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Spidey senses set off neighbours partner

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Acdcccc · 27/08/2020 13:28

Buckle up this might be a long one so as to not drip feed...

Woman and three kids moved in next door a year ago and things didn't start off well. Her mum kept parking in front of my drive and other drives in the street. I ignored it the first couple of times till i reached boiling point on a rainy night and had my baby in the car and couldn't park due to her car being in the way.

There was possibility an edge to my voice but tried to ask politely as i could for her to move her car which she did. Anyhow, have been given the cold shoulder ever since but i live and live.

Next problem is new partner on the scene there every day and has also taken to parking in front of my drive way. I've ignored it so far as have been without a car for the last few months. Only when I'm expecting guests to i ask for car to be moved.

Inconsiderate parking aside there is something that creeps me out when ever we cross paths. Besides the occasional hi I've not spoken to him at all but there is just something about him that sets off my spidey senses.

Add to that i notice her partner is never there when what I presume is a social worker visits the mum. (this officious looking guy with a clipboard vists the house every fortnight so can only assume he's a social worker but then again not sure)

I know the above is a lot of assumptions and don't really know what I'm looking for sharing these hunches or if the parking issues have influenced my perception of him.

Am I being unreasonable to feel this way?

OP posts:

Gobbycop · 27/08/2020 14:11

Very few people own a parking space.

This is the cause of so many neighborhood disputes.

If a car is taxed and insured it can be parked anywhere, even directly outside your house in your perceived spot.
As long as it's not physically blocking and entrance or on lines ect.

SockYarn · 27/08/2020 14:11

I want to ban the phrase "spidey senses".

WorraLiberty · 27/08/2020 14:12

So long story short, someone you've never spoken to before creeps you out?

It happens. Perhaps you creep them out too with your curtain twitching?

I imagine if they ever stumbled across this thread and put 2 and 2 together, you'd feel their shudders through the wall.

SoulofanAggron · 27/08/2020 14:15

YANBU, if a bloke gives you the creeps they give you the creeps and there's no harm in erring on the side of caution.

'Just' don't let him in your home or go into theirs (not that either is likely.) Only see him when walking down the road and you should be ok. xxx

Laufeythejust · 27/08/2020 14:15

I’d just keep telling him to move his car but try to have as little involvement with him as possible.
I’d definitely take the weird feeling seriously our bodies have learnt how to protect itself (even if we don’t understand how it’s doing it!). I remember when I was younger and a man sat next to me on the bus and I had the worst feeling ever about him, for no reason either as he never spoke to me or even looked at me. I recognised him when I was in court a few weeks later (for my law course) and he was a convicted sex offender.

cherrybakewellll · 27/08/2020 14:16

It's probably a probation officer

Thecobwebsarewinning · 27/08/2020 14:17

My neighbour recently gave birth to triplets. I see so little of her comings and goings I hadn’t even noticed she was pregnant!

rainbowlou · 27/08/2020 14:17

Do they rent? We have house inspections and the agent always carries a clipboard.
The parking across the drive would annoy me and I’d ask them to move it every time, they may not think it’s an issue if you don’t bring it up every time?

Shizzlestix · 27/08/2020 14:18

If a car is taxed and insured it can be parked anywhere, even directly outside your house in your perceived spot.

But the OP says across her drove, which is not fair.

PinkiOcelot · 27/08/2020 14:19

MN at it’s finest!!

The parking would really annoy me. I would have to keep asking them to move or better still, tell them not to park there full stop.

PhilCornwall1 · 27/08/2020 14:20

@Zilla1

Don't ignore your gut feelings, OP, though do ignore some PPs here.

If you want to risk kicking a hornet's nest (I wouldn't advise), the next time you have a parking issue, ask her at the end if she knows someone with a clipboard as someone came to your door while you were out and your guest said they were carrying a clipboard and wouldn't leave a message.

Jesus, this place just gets better each day!!

YetAnotherSpartacus · 27/08/2020 14:21

It's probably a probation officer

Yep

BlueJava · 27/08/2020 14:24

Re the parking casually mention how you can try and get in and out if they are parked there but you have had a few scrapes! It worked for me and they never parked across my drive again.

Muser314 · 27/08/2020 14:26

Frustrating wrt the car and i dont blame you being exasperated but i dont think you could know why man with clipboard visiting.

