56

I'm not sad. I'm a single parent and DS is an only child. From March until July it was just the 2 of us, every single day for a solid 3 months. It's not healthy for a 7 year old to be isolated with just his mum. I'm so happy for him to go back and see his friends.

WhoAmIWhoAreYou · 01/09/2020 10:57

@SadBrows

God no, I can't wait

Exactly this. Hahaha

The3Ls · 01/09/2020 11:02

I'll miss mine tons. Two keyworkers juggling jobs here but my daughter has had ten times less anxiety and has been really content at home. However my boy needs to be back again - was in from may anyway. They need to go back. I'm not overly worried re covid we are both exposed anyway. I like this life but also am at peace that it's better for the kids to go back

Comtesse · 01/09/2020 11:03

Yanbu. Can’t wait for school!

FourTeaFallOut · 01/09/2020 11:04

The first one of three will go back tomorrow - then all three will be back by Monday. It's been the longest six months. I'm so happy that I have to hold back from bursting into a spontaneous victory dance every time I think of it. "Bye. Miss you!" will never sound more disingenuous.

WitchesNStuff · 01/09/2020 11:08

I am feeling really sad about it. I have 2 boys age 14 and 12, youngest has autism and ADHD and it has been so nice not having him at school with kids who can be bloody horrible to him to be honest. Eldest is just nice to spend time with and we've had fun. They had full time online school and I have been working the whole time and it feels like we haven't been able to make the most of school hols like we normally would so feels too soon to go back.

I do understand they need to go back of course and I'm sure they will be fine once they are into the swing of things.

cologne4711 · 01/09/2020 11:16

I am really glad my ds is going back to sixth form college too (and so is he), though he sadly only gets two days back face to face and is then back on virtual lessons for a fortnight while they settle in the new Y12s.

DullDullWeather · 01/09/2020 11:23

My youngest DC is off to his induction day at college this afternoon .
They have been told some work will be done on site and the rest online from home . He will likely get his timetable today .

I am happy he is going back . He not so much but he has been used to being off . I think once he gets there and a week or two has passed that he will be enjoying it as really quite different to school in some ways.

minipie · 01/09/2020 11:24

Those who are sad this time is ending - do you all have DC over about 9/10 by any chance?

OnePotato2Potato · 01/09/2020 11:30

I was desperate for mine to go back but now they actually are I’m a bit upset. I think that’s because I feel like we didn’t take advantage of these 6 months, we could have done more!

But I know it’s best for them to be back in school as they really missed friends and the school routine.

aToadOnTheWhole · 01/09/2020 12:57

I feel both. I am sad, I will miss him, he's only 3 and it's all new for us and nothing has been normal and trying to prepare him when I'm not sure what's going to happen had been tricky. I'm nervous because it's handing over the reins.

But once he settles he will love it, enjoy it and thrive I'm sure (I hope!). So it will be lovely to see how well he comes on and hear all about his days on the walk home.

ittooshallpass · 01/09/2020 13:00

I'm sad DD is going back to school. I've enjoyed having her at home, but it's time to get back to learning!

I won't be posting anything in social media - as someone said earlier, the ones who are posting the sad faces are probably doing it for show.

Popcornriver · 01/09/2020 13:05

I was going to say yanbu until you told the parents who aren't looking forward to it to get a grip

Not sure why you can't understand that not everyone is completely pleased about the school return. I'm personally worried about them bringing the virus home, the possible disruptions of needing to self isolate and above all else I'm quite used to them being here.

I feel for those who've struggled during lockdown. Certainly didn't think they should just crack on with things and get a bit of a grip.

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