Hairdressers make me feel self conscious. Anyone else?

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I'm sure there's loads of us. I have average to fine hair, it's on the dry and porous side naturally. It always gets comments and I hate it.

I think it's a nice style, nice colour and I know how to blow dry. I don't need to be made to feel shit about it being dry. I already know!

Yesterday I said something like 'my colour does tend to fade quickly because my hair is fairly porous' 'oh yeah I could hardly get my fingers through it when washing without conditioner on it'. Erm, ok, thanks... I already said it was porous, don't turn the screw.

First world problem entirely but now I feel like I have the world's shittest hair, and my hair has always been a perceived flaw to me.

I have very thick hair and my drama queen hairdresser used to charge me extra as it took so long to dry and straighten.
I now get an amazing hairdresser to my house and dry it myself

I hate going to the hairdressers, the worst one I encountered told me I had too many split ends and she would have to take off a few inches. Fair enough, it was waist length.

I left with it up to my shoulders and just about managed to not cry until I got home.

The hairdresser I now use is the best. She does EXACTLY as she is told. I'm in and out in 20 mins. No messing, no conversation, £20. I tip her 50% because of this.

Sqirrel, this happened to me too. Exactly the same story. Waist length hair etc.

Gutted.

Some of the comments on this thread are shocking! How can people be so bloody rude

I pay a small fortune to get my hair done (£70 for a cut and blow dry, £150 for balayage twice a year - expensive for salons here!) but his work is amazing, he doesn’t try to sell me hair products and he doesn’t chat shit at me even when I’m there for three hours. I’m happy to pay for that!

amusedbush I was just going to post the same pic.. I leave the house feeling not too shabby, as soon as the cape comes on I'm like what the fuck happened in 10 mins 😆😟

I had a hairdresser get very angry with me once because I wore my hair parted on one side and she insisted that it should be parted on the other. There was a bit of a standoff for a while with me saying one way and her saying the other.

It was nothing to do with how my hair grows or anything, she just insisted that it was parted on the wrong side and kept saying 'it does nothing for you'.

Well, pardon me for being so ugly.

I have found my people.Loathe going to the hairdresser! Have cut and coloured my own hair for many years now .My niece thought I had been to the hairdresser!

I don’t want sodding Olaplex on top of the already extortionate highlights

Olaplex is bloody fantastic, and if you have a hairdressing supplies wholesaler near you, you can just buy it and do it yourself. Unless your hair is really damaged, just the No 3 will make a big difference, you don't necessarily need all the pre-treatment.

I got some for my friend after she'd had a disastrous colour that left her hair like brittle straw, she was delighted with the results.

Another thing that often works though, and is far cheaper, is to slap on a treatment mask and leave it on overnight, then wash it out the following morning. That worked a treat on a couple of disastrous corkscrew perms I had in the 80s!

@loadypoady, I agree.

I knew my hairdresser socially before she was my hairdresser. She was still an apprentice, but had just finished her training when my previous stylist went to live abroad, and took over my hair. She's brilliant.

My hair's easy to care for, but a bastard to cut well. There's an awful lot of it, but the hair itself is quite fine. It has a slight wave, which will curl if it's scrunched but will also go into a sleek bob with straighteners. She manages to cut it in a style which works well either way, and we have a bloody good laugh and a gossip at the same time.

She's only the 3rd hairdresser I've been happy with in my entire 65 years though, I've had some dreadful hair cuts in my time and didn't find a hairdresser who could give me a decent cut until I was in my early 30s.

Imo, the posher and trendier the premises, the ruder the staff are inclined to be, and the more shite they try to sell you. The salon I go to looks like it was last redecorated in the 1970s and still has old ladies in curlers sitting under the driers, having their weekly shampoo and set!

@pigsDOfly

I had a hairdresser get very angry with me once because I wore my hair parted on one side and she insisted that it should be parted on the other. There was a bit of a standoff for a while with me saying one way and her saying the other.

It was nothing to do with how my hair grows or anything, she just insisted that it was parted on the wrong side and kept saying 'it does nothing for you'.

Well, pardon me for being so ugly.

Haha integrally laughing at the last line!

I now have a great hairdresser after years of salon hopping. This one is slightly more expensive (although nowhere near the price of the fancy salons) but she's worth it.

I had a hairdresser who I went to numerous times for some reason. She used to say she hated drying my hair because it was too thick/I have too much of it so she'd always call over an apprentice and tell them to do it. And she was always scissor happy, taking off way more than I wanted.

I was in a different salon one day when a male hairdresser was doing a lady's hair next to me. She was on the larger side and was chatting about her holiday and mentioned she was in a bikini on the beach and he made such a dramatic gasp and covered his mouth then dramatically announced to the rest of us that his customer had been in a bikini on the beach and that we should all be that body confident then said to her I really need to see the pics, I will die laughing! How she didn't get up and leave I'll never know. My hairdresser was furious and said nothing the rest of my appointment but he was gone the next time I went in.

@Bluebell878275

amusedbush I was just going to post the same pic.. I leave the house feeling not too shabby, as soon as the cape comes on I'm like what the fuck happened in 10 mins 😆😟

I always put on wayyy too much make up for hairdresser appointments to compensate for the wet hair and harsh lighting 😂

I went in for a trim last month and (as a covid measure, I assume) they wrapped me up in literal bin bags. You know how people say ‘they would look good wearing a bin bag’? Turns out I definitely don’t.

I think you just have to find the right one. I always felt awkward getting my hair done but the woman I see now or even just anyone there as they are all great, I’ve gone to for years because she made me feel great. She helped with recommending styles and and kept me calm etc and now I feel excited. I even talk more when I’m there now than my silent self at the beginning lol

@ThirstyGhost I’m exactly the same. Very fine hair and not been to a hairdresser for ages.

How do you find a hairdresser who doesn’t make uncomfortable small talk? I’m really good at talking to strangers, as long as I can see their face. But take off my glasses and I’m stuck, especially when the conversation turns racist or sexist. Plus I have no interest in hairstyles. I’ve grown mine long and straight partly to avoid hairdressers!!

Is there a machine that can just cut it straight at a fixed length? Surely there’s a market for this!

@peajotter you find one that comes to your house. I’m like u. Hate small talk. And hates seeing a different person every time I went to the hair dressers in town.
I found one to come to my house. She is lovely. We chat about real stuff as we now know each other. She remembers my hair. She text me the other day to tell me of something new I may like to try.

This is not the point of the thread but try the Olaplex line of products. Totally changed my dried, bleached and damaged hair.

YANBU, hairdressers used to tend to ask me what products I used and criticize all of them and how I looked after my curly hair. I'd often look at their hair and think it looked shite. Then they'd try to sell you a product for about £50 per bottle, after years of researching and exploring products myself and finding ones I loved and which worked on my hair well. I cut my own hair now (curly, so easier) and dye it too. Also because I hate small talk too and I'm not prepared to pay stupid hairdresser prices!!

I do use olaplex. My hair is just naturally porous because my dad is extremely curly hair