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Original poster

To be bitter about DH buying a new phone?

72 replies

Stackys · 26/08/2020 07:31

DH likes cooking. He gets all his recipes from either cooking programs or the internet.

Last night he was looking for a recipe on his phone when he suddenly screamed “fuck off” and threw his phone at the wall. Obviously i assumed he’d received a bad text but no turns out he was annoyed by a recipe.

Anyway long story short an hour later he was looking up deals for a new iPhone. He likes to have the latest iPhone and has since they came out. We Agreed to stick with our current phones for a while (iPhone x I believe) so I’m sure he’s done this on purpose to get a new phone. I told him I was annoyed and think he’s being a brat, he says I’m being controlling. AIBU to think chucking a phone at a wall because a recipe is written in a way you don’t like is bloody ridiculous?

OP posts:
timeisnotaline · 26/08/2020 07:34

You’re not being controlling but I can’t tell if this post is lighthearted or not!

Ifailed · 26/08/2020 07:36

Do you live in Alaska - I understand that you can marry there at 14 with parental permission?

Original poster
Stackys · 26/08/2020 07:50

So it’s me bring unreasonable?

OP posts:
Nonotthisagain · 26/08/2020 07:50

Well it does sound tricky bratty. I'd be pretty damn cross considering the price of a latest iPhone.

Original poster
Stackys · 26/08/2020 07:51

*being

OP posts:
SuperCaliFragalistic · 26/08/2020 07:51

You are both BU.

Nonotthisagain · 26/08/2020 07:51

Pretty bratty! Damn phone. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.

HugeAckmansWife · 26/08/2020 07:54

Is it family money or his money? If its his money and he's not going to then leech on you because he's skint, then he's a twat but up to him. If your finances are joint then no way would I be happy with a purchase like that because he behaved like a toddler. When my 10 yo threw his condole controller on the floor in a temper I did not go out and buy him a better one.

Notyouraveragecliche · 26/08/2020 07:54

Sounds really immature. I get it, sometimes we get annoyed but if start breaking things everytime something frustrating happens, you can't expect everything to be replaced.

You're not being unreasonable

Coffeeandcrumpet · 26/08/2020 07:54

Sounds like he needs to spend the money on anger management rather than a new phone. No he is being a dick!

ReceptacleForTheRespectable · 26/08/2020 07:55

What kind of adult smashes their own property because of a recipe? Yanbu - its bratty.

I would helpfully offer to take his old phone to the repair shop for him, as it will likely be repairable. It's the environmentally sound thing to do, even if he'd rather have the shiny new thing.

juls1888 · 26/08/2020 07:55

He sounds like he's 5 years old, scuffing his school shoes to get new ones 🤦🏼‍♀️ Were you afraid when he behaved like that? Was it out of character? I'd be horrified if my DH started that carry on and wonder if he had a head injury or something.

But I would ask myself why he felt he needed to put on that pantomime rather than just buy a new phone or chat to you and say he had changed his mind and really wanted the new phone?

So a bit of both for me, or more detail needed really.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 26/08/2020 07:56

Phone insurance next time?
Tbh he’s a grown man, if he wants to buy a new phone does he need to resort to breaking another?!

Coffeecak3 · 26/08/2020 07:57

People who deliberately break expensive items are generally lacking in some way.
As he deliberately broke his phone he should have yours and you should have a new one!

grool · 26/08/2020 07:58

He had a tantrum over a recipe, and threw his phone against the wall?! Shock

Does he always lose his temper so easily?! I wouldn't be happy if it was money from a joint point that was shelling out for a brand new iphone (they are ridiculously expensive!)

If he is paying for it with his own money he can waste it on whatever he wants, but if its joint money I'd suggest he get a cheap phone until he can learn to control his temper and stop acting like a toddler.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 26/08/2020 08:03

My son used to throw tech in frustration, because he was about 10 and has autism and ADHD. We didn't put up with it. So like fuck I would in an adult.

YenneferOfBattenberg · 26/08/2020 08:03

Damn phone.

Chuck it at the wall and get a new one!

OP YANBU he sounds either unhinged or manipulative.

Although depending on how he is intending to fund a new phone you may be unreasonable to stop him. Depends if his new phone will impact on your joint/family finances.

BertieBotts · 26/08/2020 08:05

WTF? He sounds violently unhinged!

GarlicSoup · 26/08/2020 08:08

Are you married to Gordon Ramsay?

SarahBellam · 26/08/2020 08:09

Your husband is a dick. A 10 year old dick.

MoreListeningLessChatting · 26/08/2020 08:13

WOW

Teenagers allowed on MN's whatever next

GinDrinker00 · 26/08/2020 08:13

I’d get him a £10 indestructible Nokia for that sort of behaviour. Tell him he can have a decent phone when he grows up and can look after things.
Going to act like a child, treat him like one. YANBU.

RedskyAtnight · 26/08/2020 08:15

Can you (as a family) afford to buy DH a new phone? That's the question really. If you can't, then he will have to make do with the cheapest of cheap things until you can.

There are lots of posts from MN from people who get annoyed and throw things in frustration. They are always told not to worry, everyone gets annoyed sometimes and move on with their life. If DH is constantly angry and throwing things, clearly this is a problem, but on this one snapshot we have no idea whether this is the case or whether he'd just had a bad day and not being able to follow the recipe (assuming) was the final straw.

user1473878824 · 26/08/2020 08:16

What I find weird - apart from all of it I mean - why would it be fine for him to throw his phone at a wall and scream fuck off if he got a “bad” text?

Rebelwithallthecause · 26/08/2020 08:18

I wouldn’t be putting up with anyone with such a short fuse as to throw their phone in anger

If it was a child you would be telling them tough luck, learn the lesson about not breaking personal items