FlumpetCrumpet · 27/08/2020 14:27

on a different thread you would probably be told to listen to your instincts about people as they are usually right what instincts? OP has judged them to wrong uns based on nothing but their parking and someone popping by with a clipboard once a fortnight who could be anyone from the milkman taking an order to Interpol

ShebaShimmyShake · 27/08/2020 14:27

@Zilla1

Don't ignore your gut feelings, OP, though do ignore some PPs here.

As an attempt to try to intimidate the neighbour by use of the threatening spectre of Clipboard Man, whilst distancing yourself from it by trying to claim you never actually saw him and this is all second hand so it's totally nothing to do with you, this...really really sucks.

ncdtoday123 · 27/08/2020 14:32

Why wouldn't you notice people coming and going in your street? You don't have to be sitting with your nose pressed to the window to notice what goes on.

It's incredibly inconsiderate of them to keep blocking your drive - it's just not acceptable and shows they've got a bad attitude.

Don't ignore your gut instinct, every time I have done, I've regretted it. There's probably nothing you need to do, but just be wary of them if you've got a bad feeling.

BashfulClam · 27/08/2020 14:36

I don’t notice my neighbours really because I mind my own business, I work full time and right now that involves 8 hours in 1 room of the house and it honestly has fuck all to do with me what my neighbours do as long as it doesn’t impact me. I couldn’t even tell you the names of my neighbours.

Please also don’t pretend clipboard guy came to your door that’s the absolute stupidest thing I have heard in a while.

Why are people so nosey get on with your life and leave others to do the same.

BashfulClam · 27/08/2020 14:39

@ncdtoday123

Why wouldn't you notice people coming and going in your street? You don't have to be sitting with your nose pressed to the window to notice what goes on.

It's incredibly inconsiderate of them to keep blocking your drive - it's just not acceptable and shows they've got a bad attitude.

Don't ignore your gut instinct, every time I have done, I've regretted it. There's probably nothing you need to do, but just be wary of them if you've got a bad feeling.

You kinda would need to sit at my window to notice people coming and going and I’m not really bothered what goes on. My mum used to be terrible ‘oh there’s the police, they’ve gone to number 16. Wonder what’s going on!’

Thatusernamewastaken · 27/08/2020 14:41

On another forum, far, far away is probably some bloke posting about why his next door neighbour is constantly twitching at her curtains....

BashfulClam · 27/08/2020 14:45

@Thatusernamewastaken he speedy sense say his neighbour is a nosey Parker.

honeygirlz · 27/08/2020 14:46

I genuinely wouldn't know who visits my neighbours on a regular basis.

The only neighbour I know is my lovely next door neighbour and I don't know who visits them either.

Does your sofa or study look out on to everyone's front doors or something? Mine don't, maybe that's why i'm blissfully unaware of what neighbours are upto. And whilst I agree you should trust your instincts, nothing wrong has happened that you know of, so give them the benefit of the doubt unless you see something untoward.

Parking over your drive is unacceptable, put your bin there to stop them doing it!

jessstan2 · 27/08/2020 14:46

@SockYarn

I want to ban the phrase "spidey senses".

Yes, it is a silly phrase.

Surely it is just not done to park in front of someone's drive? I don't know anyone who would do that.

PhilCornwall1 · 27/08/2020 14:51

Surely it is just not done to park in front of someone's drive? I don't know anyone who would do that.

Only one that does it around here is the DPD delivery chap and he's faster than Usain Bolt at delivering stuff, so it's never a problem.

unmarkedbythat · 27/08/2020 14:58

this officious looking guy with a clipboard vists the house every fortnight so can only assume he's a social worker but then again not sure

Purely out of interest, what about that made you think 'social worker'? The regularity of visits? The clipboard? The looking 'officious'?

Anyway. Also a social worker, although not in the community any more. Listen to your instincts. There's a difference between "pissed off over parking" and "really feel creeped out by someone" and the latter is usually because of all the non verbal cues we pick up without realising that often do mean someone is a nasty piece of work. Not much you can do about it right now, but just being aware might mean you notice signs of a problem if there is one later on.

NB - this does not translate as "pick up the phone and report your neighbour for having a creepy weirdo partner", just in case anyone is preparing their spluttering response.

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