To ask what you love about having a son

[BoyOhBoyOhBoi]

So I recently found out we are expecting a baby boy and we are so excited!

My family is basically all girls, all baby cousins growing up were girls, all nieces etc... Are girls so I've never really been around or have much experience with baby boys!

I think because of my family I always had it in my head that I'd end up with a daughter but now I'm having a son (which is totally fine!).

Just wondering if some of you can share with me your experiences with having a baby boy and what you love about it? (and maybe even if there is anything you think I need to be extra prepared for!).

Oh and the amount they eat is incredible. The phrase 'boys have hollow legs' applies to both of mine!

@Rainonplain

I love that he is exactly the same as his sister. Babies are babies, kids are kids.

This, try not to pre-judge what your boy will be like.

All the boys in our family are different. Some are shouty some are quiet. Some like knitting some like trucks.

Hopefully your ds will be as nice as mine

I've got 3 ds and although wanted a girl now wouldn't change it. Specific things I like is all mine our outdoorsy, very active, love climbing trees, doing stunts on their bikes etc. My eldest wasn't cuddly but the second two are! Ds2 is extremely sweet and loving. But again this illustrates it's more about personalities than gender. With my eldest I actually have to put his arms around me to get a cuddle from him! And he's always just been not cuddly. So can't guarantee a cuddly boy lol... 1st one loves rude jokes etc. Like above poster says. It can be fun to indulge your inner child and join in with all that. I agree with PPs the main difference I can see is I can just communicate with them directly, there's not so much sensitivity in communications so that makes life easier id say. They fall out at times but make up quickly too. Enjoy your lovely baby boy ! I'm sure you'll love having a boy x

I have a boy and two girls (youngest girl is just a baby) and absolutely agree that it’s their personalities and temperament that makes them different not their sex. This is especially true at the beginning when there is less social conditioning from peers and society. Older DD loves unicorns, reading and craft etc but is also crazy for rough housing and extremely boisterous. She’s aB enthusiastic whirlwind, full of big fleeting emotions but incapable of holding a grudge. DS loves vehicles, no interest in craft, likes numbers not reading so much. He’s more cautious physically and socially but also likes to rough house a bit. He is a calmer personality generally but has a stubborn streak and a long memory.

Baby dd is a baby. Smiley, happy and effectively genderless. The fewer expectations you can have about who your baby will be the more freedom you’ll give them to be their true selves. I really believe that even seemingly harmless gender stereotyping limits children’s ability to be truly seen and appreciated for who they are.

In our experience, agree with all of the comments about affection. Our son was/is (pretty much grown now) much more demonstrably affectionate than his older sister. The teenage drama was off the scale with our daughter, you’d hardly know our son is here sometimes. He’s much more of a home bod too. We often began to forget what our teenaged daughter looked like when her social life took off! That said, she was successfully independent at a young age and has a great life now. Looks like our son will be here for years to come (which has its pluses and minuses 😁 though to be fair this awful current situation is well and truly scuppering his plans).

Funny, they’re both very different but also alike in so many ways. Lovely young people.

Enjoy your family 😊

I have 4 Ds. They still need hugs. Banter. You can turn hugs into banter and they don’t realise they are being hugged.

They may get taller than you. Be prepared for that!

They get obsessed with looking good/designer labels or they may not. One son doesn’t care, one son likes his Adidas!
They may be into smart haircuts (cheaper) or they may have long curly hair that you won’t be able to touch unless certain conditions are met (food, PlayStation credit !)

I’ve got both and my son is the most loving in a demonstrative way than the girls but that could just be him. Congratulations 🥳

I have 2 boys and a girl. The younger two are a year apart. My boys are definitely more cuddly. Cuddling my daughter is like cuddling a tree trunk, she’s always been very aloof!

My son is tidier but doesn’t shower much, my daughter is cleaner but is messy. She’s more mature than him and I trust her out With friends. I don’t trust him, he tells silly lies and is easily led. She has way more friend drama and takes it to heart.

I don't have any girls so it's hard to compare. Also my two boys are so different. My older one has the character of a cat and the younger one is more like a dog in human form (all the more so currently because he is obsessed with Paw Patrol, so often pretends to be one!). They are both absolutely lovely though. I think there is less of a practical difference these days too. Both of our boys, and the little girls we know, tend to like a mixture of things that would traditionally have been seen as male things and female things. I think that is more usual these days than when I was a child in the seventies, when a young boy in purple sandals playing with dolls or a little girl in a football outfit playing with toy construction vehicles might have been unusual unless they had an older sibling of the opposite sex.

Before we had children, we thought that one of each would be the best outcome but from the day I found out I was pregnant with the second one, we both wanted another boy. I always loved seeing parents with two little boys playing or chatting together. As they grow older, I quite like being the only female in the family too. I'm not sure why, though.

I recently noticed that school uniform was easier to buy online; when you filter to boy uniform items there is only about a quarter of the full list left so much easier to find what you want. Not sure if that's a selling point particularly!

I thought i wanted a girl until I had boys - other than being generally fab and making us smile all the time little boy clothes are so adorable - I could spend a fortune!

Sense of humour.
Very affectionate.
They don't strop or sulk for long.
They are just such fun!

I have 2 boys. Now both in their 20s. Grown into lovely young men who love their mum!

