To be bitter about DH buying a new phone?

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DH likes cooking. He gets all his recipes from either cooking programs or the internet.

Last night he was looking for a recipe on his phone when he suddenly screamed “fuck off” and threw his phone at the wall. Obviously i assumed he’d received a bad text but no turns out he was annoyed by a recipe.

Anyway long story short an hour later he was looking up deals for a new iPhone. He likes to have the latest iPhone and has since they came out. We Agreed to stick with our current phones for a while (iPhone x I believe) so I’m sure he’s done this on purpose to get a new phone. I told him I was annoyed and think he’s being a brat, he says I’m being controlling. AIBU to think chucking a phone at a wall because a recipe is written in a way you don’t like is bloody ridiculous?

@user1473878824

What I find weird - apart from all of it I mean - why would it be fine for him to throw his phone at a wall and scream fuck off if he got a “bad” text?

Yeah, this. The rest of it is fairly unimportant when compared to the fact you seem to think this is, in any way, a normal reaction

As PPs say - this is less than ideal behaviour and this is a snapshot.

Perhaps suggest that he buys a previous model rather than upgrade? There are some reasonable deals for an iPhone 6.

Last night he was looking for a recipe on his phone when he suddenly screamed “fuck off” and threw his phone at the wall

Sounds like a scenario I play over in my head 100 times a day. Except I don’t have a fancy iPhone and would have to buy a shitty replacement from music magpie.

Have him fund his new phone himself. No way would I be allowing hundreds from joint money to pay for this.

Haha, he sounds a complete prat.

Did he damage the paint/wallpaper?

@GarlicSoup

I think YABU for staying with him. He sounds like a toddler.

He sounds a bit of a twat. Don't really get people who feel the need to break or throw things when frustrated. Plus, new a iPhone are not cheap and if money was coming out the joint account I would be pissed off. Buy him an old Nokia for Christmas, those things are indestructible.

Phone insurance next time

Yes, because phone insurance companies are falling over themselves to replace phones deliberately damaged by manchildren unable to control their temper.

Agree that if he has personal money (ie after all family expenses and savings are covered and you get an equal amount) to buy an iPhone that's up to him, but otherwise, he can have a cheap replacement and a decent case as he clearly can't be trusted with nice things.

He could have sold his phone on fb if he wanted a new one.

Has he always been like this? We know someone like this and he’s on his last warning at work because of it.

If he is funding it with family finances he's definitely out of order.

But even if he's funding it himself he's out of order. A grown man who cannot say honestly "I'd like this new phone and I have £X set aside to buy one so I'll just order one" and resorts to smashing things instead is a pretty poor specimen of adulthood imo.

Well he was a bit of a dick but he wants a new phone and probably feels like you’ll be pissed off about it.

I couldn’t be with someone who behaved like that. How ridiculous!

@Coffeeandcrumpet

Sounds like he needs to spend the money on anger management rather than a new phone. No he is being a dick!

Absolutely. Why on earth should the way a recipe is written make him have a tantrum more suited to a 13 yr old?

If he likes the latest phone, and can afford it, upgrade- but sell the 'old' one on- I have a massive old iPhone 6 Plus given by an upgrading family member 🙂

Bizarre story.

@user1473878824

What I find weird - apart from all of it I mean - why would it be fine for him to throw his phone at a wall and scream fuck off if he got a “bad” text?

Agree with this!

It's never a normal thing to do, for an adult.

@EmbarrassingAdmissions

As PPs say - this is less than ideal behaviour and this is a snapshot.

Perhaps suggest that he buys a previous model rather than upgrade? There are some reasonable deals for an iPhone 6.

I have one of these- very happy with it, even the vast size- but I suspect the OP's partner is after something much newer 🤔

Is this real

He sounds mental

If you have a credit card some of them randomly come with phone insurance - check your docs

@BarbaraofSeville

Phone insurance next time

Yes, because phone insurance companies are falling over themselves to replace phones deliberately damaged by manchildren unable to control their temper.

Agree that if he has personal money (ie after all family expenses and savings are covered and you get an equal amount) to buy an iPhone that's up to him, but otherwise, he can have a cheap replacement and a decent case as he clearly can't be trusted with nice things.

Most people wouldn't tell the company they threw it... they would say they dropped it

He sounds like he's 5 years old, scuffing his school shoes to get new ones

Yep. Is he 5? I'd be careful allowing him near the cooker unsupervised tbh

@CorianderLord

If you have a credit card some of them randomly come with phone insurance - check your docs

Insurance to cover deliberate damage?

He sounds like a toddler having a tantrum.

If you have a credit card some of them randomly come with phone insurance - check your docs

Except the insurer would never pay out, as the damage was caused deliberately.

Unless you're suggesting the OP/her DH commit fraud?

Most people wouldn't tell the company they threw it... they would say they dropped it

...which is fraud.