To ask what you love about having a son

[BoyOhBoyOhBoi]

So I recently found out we are expecting a baby boy and we are so excited!

My family is basically all girls, all baby cousins growing up were girls, all nieces etc... Are girls so I've never really been around or have much experience with baby boys!

I think because of my family I always had it in my head that I'd end up with a daughter but now I'm having a son (which is totally fine!).

Just wondering if some of you can share with me your experiences with having a baby boy and what you love about it? (and maybe even if there is anything you think I need to be extra prepared for!).

The only difference I'd say is with the nappy stuff. I've got my little girl who's boisterous, cheeky, strong willed, sharp as a tack and sweet/cuddly who's obsessed with tractors, dinosaurs and horses and who's favourite colour is currently blue (she's only 18 months at the moment so everything I've just said is subject to change every passing hour)

*ChaBishkoot

I have two sons. One is quite ‘feminine’, loves shopping and chatting to me and is nerdy and bookish. And then I have a wild one who loves cuddles and laughs at my absurd jokes (I mean you have to say the word ‘bottom’ to him and he collapses in laughter) and is perpetually in superhero mode. They love each other fiercely though. The younger one told me the other day, spontaneously (two hours after being reprimanded quite sternly for pulling his brother’s hair), ‘he’s not my brovver, he is my bestestest friend.’ And then thought for a moment and said: ‘I think I am a lucky boy.’*

DS2 was stillborn two weeks before DS1 turned one year old. This is exactly the sort of thing i used to dream of. You are the most gloriously lucky mummy in the world to have two wonderful boys with such a wonderful relationship

Brilliant for getting things off high shelves ...DSjust12 is now taller than me, and DS13 is rapidly approaching 6ft. Excellent huggers.

My DS is 4 and at this age I don’t think there’s really a huge amount of difference. Babies are babies so that part is all the same. Now he’s 4 and loves a range of toys from both ‘sections’/“/ he has dinosaurs, cars/trucks/trains but also loves doing tea parties with his tea set and has a dolly with a pushchair and a wooden dolls house. We watch CBeebies or Disney films, he loves cuddles, he loves colouring and crafts. On a shallow level I think ‘boys’ clothes are lovely and absolutely love shopping for his outfits.

I have a lovely son.
He's 23 now and still hugs me and tells me he loves me.
My sister says that he's her favourite as he is so loving, even though she's got two sons of her own (who are also lovely).
He's also tall. 6' to my 5'1" which is handy.
He loves a family day out as do I, so we spend time doing lovely things when we can.
He looks out for his younger sister, even though they pretend to not like each other.
Everyone likes him. He works at a supermarket and all the ladies of my age who work there tell me how lovely he is all the time.
It makes me feel very proud!

I have 3 sons, 16, 14 and 11 they all have different personalities but we all share the same sense of humour, they are great company and they were all there for me whilst I had treatment and surgery for breast cancer, I'm on my own with them. I'm open and honest with them and they are with me in a way I couldn't be with my mam. I love our closeness and of course the cuddles.

While I agree with other posters who have said there are lots of stereotyping in this thread, as a mum of a DD and a DS I will do as you have asked and just talk about him.

Like your family OP, my DS is the first boy born into my family for over 38 years!

My ds is 13 now. He was a much harder baby and had much more severe and frequent grant tantrums. Even now he seems much more emotionally 'dramatic' than my DD15 - often having big mood swings.
However I love the fact that he entertains himself and us never bored. He does creative writing, animation, designs Lego, loves Harry Potter (even though a lot of his friends think it's uncool), he's extremely funny and inventive, has no problem attracting friends and keeping them. He cooks, makes a great cup of tea and most interestingly, having dozens of female cousins, aunts and a sister .......knows exactly how girls/women behave and act and treats them well (so far! fingers crossed)

Enjoy him OP! You'll have a blast.

I've got a daughter and 2 sons. At baby/toddler age I wouldn't say there was any difference, except the boys had a propensity to wee in my face at nappy changes. As they got older they developed different interests and my DD got into stereotypically "girly" stuff which I found quite difficult sometimes as I am not like that, but I eventually learned to do hair and make up for dance competitions pretty skillfully til she could do it herself. I'm more at home doing bike maintenance with my younger son though. I am probably closest to him of the three but I think that's simply because we have the most similar interests and is nothing to do with sex.
You might have a "typical" boy or you might not. Its probably not worth thinking about too much at this stage really. I do some voluntary work with preschoolers and I see plenty of impulsive, boisterous girls, and a similar number of cautious and reserved boys, despite the stereotypical view being that that shouldn't be the case.

They wee all over the toilet seat.
They fiddle with their willies constantly.
They wee in your face as soon as their nappies are off.