I was worried about having a boy too op. I already had a girl and was convinced he was going to be a girl too. When they told me, my first thought was 'but I don't know how to deal with boys!'
Well, he's amazing! He's now 7 and so loving, so much more than dd was, always saying he loves us, always wanting cuddles. I love it!
He Just gets on with things, he's happy to play on his own, whereas dd wanted more one to one playtime.
Now he's older, everything's a race ("I'll race you to the slide", "I'll race you to the car").
Oh and the bloody poo jokes!! No idea where that's come from, his friends are the same!
I love dd and ds the same, they are so different but both so awesome.

I only have one child, a nearly 3 year old boy. I was sure I would have a girl and felt a bit discombobulated at first - I’m female, I grew up in a female dominated household. But I absolutely love getting to know this wee boy. Physically he is like a cutting from his dad and it’s so funny to see this tiny wee man running about.

Massive disclaimer here because I know girls play with cars too but I tend to notice when they’re among their peers they veer more towards what others are doing, playing more with dolls and fairies etc. I actually much prefer playing with cars 🙈

I have two boys and they are ADORABLE!!!

They are total mummy’s boys and they never stop cuddling and kissing me and telling me they love me. They want to be near me all the time and they are so affectionate.

Obviously never having had a daughter I do not know if there are any behaviour traits that separate baby boys from baby girls.

I also love the fact that they both look like their dad and it makes my heart melt seeing little versions of him running around the house.

And I love seeing my husband with them, rough and tumbling, chasing each other, going on adventures together, getting wet and messy etc all things that I don’t think he would do with daughters.

They also go to the football and rugby together and play Golf - and I love it that they have something special just between them. My husband also takes the boys on holidays without me (when I can’t get time off work) and again, it’s something I don’t think he’d do if we had daughters.

This may be starting to sound sexist...

In a nutshell I adore having boys because of how loving and affectionate they are to me but also because I love seeing the father/son relationship they have with my husband.

I have one of each and they are both wonderful. Compared to my DD my son is so uncomplicated. No dramas with friends, diva behaviour, taking things too personally. Boys seem to be more straightforward from my observations of my DS and his friends.

I quite like being the only female in the family too. I'm not sure why, though.

And me!!

My username pretty much describes our household

I love having a boy! I was so excited when I found out and he's nearly 10 now and I just love it. He's so loving, cuddles for an hour before bed every night, we watch Pokemon together and do the walks, I take him football training.

Honestly girls are probably the same but I just love having a little boy

I always wanted a boy. My 4yr old son has bought me indescribable amounts of joy and every day he amazes me. He is loving, funny and beautiful. I honestly believe there is no comparable relationship to a mother and sons, truly.

All boys are different, all children are different. Going by my son son who is now 12 we have always had an extremely close mother child bond. He rarely gives me a moments trouble and is very loving and cuddly. He is a peacemaker among his friends. But all children are different this is just based on my own son, as we approach teen years I suspect things might change.

I've two of each. There are all lovable individuals, but with my sons, I've had my expectations challenged far more often and I've loved that. Not so much when they're babies, then it's all working with the personalities and abilities, but as they grew older, seeing them take on how the world challenges them and learning by supporting them through that has been lovely if heartbreaking at times.

I know some men get shite when they say the opposite, but I've had my eyes opened to a lot of things boys go through that I'd never considered before because I was raised to think boys are more highly valued and therefore have it so easy comparatively. I envied my brother a lot - now I see things with more context, he was under a lot of pressure and ended up discarded for not matching his gender roles just as I was. I thought my sons would have it so much easier than their sisters, but it's same shite with a different context - having the problems dismissed and having low academic expectations of them because of their sex or for their size, struggling to be a 'cool guy' and frustrated at how others try to limit how they can be because of their sex, having people make up horrible lies about my teen son and then excuse it with his size and sex (We had to hear 'but he's so tall/but he's a big lad/you know how boys are' so many times from parents who thought their kids stories of fighting him were true, even when really obviously not - like when they claimed it happened during a school day at a school my son didn't attend), having grown women mess with my teen son and laugh off when he gets upset, and so on.

I have 2 boys and a girl. I love my girl to bits but I couldn’t have more than 1 of them. My boys are amazing too, cuddly, kind, far easier as teens and much less expensive than my girl,

My two boys are much older now ( 20s) but it was nice having boys as you didn't get any of that bitchiness you get with girls growing up and I didn't have to go shopping with them much or spa days!
It wasn't always easy with ds2 as a baby , but we get on well now and quite close. We have similar views and like a chat and his just a nice person. Ds1 is quiet but his mellowed out too from being a horrible teenager! It's had its ups and downs but mostly been ok,

People will say all kinds of things but babies just need love and guidance and time to thrive whatever sex they are really.
I would have liked a girl back then but I got over it. (Only because one of each seems to be what people expect you to have .. )

I’m loving this thread so much!!

It’s so nice for sons/boys to be spoken about with such love

I have 1DD and 2DS. They're all very different but in general terms I would agree with the other posters by boys love cuddles more that my DD ever did and are very loyal to me. I have also found them - at a young age I suspect it will change - to be more straightforward emotionally - they're happy or sad - and they are also
Much more high energy than their sister.

I was certain it would be the same but have been genuinely shocked by the tantrums and trauma that has beset most of the girls in DS1’s class at school (he’s 7). There has been a lot of falling out followed by over the top making up and it’s resonated up to the parents. The boys have, on the whole, not had any of the wholesale drama (yet?). Although DS1 does report that ‘X is too rough in the playground so we avoid him’ and I suspect has a smaller circle of friends than the girls do (same ones now since reception).