AIBU to delete friends number after 15+ years?

[OliBolsMum]

First time poster, don't be gentle as I'm looking for honesty! AIA for the long post.

Bit of background... met a woman around 15 years ago, became fast friends, had periods where life got ahead of us but always met up like no time had passed. Fast forward to 2017. My life falls apart. Left my DH and moved back in with parents, Mother passes away and SD asks me to leave. At this point I am effectively living out of my car and sleeping on my new DPs parents living room floor. DP has a DSD whose mother is close with my friend's brother, who relays every aspect of our relationship back to DSD mum, causing numerous issues. This caused friction between me and my friend, but I tried to let it slide.

Friend had constantly been asking me to go away on a girly holiday with her. After my mum passed, I had no excuse and so decided to agree. We got together, booked the holiday (I pay, she agrees to transfer her half, as we always have done in the past). Then she tells me she can't really afford it but should be able to save up in time. 6 weeks later, she still hasn't told her DH we are going away (in 3 weeks time). After confronting her she tells me she can't afford it. I'm now £1k out of pocket for a holiday she wanted, with 3 weeks to go. I end up paying for a new passport and name change for my DP as I can't cancel.

On return, me and DP make plans for her and DH to come to ours for tea. 2 hours after they were supposed to turn up, with us trying to pacify a crying DSD who is hungry and can't wait any longer, she cancels. AFTER we'd made a special effort to buy food she wanted.

I'm livid and tell her as much. She tells me I am being mean and will speak to me after she comes back from a holiday abroad to see her and DH friends (spent £££ on). I kick off again re the earlier holiday mis-hap.

Three years pass and I have attempted to make contact several times. I only get responses that say I have hurt her deeply and she needs time to trust me again, or that she is out with her 'best' friends and that life has been awful for her.

So........ AIBU to:

1. Just delete her number - I was in the wrong and I have ruined the friendship.
2. Just delete her number - She'll always be flaky and is not worth my time.
3. Keep chipping away, don't throw away 15+ years of friendship?

It’s a 2 from me.

Very similar happened to me and I couldn’t be friends any longer so that was that .

She's a horrible cow. Block and forget about her.

1. She adds nothing to your life but seems to take a lot away then blame you for her own flakiness.

Is this the full story??
Why is she hostile toward you?
She walks all over you - do you reckon she got bored?
Did you do something tp piss her off? It doesn't add up

2 without doubt. She is awful

4 or 2 at the very least. I agree with the comment about givers and takers.

2 - this person is not your friend.

Lass, get yourself sorted out. You've put up with FAR too much for far too long.

She's been a using shit and you've frankly been a fool.

1. Forget flaky “friend” and get on with your life without her. She is no friend. She is not worth any more of your time or thoughts.

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@BoingBoingyBoing

4. Tell her to go fuck herself and then delete her number.

THIS!

Iif you don’t want to tell her to go fuck get self at least block her. But very importantly, you need to realise she not your friend! Not even a little bit! She’s a CF and she’s treated you appallingly. You need to see that and realise what a twat she’s been to you.

2 - this is not your fault, she sounds awful!

Wow she sounds a treat.

She's dangling you on a string, cut the string!!!!

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Another for 4! Sounds like a narcissist to me.

She’s no friend.

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1. Either she was never a friend, or she's changed with time; but anyway she's not a friend now, and you have invested enough in her, both emotionally and financially.

Another who has changed their mind from a 2. to a 4!

A friend would not leave you &1k out of pocket and then act all hurt. Give up on this one, it’s not a good friendship for you.

Not brave enough ? Scared of what?

Well help you write a mature text to send her then send and block and delete.

She's sounds like a dickhead. You don't need her in any way.