The cuddles are great.

I don’t think there is much difference between the genders. It comes down to personality, my 2 boys are very different.

@DragonPie

They wee all over the toilet seat. They fiddle with their willies constantly. They wee in your face as soon as their nappies are off.

The cuddles are great.

literally the first thing my son did after he was born was wee on me

‘Can’t have mothers describing their sons as loving, affectionate, cuddly. Better issue a reminder that MEN ARE ABUSERS. And even better, give some examples of them starting off young’

But it’s ok for poster after poster to remind everyone that the girls they know ( some from the school playground are stroppy, manipulative, drama queens, lacking in affection etc?

We can describe the positive aspects of our sons in whatever way we like. As long as it doesn’t involve the words ‘Compared to the drama queens/stroppy madams’ stereotypes which SO MANY people feel the need to use.

Just STOP!

My son is so very very loving, excitable and affectionate! He showers me with kisses and tells me he loves me all day! He is 3!
He is also very strong willed and energetic! Never a dull moment

Congratulations x

'The damaging stereotypes are the ones applied to bitchy/hormonal/tantrum ridden/‘drama queens’

Does this apply to the stereotyping of ourselves?? Many on here (including me) are commenting on themselves as teenage girls. We are spot on as most of us do actually remember what we were like!

Awww my DS10 is just lovely he’s brave and funny and totally different to DD12 (although she is all of those things too) I think they are just different characters and into different things though rather than it being a boy/girl thing. Plus DS is my baby and still needs my help with things and likes me to put his clothes out and tuck him in at night, DD is very independent. I grew up with just my mum and sister and way more female relatives than male so it was lovely to have a son!!
Congratulations 😀

His squishyness. His random belly laughs at things you would never think are funny but become hilarious once you see his reaction. Constant hugs, kisses, nuzzles and "I wuv you mummy". He's 3 and the sweetest, most precious little thing in the world to me. Even his tantrums are funny as his grumpy little face just kills me.

No drama!

I love my son to bits. It’s awful to say but I do think a lot of mums find sons easier than daughters. My son is so easy going and he was a giggly baby so calm and happy. He’s had his issues at school at times but is overall such a good kid and now lovely young man.

The problem with threads like these is that while it wasn't your intention, inevitably some people will reply with sexist generalisations and stereotypes, which they have done. It's very annoying.

I have a son and all the things I love about him are down to his personality and not the fact that he's a boy.

I suppose one advantage of having a son is that you don't have to worry quite so much about them when it comes to sexism, sex discrimination, domestic abuse and sexual violence - because while men and boys can still be victims of the latter two, the risk is lower for them than it is for women and girls.

I do feel that as the mother of a son, I have an important responsibility to teach him to recognise, talk about and manage emotions, to be respectful and caring towards others, to understand that housework and parenting are an equal responsibility for men and women, to learn how to do age-appropriate chores and eventually be independent, and to understand the vital importance of consent in relationships.

No mean feat

I am also expecting a daughter and my main priorities in parenting her will be to foster a strong sense of self-esteem and assertiveness, to feel confident enough to resist strong pressures to look a certain way and to please boys and men, and to support her as she grows up in a patriarchal world.

So a whole different set of challenges, I think.

So it sounds like I'm going to be pee'd on A LOT!

I do feel that as the mother of a son, I have an important responsibility to teach him to recognise, talk about and manage emotions, to be respectful and caring towards others, to understand that housework and parenting are an equal responsibility for men and women, to learn how to do age-appropriate chores and eventually be independent, and to understand the vital importance of consent in relationships.

I absolutely agree with this wholeheartedly.

@BoyOhBoyOhBoi

So it sounds like I'm going to be pee'd on A LOT!

My advice here, not relevant now, but, don't get new carpet before you potty train

I don't really think there's much difference all children have different personalities. I am glad I haven't had to endure frozen or Disney princesses!

I love this thread.

For some unknown reason, I was really keen to have a girl - I felt a girl would be more communicative as they got older & we would be closer somehow.

My little boy is still tiny, but my goodness he is the love of my life, cuddly, affectionate, stubborn - I have fallen in love with his personality. I have realised it's all dependant on the individual child & it's been the joy of my life getting to know him x

My DS (first born) is 16 now and he is still very affectionate. As a young child he was very much the stereotypical boy, into football, cars etc. He is still sporty. He was hard work as a toddler because he used to completely trash the place! He definitely mellowed with age and is lovely now :)

I hate the fact that some people have made some hideous comments about girls. I wonder if some of them are just salty that they never had one?

My DD is my second child and she is extremely loving, kind, low maintenance, no drama. I don't know what sort of girls some people have come across but can honestly say my 14 years old is not like them!