Message from a friend

[Monsterjam]

So friend A received the following message from friend B today. Friend A thinks friend B is being U and wants to cut all contact. We are a very close group (or so I thought) and a falling out would be awful.

I was just wondering about opinions on whether the text message is U. Trying to think of ways to help A repair damage to B and B to A.
“After 6 yrs of pushing your children on me. Sending endless messages and unsolicited shopping lists for birthday presents, you cannot send a card to my child? I am so bored of having to listen to how amazing your children are with no acknowledgment from you that others (me) also think their children are amazing! I’m fucking done! “

[quote EleanorOalike]@FOKKYFC Similar story but the friend that didn’t send the card is battling infertility so she doesn’t have children. The OP seems like a bit of an A though - entitled and can’t see past herself and her own child![/quote]
We should have a medal icon to award to all the posters that manage to stick the boot into the OP without foundation.

Bloody hell, that's quite a message.

Stay out. You'll come out of this as the bad guy otherwise.

@whiplashy you sussed me out from a thread on MN... oh come on

We should have a medal icon to award to all the posters that manage to stick the boot into the OP without foundation.

The OPs initial post and subsequent replies to that thread are all the foundation anyone needed. It was unanimous that she was being unreasonable.

OP, you have said yourself you believe B from the way A has behaved toward you. B has had enough and has called out a CF before dumping them. She is not going to appreciate you trying to reel her back in. Be friends with both of them but accept your days as a group are over.

If as you say B is likely spot on about A and A's behaviour. then if all hell breaks lose, you should say so to A. She doesn't sound like a great person to be friends with frankly, if only her children 'count'.

Stay out of it or you will end up taking friend B’s place if not careful. It sounds to me that A was taking a piss out of B for prolonged period of time and B just had enough.
Do you know what B has in mind and her story?

It was unanimous that she was being unreasonable.

Being unreasonable in her question here doesn't have any bearing on whether she is anything like A. She'd like her comfortable friendship group not to change, most people with a group they like feel that way. She's accepted that it's not a good idea to try. She hasn't tried to ride roughshod over any anyone or actually expected anything of her friends that she doesn't give in return (that we know of from this thread). She was just asking an anonymous group if there was any salvaging it. There is nothing here to make the accusation that she is like A.

quick update- OP is A

If you are the third person, stay well away from it all unless asked for an opinion (only) and certainly do not go acting on anyone else's behalf to ''help'' or pass messages along...

It's up to them to sort out.

A is a user, B finally stood up to her.
If you’re A you’re a twat, if you’re B well done, if you’re neither; rethink you’re friendship with A.

*your

Abort! ABBBOOOOORT!!!

That there is not your mess to clean up.

Run away!!!

A is not a nice person and a user and I don’t blame B for calling her out if what B said is true ( which from what you said is correct)

Why would you want to be friends with a user? However your choice, you could always see them separately.

My sympathies are with B

@BoomBoomsCousin I could be totally wrong here but I gathered from Eleanor that she was referring to the aforementioned similar thread, not this OP.

[quote SuckingDownDarjeeling]**@BoomBoomsCousin* I could be totally wrong here but I gathered from Eleanor* that she was referring to the aforementioned similar thread, not this OP. [/quote]
no you're absolutely right - Eleanor was responding to another poster about a different thread and talking about the OP of that thread, not this one.

@Monsterjam
I agree with everyone else - stay out of it. Sounds like your A is a self-centred twat and B has had a gutful - no matter what you do, you won't mend this, but are likely to end up becoming the "shot messenger" yourself, so yeah, step back from it.
Your friendship group has gone.

Team B

@ThumbWitchesAbroad @Monsterjam

If that’s the case I take it back!

Not salvageable. Find new friends!

Again thank you everyone. I will be staying clear. I’m. Neither A nor B, but yes my sympathies do lay with B x

Friend B had cut contact, no need for friend A to consider it, the friendship is over.

There is another thread running about a mother being upset that, despite sending her friends child presents and cards, she gets nothing in return for hers.
Friend of yours OP?

@SummerPoppies I don’t think so. All kids in this scenario are friends so it’s more friends buying each other gifts etc. I also think one of the people in the other thread was going through ivf so rules out my friend

@BoomBoomsCousin if you’d actually bothered to read the thread before having a go at me you’d see I was responding to this;

*FOKKYFC

Isn't the other side of this elsewhere on MN? Mum pissed off that friend didn't send child a card?*

Me

Similar story but the friend that didn’t send the card is battling infertility so she doesn’t have children. The OP seems like a bit of an A though - entitled and can’t see past herself and her own child!

At no point did I ever mention the OP of this thread.

None of your business.

And even if it means a change to your lovely threesome social life, maybe consider it hasn't been half as fun for friend B!

If you're trying to get involved, purely to maintain the status quo, when you know friend B has been really hurt by friend A's actions, that makes YOU pretty unreasonable as well.