DH and computer games

[bananahammock123]

My DH loves computer games. He doesn't play every night, but a lot of nights. He'll either play upstairs, downstairs on the tv or on a handheld console. Also if it's not games, he wants to watch sports.

I don't care most of the time, but sometimes it's a bit much. We have young children, so the evenings are the only time we get together. I want to talk about things, regular things, holiday plans etc but he doesn't listen to me when he's playing, so I end up repeating myself a lot. If I call him out on this I get an earful, yet if he ever has to repeat himself because I'm for eg reading something on my phone, he feels like he can make all sorts of comments about it.

I really enjoy his company in the evenings, but it feels like he spends his time actively trying to avoid my company. Until he wants my full attention, and then he expects that.

AIBU to want him to cool it down with the games? I think it's a bit teenagery and when it's every night it makes me feel a bit lonely and shit.

@bananahammock123

He was saying something the other day while I was looking at something online, I said 'hmm' and the fucker huffed, told me I was being rude and didn't finish his sentence. I can't even count the times he's ignored me.

To be honest, if my partner spoke about me the way OP speaks about theirs, I wouldn't want to spend time with them either

@BubblyBarbara

Give him an ultimatum, tell him it’s either the games or you. The least he can do is spend two hours with you each evening, Maybe even draw up a rota or at least define the hours. If he doesn’t stick to it stop sleeping with him and he will soon come crawling back

Seriously?’ 🙄😂 pretty sure OP said she didn’t want to treat him like a child, not sure when trading sex for spending time with you became a good (or healthy) idea?!

Hope you manage to come to a compromise you’re both happy with OP and that he listens when you tell him how all this makes you feel.