What is this obsession with coffee???

[QueenofmyPrinces]

MN seems to be obsessed with coffee....

Someone wants to meet up with friends....they are advised on MN to go for a coffee.

If someone is meeting a guy for a daytime date....MN suggests they go for a coffee.

If someone wants to ask a guy out but is shy....MN suggest she gently ask him out for a coffee.

I just don’t get it. Does nobody drink tea anymore?

In fact, the only time I see a cup of tea being suggested is if someone is in shock or very upset about something that has just happened....they are told to try and calm down and have a very sugary tea.

Every time I read a thread and see coffee as being the ‘drink of choice’ I feel inner rage

In case you hadn’t realised, I am an avid tea drinker and I can’t even bear the smell of coffee, never mind entertain the idea of ever actually drinking it

YABU : yes coffee is always mentioned on here but that’s because it should be the drink of choice.

YANBU - I have no idea why coffee is always suggested and it seems very unfair to simply brush aside the good old English cup of tea

I don’t drink coffee, but I would suggest meeting ‘for a coffee’ as a date or catch up with friends. I think because you go to a coffee shop 🤷🏻‍♀️ If we were meeting in someone’s house though, I would say ‘come round for a brew/cuppa’.

I disagree and think both tea and coffee are absolutely awful. Except maybe for a fresh mint tea

I think coffee is now used because places like Costa and Starbucks suddenly appeared in every rest place and high street and they are predominantly known for serving coffee.

Personally I am completely obsessed with the flavoured coffees you can buy in Lidl. I spend far too much time sniffing them. Divine.

'Go for a hot beverage' reminds me of Sheldon from Big Bang Theory

I can’t vote as I don’t agree with either statement. I don’t think there is any superiority to coffee over any other drink and I do understand why people say it and am by no means dismayed if anyone orders tea having suggested going for coffee.
If someone suggests going for a drink, I take that to mean alcohol. But a soft drink would be perfectly acceptable!
To me, suggesting going out for tea would either be tea with cake and sandwiches or a light evening meal (something less than dinner).

Of all my friends and family (of which there are lots) only one of them drinks coffee, for the rest of us it’s a cup of tea all the way .

Surely saying “let’s go for a coffee” is only something you’d say to someone that you know actually drinks coffee?

If I said to one of my friends/family, “Let’s go for a coffee” they would think I was mad

I think MN is rife with coffee drinkers who socialise with other coffee drinkers

If you are a tea drinker (as I am) be warned that Dave Gorman is on our side but that this may trigger you....

I can’t understand why this grates with you OP? It’s a turn of phrase.

Tea > coffee

Beer > any other drink, in all the situations you mentioned

How far back would you have to go before coffee wasn't 'a thing'. When I was in P1 my mum used to collect me from school, and one day a week we'd walk into town and she'd do the grocery shopping (she couldn't drive). Then because heaving all that stuff around was tiring, we'd go to her favourite café for a coffee. Not a coffee for me obviously, as I was 5! Fond memories. Anyway, that's 40 years ago, so going for a coffee isn't modern behaviour.

Because "hey good looking, how about you and I go and grab a hot beverage?" Or "would you like to meet up for a cup of tea some time?" doesn't have the same ring to it.

They’d have more luck with me saying that than asking if I wanted to go for a coffee

I don't go to cafes but I'm just about to go for a coffee at my friends house. I often do when I'm off work. I love coffee though and black decaf is good for the old liver too.

If DH is invited for a coffee he'll have tea.

Surely saying “let’s go for a coffee” is only something you’d say to someone that you know actually drinks coffee?

No. Your average person who does not have some weird issues with coffee and coffee drinkers knows perfectly well what it means.

I can’t understand why this grates with you OP? It’s a turn of phrase

A lot of phrases grate on me.....this one is right up there with “get your ducks in a row”

I love coffee

I loathe and despise coffee and the whole "coffee culture" bollocks annoys the hell out of me (possibly irrationally), but I would still suggest meeting for a coffee.

Also, in my younger single days I might invite someone in "for a coffee" but the Nescafé rarely made it out of the cupboard

Never move to Italy OP, there are rules.

Many people drink coffee. It is not some strange niche MN obsession that you think it is. It isn't new.

Does anyone here remember Camp Coffee?

The liquid alternative to making coffee as opposed to using coffee granules??

My mom used to have Camp and I loved making her cups of coffee with it. It was so think and goopy....

I meet my friend regularly "for a coffee". She doesn't drink coffee at all and usually has Earl Grey. But saying "shall we meet for a coffee" is quicker than saying/texting

"Shall I meet you at the cafe where you can have tea and I can have coffee"?

"Meeting for a drink" implies evenings and bars, not a quick hot drink after dropping the kids at school. "Hot beverage" is something which only Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory says.

I asked my colleagues at work if they wanted a Temperance Beverage. They looked at me completely gone out. So I had to explain the origin of the phrase and the temperance movement.
One of them patted me on the shoulder and said "every ward needs a Vicky"

@QueenofmyPrinces

Does anyone here remember Camp Coffee?

The liquid alternative to making coffee as opposed to using coffee granules??

My mom used to have Camp and I loved making her cups of coffee with it. It was so think and goopy....

My mum used to use it for making coffee cake. Although I don't remember her actually using it for drinking.

It made good coffee cake though.

It’s because ‘going for a coffee’ doesn’t mean actually going to have coffee with someone, it means just getting together and hanging out.

I had a couple of friends round to my garden for afternòon tea on my birthday.

I hate tea, always drink coffee as a hot drink, yet ordered a whole meal called the wrong name, as far as I am concerned.

Afternoon tea is the larger equivalent of going for a coffee. Neither event implies the particular beverage of its name.

Coffee you say?

I meet my friend regularly "for a coffee". She doesn't drink coffee at all and usually has Earl Grey. But saying "shall we meet for a coffee" is quicker than saying/texting "Shall I meet you at the cafe where you can have tea and I can have coffee"?

And I genuinely get that, I just don’t understand why coffee is always the drink that is used?

Why not, shall we meet up for a cup of tea?